Men using Mumsnet

I must admit, it's a bit of a guilty pleasure of mine to see the MRA cohort pop up with their invented scenarios and inane contributions, and watch them completely obliterated by the intelligent and witty women who challenge them. Its a bit like watching a gang of tigers tear up a wet lettuce.

I use this name when it's relevant that I'm male, or for the few topics where people vaguely know me. I name-change to something neutral for general chit-chat/advice threads. When I said that the last time this thread topic arose, I was accused of being sneaky or secretive. 👀

You have probably spoken to a lot of men on here without knowing (although lots do like to say ‘man here’).

I don’t care if you are male or female or whether you have children or not. I’m

Indeed. A very common comment here is how the poster hates all kids other than their own. But those parents are never deemed ‘haters’…

And even on those threads some of the parents tend to be far ruder about the kids than childfree posters are

I'm not at all baffled by non mums on mumsnet

We have loads of sections and topics that are nothing to do with being a mother

You know I was thinking about that the other day with Iceland, I'm baffled why do non Icelandic people shop at Iceland or people who don't wear boots shop at boots.

maybe I should go to these strange places then if non mums use mumsnet 😂

No it tends to be the control your kids in restaurants and supermarkets in AIBU that a childless person would comment on.
I doubt very much they are going on a nappy changing or weaning thread

Very telling that a thread about men on MN turned so quickly into a 'bash the childfree' thread. Are there really CF folk turning up to post on threads about weaning etc.? I wouldn't know because, being CF, I don't go on them.

Men, like women, can go on any site they want to. No public form is ever a safe space.

There’s always been a very vocal and hostile cohort who think us childfree have nothing to offer here and no business here. They usually reveal themselves early on in their ranting by posting “but it’s called MUMSnet” as if that is the ultimate mic-drop comment.

I do wonder about them at times- are they stupid and lacking in imagination, is it that they can’t see that the vast bulk of this site has fuck all to do with parenting, or are they unhappy and dissatisfied with how their lives have panned out and therefore resent those of us who chose different paths in life? Some are clearly very threatened by our mere existence and wish to hunt us off the site.

Me too!

I suspect some posters are upset about it but just aren't posting to say so. Others will just be rolling their eyes and thinking, "that's someone to ignore." And many more probably won't have seen this thread anyway.

I usually find scrolling past and ignoring is a better use of my time than responding to posters whose mindset is clearly far apart from mine.

Oh...I've been reading it as cheeky fucker and it's not been making much sense🤔😕

Got it now, thanks for the tip Underpants! 😆

This.

As well as the myriad of other reasons.

Some of the posts on here are offensive, I will include mine in that, I was riled by the self absorbed smugness.

You can't control who uses the internet can you?

No, but you can bet they want to.

I used to be here for parenting advice but now it's more education and relationships.

Men are welcome as long as they don't patronise others.

Some child-free Mn are not child-free by choice.

You can't control who uses the internet can you?

I'm amazed that posters who are child-free are not (rightly) upset & annoyed by the number of posts saying they've no right to be on MN.

How offensive.

Anyone is welcome here. And to contribute to any thread. It obviously is preferable if any poster at least has some meaningful contribution to make, regardless of their sex or personal situation.

rainydaysandwednesdays
If we are banning men, I'd also like to ban the hard left wing, blue haired, tattoo brigade who have no intention of ever being a Mum.

What about right wing, no tattoos, brown haired brigade who have no intention of ever being a mum

@kitsuneghost they're ok, they're not offended over absolutely everything. They don't use the word cunt in every sentence and don't appear on every thread telling women they're being abused and they should DIVORCE YESTERDAY over a mild grievance.

there is lots of other things to talk about on here though, personally my children are proper adults with mortgages and spouses, ive no interest in talking about slings or schools does that mean i shouldnt use the forums?

I'm slightly baffled by the people on here who don't have children.

Are you also surprised by analogue people who don't work in the espionage services who frequent Digital Spy?!

Or people who do in fact have human heads on piston heads

In fact I would go as far as to say the whole point of the money saving experts site is that in fact many of the posters are not experts at saving money, otherwise that forum would be wholly pointless

🤣. I can see that now

"Handmaiden which is always used as an insult against women, is 100% sexist."

No it's not. It is a very specific pattern of behaviour which is exclusive to women-by definition. Men cannot-also by definition- be handmaidens.

Are you also surprised by analogue people who don't work in the espionage services who frequent Digital Spy?!

I'm slightly baffled by the people on here who don't have children.

Why? Most of the boards aren’t even about having children.

Really, perhaps you can answer the question that's been asked many times but only one poster has ever been able to answer then?

If someone comes for the conception board, joins in with the "is this a line" thread, asks people about their nub theories for their baby, but then goes on to have a miscarriage or a stillbirth, exactly how soon after that happens are they supposed to de register?

Or is it okay if they hang around and talk about TV shows and books?

Because I'm always baffled by the posters who see the conception and the infertility boards and think that there won't be posters on here without children. Especially when so many of them joined when pregnant so didn't even have children themselves