Men using Mumsnet

Most topics are for anyone to contribute to regardless of sex. Does it matter who posts on the travel board or the ones about tv, gardening, pets, property etc.
If you have a respectful opinion and don't abuse anyone than as far as I can see it's ok whoever posts.

you answer your own questions as to why they don’t.

So the teeny tiny minority that do wish to - join mumsnet as nothing specific for them due to lack of demand

@LeonieSN93 childfree MNetters don't come with a big red warning label.

You've probably had just as much meaningful advice from them without knowing they're childfree.

The same as the OP has probably had many a meaningful chat with men on here without knowing, because it's irrelevant.

YANBU - I've noticed the same thing and as you say it perplexes me that they can't create/contribute to their own forums. Out of curiosity I went over to Dadsnet to see what it's like and it's abysmal: hardly any posts, terribly organised and very little interaction so I suppose it's easier for them to come here and benefit from the higher quality of site.

In what world could an open Internet forum ever be considered a safe space?

It depends what you mean by safe. I think it's only relatively recently that 'safe' started meaning 'protected from encountering opinions or comments you might find hurtful or offensive', rather than 'dangerous to life and limb'. Nobody has the guaranteed right never to encounter offence, anywhere. You choose what you post on here, and how 'outing' your posts are, you choose which threads to click on.

I agree with this woman do take it to far on here sometimes with man bashing.
Never wrong they have to be right no matter what.
And my safe place in my home not online.
Ive seen some post and think your the problem not your husband or partner.

Different boards on MN have very different feels. I feel really at home in support threads for DCs' cohorts and activities, and on the HE/FE discussions. Maybe the intrusive style of men's posts is more offensive on some other topics? But as this is AIBU, and I was met with a deletion message when I tried to see a tagged reply just now on this thread, I assume that it's already starting to turn nasty. 🙁

I don't care who is women or men but I am sick of the double standard men are the enemy and women are saints who can't do anything wrong
This is exactly right.
I have just been reading a thread and advice was given on how to sneakily get dh's device and how to view deleted files. The dh has done nothing wrong! If it was the other way round people would be telling the op to LTB and that he was controlling!

You could start your own women-only forum, but how would you actually stop men posting?

It's been ages since someone was dim enough to state they thought a public internet forum was a 'safe space'.

<< Feels nostalgic >>

i started a light-hearted thread about parenting just a few days ago. The people who responded did so in the spirit it was intended (a bit of a giggle).

Then one person came along saying 'this is why I don't have children, I have wonderful weekends, did you not meet parents before deciding upon kids'. Basically being very sarcastic and disparaging.

Absolutely ridiculous to write something like that on a forum called 'mums-net'. Like what are you doing here then? The mind boggles!

A well intentioned man seeking relationship/parenting advice is far less annoying than someone who has actively decided not to have children but decides to join a parenting forum to spread their superiority!

do you really think a internet chat forum is a safe space ? you never know who you are talking to on anon forums.and why shouldnt dads/men post ?

I also wonder if there was situation the same and we had all women talk of it then men

'I lent my neighbour a spanner and still waiting on its return'

Men - 'go get it', ok job done

Women 'oh I cant they will judge me','

'you are being so inconsiderate maybe they have some issues and the man is having an affair with the Librarian and he is going to run off to Ibiza and marry his cousin and her fancy toolbox '

'But won't you think of the spanner it has feelings and doesn't need to be put down'

'won't you think of the spanner children'

Threads like this put me off registering for a long time, so I only read threads that were relevant to me. I eventually signed up because I had a question and people were helpful and nice despite me being a man. I think it’s tiring to see these types of threads and I consider them nothing but bad attempts at trolling.

YABU

I think there might be happier marriages if a few more men wandered in here 😁

Regardless of how anyone feels about males using the site, how would that realistically be tackled? It's a site where everyone's completely anonymous and I don't think there would be any way to reasonably ban males that wouldn't get into some weird territory. I could be male for all anyone reading this knows.

I have to admit that, if I had the choice, Mumsnet would be a woman only space. But I don't have the choice so....

I am amazed when people talk about men getting a hard time on here though. Maybe I'm reading different threads? The level of justifying/excusing/minimising men's bad behaviour is, IMHO, simply staggering.

The forum is open to all people, across the world. If you do not like this, then it’s on you to find a forum that provides what you want.

Then find a female only site. It is for you to leave. Not try to force others out.

Nope, it's literally called Mumsnet and was literally populated almost exclusively by women until relatively recently. The wording eg parents is called marketing speak.

Completely agree OP

You think a large public anonymous forum on the internet is a safe space? It is not and never has been a safe space. It is impossible for it to be a safe space unless it goes private and you can only access it after extensive verification and even then it's maybe a 50/50 chance.

Anyone can sign up and then post as a woman. For all you know, half of the people here saying they're women are men.

People need to get rid of this idea that Mumsnet is somehow safe or private. It's neither and it's best to accept that and post accordingly.

Not only do men post here but people who aren't even parents post here despite the tagline saying by parents for parents 😲

Also, people who don't have children and don't ever want children post here. They've got an actual section. On Mumsnet. 😲😲😲

That was really uncalled for