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Do you know your husband's passcode?

393 replies

hitmewithyourbestshot21 · 27/12/2023 22:43

Just that, how many of you know your husbands/partners passcode for their phone?

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2jacqi · 28/12/2023 02:46

@hitmewithyourbestshot21 well i had to set up my hubby's phone so yes! 😆

LifeExperience · 28/12/2023 02:36

Yes, of course.

elliejjtiny · 28/12/2023 02:32

Yes, although I keep forgetting it.

Womencanlift · 28/12/2023 02:23

I don’t even know my own social media passwords never mind DPs.

If I got locked out I would need to start a new account as both FB (which I never use these days) and IG are linked to an old email address that I don’t use anymore

TwoSurfingFrogs · 28/12/2023 02:22

Yes, but only because we're always using each others phones, mainly because we can't be arsed to get up and get our own, so we just use the nearest one to hand.

Suchapain · 28/12/2023 02:02

Yes, but we don't know each other's social media passwords, which perhaps we should. I've seen reported cases where one partner has died and the other has been unable to get the phone unlocked / access family photographs and other important stuff. If you're making a will, don't forget to include this sort of thing. The phone company can refuse to unlock it if they have no proof of the deceased's wishes.

FortheBeautyoftheEarth · 28/12/2023 01:38

Nope!

nokidshere · 28/12/2023 01:10

I do and so does he, we use the same digits for pretty much everything except bank cards. I've never used his phone, it rarely leaves the bedroom. If he wants to look something up he's more likely to use mine (or just not bother). He never, ever, looks at his phone at home, unlike me who's on mine constantly and always have it with me.

Goodlard · 28/12/2023 01:10

LisaD1 · 28/12/2023 00:55

Nope, never needed it. If I’ve ever (rarely) needed to use it he just unlocks for me and vice versa. If I ever got to the point I needed to check his phone our relationship would already be over.

Sorry o thought this was about knowing his passcode not the need to check his phone.....

HMW1906 · 28/12/2023 00:57

Yes and he knows mine.

Nagado · 28/12/2023 00:56

Yes, we’ve got the same code. I only use my phone for texts and calls, I don’t do Apps or internet banking and I don’t have a personal email address, so there’s nothing but text chats with my friends on mine, but he’s welcome to look if he wants. I don’t think he ever does though. I leave it laying around all over the place, so he could have done, but he never appears to have any interest. I’m on his phone lots because several relatives send through regular photos of their DC to his WhatsApp, so I look at those.

LisaD1 · 28/12/2023 00:55

Nope, never needed it. If I’ve ever (rarely) needed to use it he just unlocks for me and vice versa. If I ever got to the point I needed to check his phone our relationship would already be over.

PillowRest · 28/12/2023 00:48

Ohthatsfabulousdarling · 27/12/2023 23:28

Yes, it's the same as mine.
I know all of his passwords, as does he all of mine.
Our lives and finances are interwined so we know all of each others sign in details.

Intact my name and our anniversary are most of his, or our kids names and DOBs

You really should change them. Firstly because that's so easy to guess, secondly because now you've also put that on here, next time mumsnet gets details hacked like happened a few years back then your email will be linked to this comment.

keleman · 28/12/2023 00:47

No. I had learned it when he used to use it to unlock his phone, but he uses fingerprint now. His phone is a work phone with developer privileges so he has to be careful about other people using it, and our family prefer not to share phones anyway. I've never told him ny passcode but I don't hide it when typing it in. We only really use each other's phones to take photos (when it doesn't need to be unlocked) or briefly when checking menus if one of us orders a takeaway. I don't feel any need to check his phone. He'd find it hard to ever check mine as it's always in my hand or pocket.

Ecnerual · 28/12/2023 00:43

Yes we know each others.

Only time we ever use each others phones are while the other is driving i.e. if I'm driving I might ask DH to put on navigation on my phone or check what route satnav is taking us.

Japanesejazz · 28/12/2023 00:32

Yes, use his phone rarely
he knows mine, uses my phone regularly to scan the diabetic cat- things you only read on mumsnet 😂

mum11970 · 28/12/2023 00:28

Yes

Boofoof · 28/12/2023 00:25

Yes, and I think he knows mine. Only ever use it with his permission though, such as playing something on audible when he's driving and I'm the passenger.

larkstar · 28/12/2023 00:25

bozzabollix · 27/12/2023 22:43

Yeah course. It’s the same as mine.

ditto

Womencanlift · 28/12/2023 00:23

Yes we know each others. Nothing to do with trust or lack thereof and more to do with practicality when one of us is driving, usually around whose music we play in the car.

Sometimes we will answer texts on the others behalf if we are driving

PrinnyPree · 28/12/2023 00:21

Yes, it's not changed for over a decade. He knows mine too. I could look at his phone at any time as he leaves it around, same him for me, I never feel compelled to though. Only time I've used his phone is if mine's run out of juice, and I need to use the camera or internet.

I would never look through his WhatsApp, email or anything though. I think its fair to have some privacy and be able to talk to friends and family in confidence.

Ludoole · 28/12/2023 00:17

Yes and knows mine. Don't need to use use it though.

HamBone · 28/12/2023 00:17

I don’t know his passcode, but apparently DS has memorized it as we use an app to limit his WIFI…so he watched DH enter his code a few times and occasionally sneaks onto the phone to override the app. 🤣

Rosiesmummy17 · 28/12/2023 00:14

He tells me when I ask for it to go on and send myself photos etc but I forget it every time afterwards lol

MeinKraft · 28/12/2023 00:13

Faceache45 · 27/12/2023 23:16

I'm not interested TBH. I wouls never look at this phone. I honestly don't care. My friend shaged a random in an alleyway. In 3 minutes she ended her marriage and life as she knew it. It was done in a drunken moment. I just reckon shit can happen in seconds. I'm not going to worry myself over it unless I have to.

Yep. If someone is going to cheat on you, they're going to cheat and worrying and phone checking and all that isn't going to do a damn thing about it.