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Do you know your husband's passcode?

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hitmewithyourbestshot21 · 27/12/2023 22:43

Just that, how many of you know your husbands/partners passcode for their phone?

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Housebuyer37 · 28/12/2023 09:31

Yeah I do but only for silly things like sorting a playlist out when he is driving or something like that. He knows mine as well. I've never snooped though.

Ariela · 28/12/2023 09:30

Yes and vice versa, but we'd only use if needed eg he's driving in my car (his speaks to his phone, reads texts and replies etc on voice command)

dullandgrey · 28/12/2023 09:29

Yes I have Face ID set up also lol

Topofthemountain · 28/12/2023 09:28

He doesn't have one.

He may know mine, the kids do though, and he could probably have a very good guess as to what it is.

Youcannotbeseriousreally · 28/12/2023 09:28

Nope. No interest. We don’t track each other either that so many people seem to do!

notacooldad · 28/12/2023 09:24

Yes.
If we are on long drives I use his phone for YouTube or podcasts.
If I'm in the same room as his phone and he isn't I'll answer and likewise for him.

gamerchick · 28/12/2023 09:22

Yeah and he knows mine. My kids know mine if they need my phone briefly.

SlightlygrumpyBettyswaitress · 28/12/2023 09:21

Yes. We both have the same one!

DragonflyLady · 28/12/2023 09:20

No. We have no interest in each other’s phones.

Lulu1919 · 28/12/2023 09:14

Yes

Mespher · 28/12/2023 09:03

People that know passwords are they words or computer generated ones written down as that doesn't sound very secure, I wouldn't be able to tell DH my passwords without writing them down as they are just a mishmash of letters, numbers and symbols.

Elphamouche · 28/12/2023 09:00

Yep, and his passwords and banking log in. He’d know mind if he wasn’t shit at remembering them, 9 years in and he’s finally got my phone passcode 😂.

Neither of us have anything to hide here!

OhMehGoddess · 28/12/2023 08:59

Yes, us and our teen use the same one. We know passwords too and use the same ones here and there.

FairytaleOfKent · 28/12/2023 08:56

No, well, he probably told me at some point when he needed me to reply to something on his phone while driving but I don't remember it.

mydogisthebest · 28/12/2023 08:56

Yes of course.

We both have the same passcode. We also know each other's passcode for laptops

IrresponsiblyCertainAboutSexualDimorphism · 28/12/2023 08:56

Yes I have his passcode and he theoretically has mine but he keeps forgetting what it is. We only use each other’s phones when driving so we can answer texts for each other, and for emergencies. I did use his phone to monitor for incoming texts and calls when he was in ICU some years ago as well.

We don’t snoop, and respect each other’s privacy. I don’t think that’s weird or virtue signalling.

In the days before mobile phones I didn’t read people’s diaries, and I have not read the pile of letters between DH and his ex (from before they were married, pre-mobile phone) that he has in a box that he almost certainly has forgotten exists.

Mespher · 28/12/2023 08:54

RubySundayy · 27/12/2023 23:00

All those of you saying there’s no need - have you ever considered how you’d sort everything without phone access if one of you died??

If someone dies you are not supposed to access their bank accounts and use their passwords. If you have an iPhone you are meant to set up a legacy contact access for after your death with Apple so the named person can access your phone if you want them to

geoger · 28/12/2023 08:52

yes and he knows mine but we never look thru each others phones. I also know his personal email passwords, laptop passcode, banking app passcode and bank card PIN number. I’m pretty sure he knows mine too. We’ve shared these when doing admin stuff for each other

jc12689 · 28/12/2023 08:45

Oldandcobwebby · 28/12/2023 08:34

Yes, of course we both know each other's codes. If you've got nothing to hide, why wouldn't you?

I don't need to look at my partner's phone and vice versa, so I never asked and they've never randomly told me.

If there was a specific reason for looking (like they asked me to check something for them) the yes, but it's just never come up in conversation.

It's like sharing your debit card PIN number. What's the point? It's nothing to do with trust .

If you share for the sake of it and then claim you never look at their phone, it's like you're virtue signalling your trust for each other rather than just trusting each other.

Mespher · 28/12/2023 08:45

No, I'm not interested in his phone, I don't know any passwords either, I barely know my own passwords as they are all computer generated.

whyamiawakestill · 28/12/2023 08:43

Whole family know mine and his.

HeraSyndulla · 28/12/2023 08:41

No, or any of his passwords on other devices.

GordoStevensMustache · 28/12/2023 08:37

Oldandcobwebby · 28/12/2023 08:34

Yes, of course we both know each other's codes. If you've got nothing to hide, why wouldn't you?

Because it shows a lack.of trust. And honestly an unhealthy obsession with what the other is doing. You're married, not actually joined at the hip. You're still separate people.

GordoStevensMustache · 28/12/2023 08:36

Disillusioned11 · 27/12/2023 22:58

Yes because it’s just a phone. We use each others interchangeably depending on which is charged and nearest.
i clearly lead a very boring life because I’m baffled by the ‘invasion of privacy’ bit? What on earth do people have or do on a phone that has to be kept secret/private from your spouse?

Edited

Well, I like to know that I can keep anything however boring, private from dh. Why not? I don't share every single thought I ever have with him. We got married, we didn't merge into one person. I'm still me. If dh decided he needed access to.my phone I'd be really bloody annoyed tbh. (And he wouldn't get it)

Please tell me you don't have a shared email address too 🙈

YouCantBeSadHoldingACupcake · 28/12/2023 08:35

Yes, and he knows mine. Don't generally use it, but occasionally will to look something up if mine isn't to hand.

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