Do you know your husband's passcode?

Yes we know each other's pass codes, so we can can borrow the phone if needed.
I'm shocked to see people saying they don't have a code. What if the phone is lost or stolen and all that personal data is misused?

Yeah we know each others, easier for driving, looking things up, taking pics. No interest in reading his messages whatsoever, I’m sure he’s got no interest in mine either.

My ex and I never shared passcodes - his phone sat face down, went to shower with him, hidden away in car, etc. Massive cheat.

There’s a lot to be said for open behaviour in my opinion.

No but I can remember my ex husbands NI number. I haven't been with him for 15 years.

There's as much trust in a partner having a passcode and choosing not to snoop as there is in not having a passcode and actively stopping someone from snooping. I'd be sad if I thought DH was snooping through my phone every 5 mins, though I have no issue with him knowing my code. Good luck to him if he did snoop though - he'd find a whole host of toddler took pictures on the camera roll and a few notes with details of tax free childcare account numbers - hardly the most riveting of content.

I share my phone with him(I did buy him his own phone but he never bothered to charge it, and anyway he knows he can use mine)

No - we've discussed it and concluded that trust is important to both of us to the point where there is no reason to have access to each other's devices.

There's also the fact that our phones are for work and personal use, and there's highly-sensitive data on there (ie 2FA apps) - it would actually be a breach of our employment contracts to allow anybody else to use them.

No - never thought to even ask for it

No but it's a work phone, that's the only one he's got. I know his passcode to the laptop/emails.

Well, I like to know that I can keep anything however boring, private from dh. Why not? I don't share every single thought I ever have with him. We got married, we didn't merge into one person. I'm still me. If dh decided he needed access to.my phone I'd be really bloody annoyed tbh. (And he wouldn't get it)

This is how I feel, too. It's not for lack of trust, it's just never occurred to me to have each others PIN codes.

If there were an emergency that precluded me from accessing my own phone then I'd ring 999 as it would probably be bad enough to warrant it.

If he died I'd ring the companies and say he died.

I do because he is not great with tech so I often have to log in and set things up for him. I know his iPad password too.

Yes. And his PIN, and a couple of his passwords (unsure which devices though). He knows my phone pass code and a couple of my passwords. All exchanged for boring admin/convenience reasons. Mostly used to control the music depending whose phone is playing it. Neither of us use this knowledge to snoop through emails, messages, private stuff etc.

Yes, and he knows mine

We only use them if needed — I might check it if he’s asleep (as he’s a night owl) and he’s asked me to keep an eye out for important messages in the morning

No and he doesn't know mine but we are happy to pass each other our phones if we need to take a call and the others driving ect.
We change our passwords constantly as we have an autistic son who seems to be able to hack into them every time we leave them unattended 🤣
So it's nothing about secrecy it's all about protecting our bank accounts linked on our phones 🤷‍♀️

I was told it. Doesn’t mean I’ve remembered though….

No.

He's told me but I can't remember it, he's happy to let me use it if ever needed though like if he's driving

Yes, and he knows mine as do the kids (adults) in case of emergencies. Why wouldn't you?

Yep, and he knows mine. Never to check through each others messages or anything, just if we want to look something up and don’t have our own phone available.

All our passwords & codes have been stored away so as & when the time comes for her to sort everything out, DC knows exactly where to look to get on with the job.

Yep. Us and kids all have the same one

As far as I know he hasn't got a passcode, but if he has, I don't know it. I haven't even got a mobile phone.

We don't have a fucked up relationship thank you very much. Very happily married for over 40 years.

I am at home most days and DH is out at work. If he comes homes and there is unopened post for him he almost always asks why I didn't open it.

I would not open something like a birthday card but no reason not to open other things.

Often they are just bills which, for some unknown reason, are addressed to him rather than both of us. As I sort out the bills from our joint account (you probably have a problem with this too) why not open it?

I know his passcode but only because he locked himself out of his iPhone and had to do a factory reset. I made him tell me it so that wouldn't happen again!

He knows mine because why not

Yes and he knows mine. We don’t snoop in each others phones anyway because there’s nothing to hide and no reason to.
Even the 5 year old knows both passcodes since she was about 3.

He’s told me a few times (when I’m out of charge on my phone and have asked to use his) but I can’t remember it.

I trust him, so have no reason to know it and go through his phone.