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Do you know your husband's passcode?

393 replies

hitmewithyourbestshot21 · 27/12/2023 22:43

Just that, how many of you know your husbands/partners passcode for their phone?

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literalviolence · 27/12/2023 22:58

yes

Disillusioned11 · 27/12/2023 22:58

Yes because it’s just a phone. We use each others interchangeably depending on which is charged and nearest.
i clearly lead a very boring life because I’m baffled by the ‘invasion of privacy’ bit? What on earth do people have or do on a phone that has to be kept secret/private from your spouse?

Cinai · 27/12/2023 22:57

Yes. I sometimes need to look something up on his phone when he’s driving. And I’ve told him mine but he never remembers it.

FreshWinterMorning · 27/12/2023 22:57

letspopthekettleon · 27/12/2023 22:48

No and I wouldn't want him to know mine. It's ok to have some privacy in a healthy relationship

This. ^ I don't know DH's passcode, and it needs his face recognition anyway - as well as the passcode. He put a passcode on AND his face recognition to make it a bit harder to get into after he caught a colleague snooping at his phone when he went to the loo and left it on his desk. Mine has a 6 digit passcode that DH doesn't know. DH leaves his all on at home too (as well as at work,) and I leave mine on. I don't care. I trust him 100%. And I respect his privacy. He also respects my privacy, and trusts me 100%. We don't NEED to look at each others phone(s.)

As @letspopthekettleon said, it's OK to have some privacy. There is no need to have your DP/DH's passcode to his phone - or for him to have yours - unless you don't trust each other. Some posters say 'I have my DH's passcode but I never look at his phone.' I don't believe that these posters NEVER look. Why do you have his passcode anyway? What do you need it for?

If your partner wanted to have an affair, he would just get another phone! You having his passcode to his phone is not going to stop him having an affair!

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helpme5 · 27/12/2023 22:57

Yes, he knows mine too. It came about by unlocking them for the DC to use tbh. We don't look through each other's phones.

Icepop79 · 27/12/2023 22:57

Yes, and he knows mine.

Redshoeblueshoe · 27/12/2023 22:56

Goodlard · 27/12/2023 22:51

Do you not use your phone for banking, emails etc?

That not a security risk?

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No phone banking or emails. If he has email on his people would die of boredom if thread them. All football related

Dongdingd · 27/12/2023 22:56

Yes. In fact we know each others and often expect each other to check whatever on each others phones if either one of us is busy.

Minimum85percentCocoa · 27/12/2023 22:55

Yes, but I’d never look through his messages, whatsapp etc, I wouldn’t see the need and I think privacy should be respected.

Missingmybabysomuch · 27/12/2023 22:54

Yes we both know each others. We regularly use each others phones eg to look something up or put music on or take a photo, we just grab whoevers is nearest at the time!

DramaAlpaca · 27/12/2023 22:54

Yes, we use the same code. It's a family code that we all know.

We never use or look through each other's phones though, that would feel like an invasion of privacy.

sanityisamyth · 27/12/2023 22:54

ExH was hyper cautious about me looking at his phone. It was always upside down and I had no access to it. After we split up, I found out why. Utter utter shit.

PurpleOrchid42 · 27/12/2023 22:54

No, and he'll never let me use his phone for anything. Not sure what he's hiding, but don't actually care.

ANightmareBeforeChristmas · 27/12/2023 22:53

We use fingerprints and we've each registered one of the other's fingers so the phone can be used in emergency. Absolutely nothing to see on our phones - we don't use them much.

Runoutofinkagain · 27/12/2023 22:53

I don't but he has given it to me several times in the past but I just haven't bothered remembering it, I think he most likely can't remember mine either but we are both happy to share devices when needed just have poor memories

veeolay · 27/12/2023 22:52

No. He doesn't know mine either. No need to 🤷‍♀️

chillin12 · 27/12/2023 22:52

Frosty1000 · 27/12/2023 22:45

Yes we know each others. I've got nothing to hide, except maybe the enormous amount of time I spend on here 😁

Lmaoooo, same. This is all I do in my spare time now, quite embarrassing, really 😂

MarleyandMarleyWoooo · 27/12/2023 22:52

Yes, we know each others. Handy for looking at photos, using the camera etc.

Goodlard · 27/12/2023 22:52

PuffyShirt · 27/12/2023 22:50

Yes and we both have each other’s facial recognition set up on our phones.

I'd never thought of setting that up...... genius!

That's on the to do list!

14Q · 27/12/2023 22:51

Yes but I've never looked. He doesn't know mine but my adult kids all do so he would ask them if he needed it.

I have absolutely nothing to hide and I am 100% sure my husband doesn't either. How boring of us

Channellingsophistication · 27/12/2023 22:51

No I don’t

Goodlard · 27/12/2023 22:51

Redshoeblueshoe · 27/12/2023 22:45

Neither of us have a passcode

Do you not use your phone for banking, emails etc?

That not a security risk?

jadey1991 · 27/12/2023 22:51

Nope I don't.

JubileeJumps · 27/12/2023 22:50

Yes and he knows mine.

PuffyShirt · 27/12/2023 22:50

Yes and we both have each other’s facial recognition set up on our phones.