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Do you know your husband's passcode?

393 replies

hitmewithyourbestshot21 · 27/12/2023 22:43

Just that, how many of you know your husbands/partners passcode for their phone?

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firsttimemum1212 · 27/12/2023 23:32

Yes and he has mine. I also know the passwords to absolutely everything of his and he mine, but I bet you he doesn’t remember it

Rattenbury · 27/12/2023 23:32

Yes.

zeibesaffron · 27/12/2023 23:32

Yes we have the same passcode for the phone/ bankcards etc

Pollywoddles · 27/12/2023 23:31

I do and also my face will unlock his phone but I never look at it. I’d only ever use it if I needed to make an urgent call or look something up quickly and his was closer or mine was dead.

LostMySocks · 27/12/2023 23:31

Yes. We both use each others phones for calls depending on who has forgotten to charge theirs. Usually ask first though.

teenagetantrums · 27/12/2023 23:30

Yep l know, l don't think DP would remember mine but it's not a secret.

TeenLifeMum · 27/12/2023 23:30

He has told me multiple times but I never remember. Only use it when my phone has died and I want to Google something or if I have the banking app open and need a calculator on a separate device to work out some maths. I just have to ask and he tells me. He knows mine but he has a photographic memory.

Themostimportantpartis · 27/12/2023 23:29

Yes

Notallmilsarebad · 27/12/2023 23:29

Yes, we both know each others. And often read each other’s messages. I’m in girls chats and he’s in guys chats but all part of a wider social group so sometimes we just like to see what people have been chatting about in the groups were not in

Catsknowbest · 27/12/2023 23:29

Yes absolutely

FinallyHere · 27/12/2023 23:29

Yeah. I do tech support for him.

I've told him mine, and what it's based on to help him remember. I doubt very much he remembers mine.

bloatedbobby · 27/12/2023 23:29

@RufustheFactualReindeer yes, I always remember a friend having a nightmare yrs ago when her boyfriend was seriously ill in hospital & things would have been much easier if she could access his phone.

FluffyDiplodocus · 27/12/2023 23:29

Yep. He had to change it recently as he uses it for work and needed an 8 digit code, he messaged me the new one before I even noticed he’d changed it, so I had it just in case. He knows mine too.

RufustheFactualReindeer · 27/12/2023 23:28

dhs is our wedding anniversary (and my birthday)

so fairly hard for me NOT to know it 😀

Ohthatsfabulousdarling · 27/12/2023 23:28

Yes, it's the same as mine.
I know all of his passwords, as does he all of mine.
Our lives and finances are interwined so we know all of each others sign in details.

Intact my name and our anniversary are most of his, or our kids names and DOBs

Woahyeahyeahyeah · 27/12/2023 23:27

Yes - as he does mine!

blackpanth · 27/12/2023 23:27

Yep

Bloom15 · 27/12/2023 23:27

Yes and he knows mine

SliceOfBread · 27/12/2023 23:27

The year the football team he supports was founded…

RufustheFactualReindeer · 27/12/2023 23:27

hitmewithyourbestshot21 · 27/12/2023 23:26

@RufustheFactualReindeer

I don't know my husband's, but if I wanted to see anything he would happily show me. His Face ID is on my phone, and he knows my passcode. I'm happy with that as he usually leaves his phone upstairs (he has an Apple Watch) - we use mine to google stuff and call family.

I was just watching a movie,

The wife never knew her husband was cheating when she found out she tried to go down his phone, and then realised she didn't know his passcode 🤣

Thank you 😀

GodDammitCecil · 27/12/2023 23:26

RufustheFactualReindeer · 27/12/2023 23:22

I do think its weird that a few posters on here seem to think the only reason we would know our partners passcodes is because we don’t trust them and want to keep an eye on them

i guess its projection

Exactly.

Surely the baseline / normal is: knowing each other’s passcodes, because you’re open and trusting. But not invading their privacy - because again, that trust thing, and just basic respect for each other.

Anything else is questionable.

Original poster
hitmewithyourbestshot21 · 27/12/2023 23:26

@RufustheFactualReindeer

I don't know my husband's, but if I wanted to see anything he would happily show me. His Face ID is on my phone, and he knows my passcode. I'm happy with that as he usually leaves his phone upstairs (he has an Apple Watch) - we use mine to google stuff and call family.

I was just watching a movie,

The wife never knew her husband was cheating when she found out she tried to go down his phone, and then realised she didn't know his passcode 🤣

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Meandermoanda · 27/12/2023 23:25

Yes but I only use it when I need to use his phone to find mine and I'm too lazy to fetch him from upstairs. Or use his phone for maps in the car when mine is dead and he's driving. I'd never read messages or anything. I don't feel I need to and nothing good comes of that!

Doggymummar · 27/12/2023 23:25

Just asked him, no security on it. I have a fingerprint but that's just for if it gets nicked

bungletru · 27/12/2023 23:25

Yep I do