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Do you know your husband's passcode?

393 replies

hitmewithyourbestshot21 · 27/12/2023 22:43

Just that, how many of you know your husbands/partners passcode for their phone?

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Blazingunicorns · 27/12/2023 23:49

Yes I do

Goodlard · 27/12/2023 23:47

@MidnightMeltdown surely you realise that's only to a nominated single contact or 999?

Rather than multiple contacts in an emergency?

WhateverMate · 27/12/2023 23:47

Yes. I'm married to a complete luddite who can't even set his own phone alarm properly.

The whole family knows his passcode 🤣🤣

L1ttledrummergirl · 27/12/2023 23:47

Mines a technophobe, I set them up for him.

pizzaHeart · 27/12/2023 23:47

Yes, and he knows mine.

FijiSea · 27/12/2023 23:46

Yes because sometimes he gets photos from family or messages and he can’t be bothered moving to get his phone so asks me to check his messages 😆
We use whoever’s phone is nearest to look stuff up , both know each others , just for easiness.

Sodullincomparison · 27/12/2023 23:46

Yep - it’s the same as the tv passcode and his bank card. Simple kinda guy.

tiggergoesbounce · 27/12/2023 23:45

I should know it as he tells me if i need to get into his stuff for something, but i never remember it. Hence having to ask him every time, i know its the same one every time as when he says it, i think of course it is !!! But then forget again

MidnightMeltdown · 27/12/2023 23:43

OneTC · 27/12/2023 23:35

Yeah I'd never actually look at OH's phone it just seems sensible that either of us would be able to use each others phones in an emergency

Surely most phones allow you to make emergency calls without a passcode?

I wouldn't like anyone to have my passcode.

PSG · 27/12/2023 23:42

No idea if he has one.

Talktometellmeyourname · 27/12/2023 23:41

Yes, we’ve got the same one. Dunno why really, been like it for years.

takealettermsjones · 27/12/2023 23:40

Yes, we know each other's, in case of emergency or just dead batteries etc. But we would always ask permission when possible, not snoop etc.

Deadringer · 27/12/2023 23:38

Don't know don't care

Snellytheelephant · 27/12/2023 23:38

Yes, both know each others. We usually just use whichever phone is closest to us so it’s a practicality thing really.

IAmAnIdiot123 · 27/12/2023 23:36

firsttimemum1212 · 27/12/2023 23:32

Yes and he has mine. I also know the passwords to absolutely everything of his and he mine, but I bet you he doesn’t remember it

I got a new phone which wiped our fingerprint data. It drives me mad he can't remember my 4 digit code and asks me EVERY BLOODY TIME he uses it, mainly when I'm driving and ask him to do something.

Avonia · 27/12/2023 23:36

Yes, we know each other's codes. To us it's always been a sensible thing to share in case of emergency, nothing really to do with trust.

EmmaGrundyForPM · 27/12/2023 23:36

He did tell me but I've forgotten it.

BashfulClam · 27/12/2023 23:36

I think I know it and he probably knows mine as it’s a significant date. We don’t use each others phones as they are personal. I gave him my last code years ago when we were out hillwalking and his phone had next to no battery so in case I had an accident or something I told him my phone code is xxxx I case you need to use it for anything. If he wants it I have nothing to hide.

mamaison · 27/12/2023 23:36

Yes everyone in my house knows everyone’s passcodes. We all use each others’ devices briefly for convenience sometimes.

As PP mentioned, it’s to protect against theft- not hide things from your loved ones.

I use private browsing for things like Christmas present buying etc for this reason.

OneTC · 27/12/2023 23:35

Yeah I'd never actually look at OH's phone it just seems sensible that either of us would be able to use each others phones in an emergency

ArchetypalBusyMum · 27/12/2023 23:35

Course, I rarely use it except when my phone is flat and I need to Google something but it's good to have in case of emergency. Once he left his phone at home and needed a detail from a message.
That's the sort of stuff your life partner would do for you and the passcode is needed for.

He knows mine too, same deal.

AnnieSnap · 27/12/2023 23:34

Yes and he knows mine. It came about on occasions where one of us was up to their eyes in something and asked the other to check something on their phone/ipad. It’s happened a few times, so we remember them. It’s a non-issue for us, but I can see how it isn’t always in relationships.

DahliaMacNamara · 27/12/2023 23:34

He doesn't have a passcode. There's fuck all on his phone, disappointingly, because I'm a nosy bastard and far more interested in looking at his phone than he is. There's only work stuff, call history (99% me) and unread text messages, because he never thinks to look at them.
I would hate him to look at mine, but I doubt he could read it, even with his glasses on. My passcode isn't guessable from personal data.

ThreeTreeHill · 27/12/2023 23:33

RufustheFactualReindeer · 27/12/2023 23:22

I do think its weird that a few posters on here seem to think the only reason we would know our partners passcodes is because we don’t trust them and want to keep an eye on them

i guess its projection

Yes. The reason Dh has my pass code is because I trust him? I wouldn't even consider not telling him. He also very openly messages in front of me and me him. I wouldn't really consider snooping because firstly I don't particularly need to read the shit he sends his friends, he mostly tells me and also I respect him. I don't need a pass code to stop him reading my messages

OneTC · 27/12/2023 23:33

We both use the same pattern