To be angry at DH

I always advise people not to be too smug when it comes to things like this.

It only takes a second for a dog to grab something and eat it - and if it happened on your watch, I'm sure you'd want to be treated with kindness and compassion, not have someone pick at you about how it happened in the first place.

Lots of peoplemiss something their dog shouldn't eat and they swallow it before you have a chance to get it.
He didn't feed it to the dog. He forgot it on the table. He is also unwell. Yes, accidents happen

@DiaNaranja

but it was a RAISIN BAR, it's not like it was a hidden ingredient that he needed to read the fine print.

looking after one child isn't really preoccupied to that extent

I think YABU having had a dog and young children these things happen in a split second. I think you’re both shattered and probably both taking it out on each other. He is probably already feeling guilty about the dog and the cost. This is one of those situations where it’s good to take a deep breath and agree to stand by and support each other.

Having read your updates, he is being completely unreasonable!

You said it wasn't his fault, and just asked where the bar had come from! That is a million miles away from calling him a careless idiot for leaving it in reach. If I knew I didn't have x in the house, but then there was x in the house that had caused issues, of course you ask where its from, as a basic thing to prevent it happening again!

So he fucked up while you were in a and e, but he is sulking for you not being more supportive of him? Surely it should be you both supporting each other (if not him doing the supporting, given his pregnant wife was un a and e for breathing difficulties).

Don't feel bad, he made a mistake and is now deflecting because you're not trying to console him, because you've got enough of your own shit going on

@DiddyHeck I wasn't commenting on what she wrote but the comments above me & the OP's DH attitude. Clearly she's VERY careful and he doesn't listen to her, or he would be too

@Chilicabbage

Lots of people are letting ther dogs eat raisins??

Do you not have insurance?!

A miniature daschund was able to open the snack cupboard and get raisin bars out?

Even if the snack cupboard is at floor level that seems rather unlikely. Sounds much more probable that DH just left them lying around in the kitchen and said he’d put them in the snack cupboard to make himself seem less at fault.

louis

or you know, you put them somewhere SAFE where toddlers & dogs can't get to them.

Are you comparing a dog sat in a cage with a vet and vet nurses with someone receiving hospital treatment being seen by multiple specialists? My Thai stepmum came to the uk without insurance and ended up in hospital for 3 days, x rays, IV, 8 blood tests, lab work amongst other things (was a massive itemised bill including food etc) came to £1400

The plumber we use at work charges £120 for the first hour and £80 for the second without parts. An electrician is similar.

I don't think the vet bills ever are extortionate.

Yes, we do.
Particularly when idiots pipe up saying that vet fees are a rip off. Try going private as a human, staying in hospital for 2 days on a drip over a holiday period and see what you get charged.

What is the average hourly rate for a plumber? Mechanic? Lawyer? Any professional service. But vets and the rest of the clinic staff are expected to do it all for the love of animals. Love doesn't pay the wages.

@LaughingCat yours is a really nice post and I wholeheartedly agree

@ThreeApples it's been a rough day but when you asked your dh " who put it there" what was he meant to answer? my mother? Knowing you would go off on a rant. He likely feels you would not want to hear his side of it. This is why he is ranting and has stormed off. He doesn't want to have to be between you and his mother anymore.. You need some support from him too A&E when pregnant is scary. So standing together is a good idea.

My dog LOVES chocolate (we don't give it to him) but he is a hound and he can sniff chocolate out as soon as it is in the house (high cupboards or locked away these days) He ate an entire chocolate cake we did take him to the vet *during covid. he was made to throw up and they did say they could keep him at x cost but we could have him home too. We took him home. Later that same year he ate an entire box of mince pies. (he has a sweet tooth clearly!!) and another trip to the emergency vet who only very reluctantly agreed for him to be released for us to monitor him overnight they also said 2 days stay. We were uncomfortable with this vet so we felt we could look after him at home.

I can believe that the vet said to keep him in and I think your dh reacted well to a emergency situation.

When my dog ate something he shouldn't i took him to the vets and they gave him an injection to make him sick. When they were sure there was nothing left they gave another jab to stop him feeling sick. Dog was around 8 or 9 kilos at the time. They sent us home with liquid charcoal in case there was anything left. No overnight stay. About £150 i think it was.

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Wow. DH makes the very serious mistake of not checking what’s in a food he’s been given, and of putting a potentially lethal raisin bar where the dog can and does get it. Easily done, but but when you have animals you know it’s essential to check.

Yet somehow it’s OP who gets shouted at.

Well done H for a neat bit of responsibility-avoidance there. OP wasn’t making a fuss, so no one needed to be blamed. But hey, land it on your wife just in case.

Did you get your vet qualification from an RG uni then?!!

Oh god… nightmare! To all those saying ‘there’s no real evidence it affects animals’ - one of my cats got into a box of pain aux raisins (opened the motherfudging microwave to do so as well!). This was before we knew that it could be dangerous for some animals. Poor thing ended up on a drip for three days as his liver started shutting down. If I hadn’t done a Google and decided that it might be worth calling the emergency vets on a Saturday afternoon, racking up a three grand bill (covered by insurance), he would have been dead by Sunday. We still have to watch certain foods now around him as his liver has been irreparably damaged. Our other cat? No issues whatsoever.

Your DH made the right decision when a complete freak accident happened, that was not his fault, and he handled in the best way he could while being ill and you were dealing with your own nightmare situation. You guys have had a really rough day, and at the back of both your minds will be the fact that you don’t even know if you'll see your darling dog again. And you’ll both be worried about you, pregnant and having to go to A&E - I hope everything is clear and you and the peanut are ok, by the way.

That’s all a lot of worry for any family to deal with. No wonder you’re both snappy and looking to deflect that fear onto someone else. Give him a huge hug. Give your daughter a huge hug. Try not to look at photos of your dog, while you both worry quietly. Tell him he’s been amazing sorting all that while you were in the hospital and share your worries about all of it. Make it you guys against the world - plague might strike the family, A&E at Christmas might hit, your dog might end up in the very expensive creature hospital…but together, it’ll never get you down (even though it’s fecking typical at this time of year, when you’re all supposed to be Hallmark movie happy 😂).

Sending you all the strength and hugs, and hope you’re all feeling better soon, pooch included!

Can you clarify how this mini daxie got the bar from the snack cupboard? or table?
Is he sure the dog ate it? 2 night stay is excessive, did they not give apomorphine to induce vomiting??

Fuck me, but some vets take the proverbial these days!

Because corner shop chocolate is not really chocolate. It's sugar, milk and fat dyed brown with minimal cocoa powder. Back in the day, you couldn't get real chocolate even in big supermarkets.

In most cases a few raisins will just make a dog ill with V&D. Toxicity is about a 1 to 50 ratio. 200g will generally cause kidney failure in a 10K dog - but it's unpredictable, in some cases it could be a lot less.

Will people please stop posting that their dog ate a whole fruit cake and was absolutely fine, so the OPs dog will be too. Vets must find these kinds of threads infuriating.

Chocolate and onions are toxic in a different way to raisins and grapes. Everyone advising against ‘rushing to the vets’ is wrong where raisins and grapes are concerned as it’s basically Russian roulette. It’s not diarrhoea from licking the curry leftovers or scoffing a few choc chip cookies. It’s irreversible kidney failure and a painful death if your dog is an unlucky one. Her DH did the right thing.

I hope your dog is OK, and that you all feel better soon, OP.

That vet is taking the piss. We have horses and an equine vet will charge about a quarter of that quoted number. In addition, the equine vet goes to visit ill horses wherever they are stabled. Small animal vet fees are like the wild west.