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To see a medium

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DespairingandDesperate · 27/12/2023 02:21

My lovely Dad died just before Christmas. Many years ago Dad and I promised one another that whichever one of us died first, that person would come back and visit the living one and make him/herself known.

It's been going on a week now, and "no word" from Dad. I was wondering if I should go and seek help from a medium, or spiritual advisor as they are apparently called.

If a friend was asking me if they should do this I'd probably say I think you're insane and wasting your money... but now I'm in this situation, I'd give anything to receive a message from Dad.

Could it possibly be real?

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slithytoveisascientist · 27/12/2023 02:51

Im really sorry for your loss. Wait a year and a day.

samestyle · 27/12/2023 02:49

I am a spiritual person and believe in afterlife but I wouldn't pay a medium, or if you do decide to then don't pay too much, I would also get through the worst of your grief first before deciding. If you're open to it then you will see signs, a dream or a memory that suddenly comes to you out of nowhere, it could be him trying to connect to you. My dad had a habit of turning the tv on to let me know he was still here, or changing it to his favourite channel.
I know it's a difficult time right now, but once the shock has faded you will start thinking of more positive memories you did have.

flowerchild2000 · 27/12/2023 02:38

I would wait a bit, a week isn't very long and who knows what he's up to or what his timeline is like. He's not in the physical like we are and if you know anything about physics time is an aspect of physical reality. So he may not be subject to that, and also might be busy doing other things. Maybe he's caught up in a family reunion. I would give him more time. I don't think it will hurt either way though. I've only heard good things about mediums so why not?

jillgreen · 27/12/2023 02:36

I don't believe in mediums and I think pretending to be communicating with others' late relatives is immoral at best. That said, if you're a spiritual person then perhaps there are other ways you can connect with your dad that are your own. For example, going and sitting on the park bench that a loved one always sat in to feel their presence next to you. Perhaps lighting a candle in a particular place at a particular time. Only you would know what that thing is for your dad.

I'm so sorry for your loss, it sounds like you were very close.

Goingtothinkofone · 27/12/2023 02:24

I think if you’re asking you probably know mediums aren’t real. If they were, we’d all use them.

However if it will make you feel better by all means do it. Just please don’t get ripped off for lots of money.

I think the good ‘mediums’ will perform a bit of a function like a therapist and help you to have the conversation you’d want to have with your loved one.

i’m sorry for your loss xxx