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Same every year

79 replies

checkedcloth · 26/12/2023 07:50

Does anyone feel like this? We host every year, my parents come to us. It’s a very strained relationship, and so us not hosting them would cause all sorts of upset. They don’t really get into the spirit of things, frown if we a drink and complain that the food is ‘too fattening’.

it’s a long day, that’s ok but certainly not reflective of big family gatherings full of fun.

so much effort and lead up (from me) and I just don’t enjoy it at all really. I’m 50, when will it get better??

OP posts:
something2say · 26/12/2023 07:51

When you make it better, by quietly announcing different plans well in advance and then ignoring the fallout.

CrackersCheeseAndWinePlease · 26/12/2023 07:51

Tell them next year you're having a quiet Christmas so unfortunately you won't be hosting.
If they get upset then they've got a whole year to get used to the idea.

PBandJ111 · 26/12/2023 07:51

Why are you enduring miserable Christmas days? Do you have kids who suffer through this too?

DustyLee123 · 26/12/2023 07:50

When they’re dead.