I trashed the house

I had 2 under 2 and got so weighed down I threw plates and glasses (not with the DC in the room). Turned out I had PND. I'm not saying you do OP as it sounds like you're not getting much help from your DH but it might be worth talking to someone before anything worse happens.

@Lifeasiknowitisout I honestly don’t wish to be argumentative but the only Christmas thing I can see is the Christmas shopping. Cleaning, cooking, laundry and childcare are 365 days a year things.

I really am not having a go but I see this so much about taking the stress out of Christmas and half the time the stress is life rather than Christmas!

In the long run it’s not a great way to deal with your anger, but it seems understandable and none of us get it right all the time. Your husband needs to pull his finger out, of course.

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I know it’s not just Christmas. But if it wasn’t Christmas Op is unlikely to have snapped. Are we going to present that a lot of what she has listed is Christmas specific? Or that the pressure of Christmas isn’t adding to it.

You have taken what I said out of context. Christmas isn’t worth this stress and a relationship with someone who makes you feel like this isn’t worth it.

Oddly, both things can be true. The relationship can be shit and unsupportive for Op. and Christmas can also not be worth getting to this point for.

The dh is useless. But Christmas has also added to the stress the Op is feeling. That doesn’t mean he isn’t also useless.

2under 2 including a 10 week old baby is massive.
There is being far too much pressure on you.
The teen should be helping a little and dh absolutely should not be having a lay in. He should be pitching in.
How did you end up hosting? In any case - tell dh the Christmas fairy is on strike and introduce him to the kitchen.

you need a rest while you plot how to get a tumble dryer.
Unmumsentty hugs - 2 under 2 was not the happiest time of my life. It was relentless. It’s gets better and you are doing a good job. Some strewn laundry isn’t the end of the world.

You didn't trash the house, how old is your teen.

Now dc knows you are a human being.. And dh knows he needs to pull his fucking socks up. Stop doing anything for dh. He can adult from now on. Encourage ds to be a bit more self sufficient.. Apologise obviously but tell him grown ups get tired and upset same as dc. Getting yourself out of the house is good.. Who is visiting? If it's dh's family they can take you as they find you and tell them dh didn't tidy up.

Hand everything over to your Dh, apologise to your teen (unless they’re a child who does nothing but is capable of doing more). Look after yourself and the baby.

It isn’t Christmas though @Lifeasiknowitisout , unless people only need clean clothes on December 25. It’s two people playing water sports while you drown in front of them and they laugh and wave.

I have felt similar OP, and it’s awful. There’s so much invisible stuff we do. I felt similar this morning as I stayed up late last night cleaning and tidying, came down this morning and DH was playing a game of fucking football with DS and toys everywhere - just nearly cried.

Nope, carrying the mental load is really overwhelming. Get dh to get off his lazy arse and pull his finger out!!

yes yabu.

You told your teen to fuck off because your husband doesn’t pull his weight?

Look, you didn’t trash the house. You need to find a better way to deal with the anger. Christmas isn’t worth this amount of stress on you.

and no relationship is worth you feeling like this.

But while your anger and upset might be reasonable. Your reaction isn’t.

Could hormones be adding to the way it came out? Sorry OP
Sounds like too much is on your plate and dh and teen need to step up amd help. Hope they do. If thy don't make them x