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Insensitive Birthday Present

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CB2611 · 23/12/2023 21:54

CB2611 · Today 21:49

DP dad bought me an expensive electric toothbrush for my birthday. I hate to be ungrateful but it has ruined my birthday. I brush my teeth twice a day religiously but due to an eating disorder in my early 20s, they are not in the best condition. I acted grateful for the present but I was mortified. I now feel like my DPs family have all been talking about the state of my teeth and he's bought me a toothbrush as a hint. My self esteem has hit the floor.

I have never been ungrateful and I feel horrible for being sad about a present when DPs dad didn't have to buy anything at all and I'm lucky he gets me birthday presents.

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BathsAreBliss · 23/12/2023 22:04

Oh. This is such a tricky one! Honestly I think he just had his man head on and thought “this is a great deal” where loads of electric toothbrushes are discounted in the run up to Christmas, and he knows You’l use it! Maybe he goes into your bathroom and see’s your manual toothbrushes and knows you don’t already have one?

My teeth are similar to yours and I’d love one! Any hygiene or beauty product gift would bring out insecurities - I do understand that. If they are genuinely nice people, i would assume good intentions