Fuming with lying husband

Well, yes, who would want to live with that?

Except the OP has said that he’s had issues with this sort of behaviour in the past. So, it’s not a “mistake”, it’s a pattern of behaviour.

Don't take him! Why feel embarrassed and uncomfortable because of him? You deserve to have some time away from him and hopefully forget it until you get home. Out of sight out of mind. Tell your parents the whole truth and heed their advice, sounds like they already recognized the bs and want better for you.

I think you need a long conversation

Has he definitely been in a fight? Is it something he's done before? My partner fell one night and came home black and blue- he's never been in a fight in his life so I had no reason to disbelieve him but you'd know if it was likely. I don't think the staying out till 5:30 is the worst- at this time of year i've been that late home, getting something to eat and waiting in a taxi queue.

I don’t understand why you (or other posters) are so angry.

He went out with his friends, which as a grown adult he’s entitled to do.

He also has a bruise, which he’s said is from bumping into something.

You’ve chosen not to believe him which is your choice but you’re wanting to punish him for something that you simply assume.

If he has got into a fight then it’s obviously not been a bad one else you would know straight away.

Look, he made a stupid mistake, it could happen to any one of us, anyone can hurt someone they love.

This 👏 👏 👏

And to be honest, I’d take being single with cats over being in a bad relationship any day! How sad that this poster thinks being with a shitty, “bastard” man is better than being single.

No doubt if he’d shat himself too you would add faecal incontinent to your list of supposedly defining characteristics.

How awful for children to grow up with a boozing, brawler for a dad.

No sweetheart, the LTB squad have LTB and now realise that we are worth so much more, deserve so much more, are happier, thinner and richer. So we actually want to support other women instead of dragging them down but telling them that they deserve better.

If you want to waste another Christmas with someone who makes you miserable, good on you. But I'm having the best Christmas I've had in 13 years.

The LTB brigade are probably out in force tonight having left their bastards and are getting bored and angry at the prospect of spending Christmas on their own with their cats as it’s their ex’s turn to have the kids for Christmas.

Get to the bottom of what happened and where he went, make it clear to him why it’s upset you and then get on with having a Merry Christmas.

Why do you assume he’s lying? Sounds like he fell over whilst drunk and hurt himself. Coming home at 5am once in a while isn’t that bad - it only becomes a problem if he did this every week.
Why don’t you just ask him what happened? If that was my DH I would believe what he told me and I def wouldn’t be leaving him behind at Christmas.

You dont actually know that he lied though

Maybe he got caught shagging somebody’s wife/GF.

It would annoy me more that he didnt get home until after 5am. I know some places are open late.....but 5am...

I've got drunk before and given myself a black eye and got scrapes. Not fighting, just falling over in heels.

I'd wait to speak to him and as another poster above has said, I'd set this within the wider context of your marriage and what you know about him already.

Finally on this thread a response suggesting this is best judged in the wider context of your marriage. Going on here before he’s had a chance to lose the hangover and have a proper chat with you may not be the best idea as there a lot of posters who will happily try and break up a family based on the very minimal picture of your life we get from the post.

Also consider that he may have no idea what happened - after my Christmas do I apparently went clubbing with colleagues but have zero recollection of it. Maybe he also needs to speak to mates to find out what really happened.

Unless I'm missing a massive back story, sounds like he went too mad on drinking and got into something and is now home ok. I'm not sure I could get worked up about it.
I was out last night. There were a lot of very drunk falling over people. One bloke ended up being helped by strangers as he fell over three times and banged his arm on the floor. I'm sure he will be sore and bruised today. I think people just went a bit mad last night.

If he does this every weekend then that's completely different.

He’s really insulting your intelligence here. Bumped into something, yeah, it was someone’s fist was it? 🙄

The bruise might not be his fault-as in, he might not have started or provoked the incident-but it's unlikely to have been caused by bumping into something. Does he have form for this sort of thing?

Why would you want to be with someone who behaves this way, and is violent, or someone that also lies to you. I just couldn't do it.

Sounds like your parents have the measure of him and I'd not insult them by taking him to their home in the pathetic state he is. No need to feel guilty for a situation he has caused, he should be apologising ( but clearly won't, because he's a lowlife).

Not sure what to say other than that OP, I would absolutely tell him to stay at home and enjoy the day without the burden of him.