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Sheilaswheelz · 21/12/2023 13:31

Hi, a few weeks ago I asked my husband to leave. I was tired of him going out all the time and not helping me with the kids and around the house. After a few weeks he told me that he fancied somebody at work and it really bothered me, to the point where I have started questioning if I did the right thing. He has stayed over the odd night and it has been really nice, kids have adjusted really well etc. I really do think we could work on things as we do get on, I am just worried that things will slip back to how they was and the only reason I am doing this is because I dont want somebody else to have him. He told me he only said this to get at me but it still plays on my mind. Another thing that bothers me is that he is extremely sexual, I cant bend over without him smacking my bum or walk past him without a cuddle and it is draining, I do love him, he has asked me to come over tonight but I really dont want to go because he will pester me for sex, I just feel he cant keep his hands off me which maybe some women would absolutely love, but I loathe it.

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Sheilaswheelz · 21/12/2023 13:53

Yes, I kicked him out. We did no contact at all until he told me he fancied this woman, I was really doing ok, I just hated the thought of him meeting somebody else.

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FictionalCharacter · 21/12/2023 13:52

he just pulls my bra down randomly
He’s revolting.
I’m confused now, have you actually kicked him out or not? Are you seriously thinking of taking him back?! A half-in half-out arrangement is useless. He’ll still grope you all the time and will still do nothing around the house.

Sheilaswheelz · 21/12/2023 13:51

I literally cant even walk past him. I try to avoid it all costs and am relieved when he leaves again.

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Sheilaswheelz · 21/12/2023 13:50

I know but I am his wife arent I?

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MuggleMe · 21/12/2023 13:49

So he's repeatedly sexually harassing you. Imagine one of your children was doing it/receiving that at school. So totally unacceptable!

Whataretheodds · 21/12/2023 13:46

So he doesn't pull his weight with the kids and the house, but posters you for sex anyway.
After you asked him to move out he told you he fancied someone at work and then has been popping round (or you've been popping round to his) -presumably mainly for sex, I don't suppose he's changed a lightbulb or taken the bins out when he's been there?

What makes you think you can work things out?

Why do you think he told you he fancied someone at work?

Sheilaswheelz · 21/12/2023 13:43

I really didnt want to bring the kids up on my own, they havent even questioned why he has gone and when I suggest staying with him they dont want to. I remember always wanted my dad around when I was younger so this is alien to me. AIBU to find being constantly felt up draining, he just pulls my bra down randomly etc I literally hate it. If I dont retaliate he feels unloved and he said most women would love this.

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FictionalCharacter · 21/12/2023 13:38

YABU to think you could make it work, unless he’s willing to completely change his behaviour.

Ilovemyshed · 21/12/2023 13:32

You are well shot of him by the sounds of it. Stay strong!

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