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That this is getting on my tits?

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Grapefruitstars · 20/12/2023 16:32

Work in a nice team. We get presents over Xmas. The usual chocolates etc. One member of the team has started saying I eat all the chocolate and have hidden some for myself. This isn't true. Literally everytime I get up out my chair this starts. Ohhh grapefruit has gone for the food, she's eaten all the goodies. It's getting on my fucking tits.

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TulipCat · 21/12/2023 08:39

I would go with "Oh gosh, Sandra, I think that's gone a bit stale now, don't you?" Then a slightly pitying look before you walk off.

DerekFaker · 21/12/2023 08:29

Dacadactyl · 20/12/2023 22:14

@DerekFaker I'm presuming everyone knows where the chocolates are?! If they want them they'd better be quick in my office.

Oh right. In any office I've worked in, if someone is going to have a biscuit/chocolate, the tin would be passed around everyone else as well. I've never had a situation where people just take them for themsleves whenever, so I presumed this is how it works in most workplaces.

Hesma · 21/12/2023 08:28

I’d report them for workplace bullying. Not acceptable. Sending you a hug

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Grapefruitstars · 21/12/2023 08:27

Yes I've told them it's boring but it continues.

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tennesseewhiskey1 · 20/12/2023 23:07

Well have you said something to them about it?

muckymayhem · 20/12/2023 23:05

I'd buy her a fuck load of chocolates and put a big note on her screen saying "Dear Gladys, I HAVEN'T eaten all the chocs, but you seem to feel like you are missing out - these are all for you you twat"

I'm assuming it's a woman. Maybe it's a bloke and he fancies you and it's some kind of Neanderthal flirting.

GodDammitCecil · 20/12/2023 23:00

Dacadactyl · 20/12/2023 21:09

No idea what she's trying to do tbh, but I wouldn't be attributing some nasty motive to her! She prob just thinks it's an in joke now about the chocolate! I mean, I don't think it's funny either, but I wouldn't be putting it down to malice on the colleagues part!

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Just a reminder from the OP:

One member of the team has started saying I eat all the chocolate and have hidden some for myself. This isn't true. Literally everytime I get up out my chair this starts. Ohhh grapefruit has gone for the food, she's eaten all the goodies.

It’s not actually that left-field to put this sort of behaviour down to malice. 🤷🏻‍♀️

I’m the first to give people the benefit of the doubt - life ticks along far more pleasantly if you don’t default to assuming the worst of people.

I’d have outwardly chortled (and inwardly rolled my eyes) the first couple of times it was said.

After that, I’d be annoyed. And wondering what she was getting out of persisting. Pretty much like the OP is.

howdoesyourgardengrowinmay · 20/12/2023 23:00

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You're kidding!?

10HailMarys · 20/12/2023 22:47

GodDammitCecil · 20/12/2023 18:13

Are there actually people who shout ‘fuck off’ like hare-brained idiots at colleagues?

Or do they just suggest it on threads for the craic?

I think perhaps you’re a bit naive about the vastly varying office cultures out there.

In my current office, you couldn’t tell someone to fuck off - but equally, in my current office, nobody would be a tedious dickhead like the OP’s colleague is. That’s one of the reasons I like working there. People are nice to each other and nobody’s a weird neggy twat.

In my previous office, there were definitely heated arguments and people definitely, when pushed to their limits, would tell each other to fuck off.

Dacadactyl · 20/12/2023 22:33

@Grapefruitstars I'd just think she was odd (with her own food issues) and carry on eating them whenever I wanted them.

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Grapefruitstars · 20/12/2023 22:23

It's the fact they are making out I'm eating all the chocolates. It just pisses me off. I feel like I'm being scrutinised.

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Dacadactyl · 20/12/2023 22:14

@DerekFaker I'm presuming everyone knows where the chocolates are?! If they want them they'd better be quick in my office.

DerekFaker · 20/12/2023 22:10

Dacadactyl · 20/12/2023 21:01

I'm wondering why this comment has got to you then?!

I mean yeah, it's tedious, but it's not like she's being nasty then is it!

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She's implying OP is greedy and having more than her fair share of the chocolates. How is that NOT an insult?

ThinWomansBrain · 20/12/2023 22:08

mathanxiety · 20/12/2023 16:54

"That might have been funny the first time you said it, but it's just really boring now".

this, accompanied by dumping the whole bloody box on her desk so that she can be chocolate supervisor if she's so bloody obsessed with it.

Hankunamatata · 20/12/2023 22:04

Call them out every time

NaughtybutNice77 · 20/12/2023 21:58

husbandcallsmepickle · 20/12/2023 16:34

Maybe they're trying to distract from the fact they're the one eating all the treats

Yes, turn this back on them. Say out loud "I'm starting to worry about you Snidey. Now we all know you're quite partial to a chocolate yourself but you've become obsessed recently. Why have you appointed yourself guardian of the dairy milk.

Or maybe come back with a handful for her and drop them on desk so she can keep them safe. By the power of cocoa

AlwaysGinPlease · 20/12/2023 21:42

Oh OP I feel your pain. I know someone that does that and it's pathetic. They're deflecting and embarrassing them is the key, as others have said.

ActDottie · 20/12/2023 21:40

They’re probably eating all the choccies and trying to cover it up!! I’d just tell them to shut up and that the joke is old.

mottytotty · 20/12/2023 21:13

Email them and copy their manager and tell them that if the food and body shaming continues, you will have to report to HR. That will scare the shit out of them. Don't say it verbally, email them.

Ffsmakeitstop · 20/12/2023 21:10

velvetoptions · 20/12/2023 17:28

as in completely wrong or misspelt?

just being nosy!

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Completely wrong and to make matters worse I spelt it wrong the second time 😂 I should probably just give in.
He wasn't snarky just aggravating.

Dacadactyl · 20/12/2023 21:09

GodDammitCecil · 20/12/2023 19:29

What is she trying to do then, in your opinion?

I mean, I know you can’t get inside her head to answer that, but she’s doing something - and it’s well and truly not appreciated.

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No idea what she's trying to do tbh, but I wouldn't be attributing some nasty motive to her! She prob just thinks it's an in joke now about the chocolate! I mean, I don't think it's funny either, but I wouldn't be putting it down to malice on the colleagues part!

catsnore · 20/12/2023 21:04

I'd be tempted to grab the sweets and do a weird little dance with them for her in front of her desk. Decorate her desk with sweets and sweet wrappers. Maybe eat a few in a greedy way. Get the attention of the entire office and then breezily walk off with a no fucks given 'are you happy now Julie, or do I have to do that every day?'

Dacadactyl · 20/12/2023 21:01

Grapefruitstars · 20/12/2023 20:12

I'm a size 10!

I'm wondering why this comment has got to you then?!

I mean yeah, it's tedious, but it's not like she's being nasty then is it!

NeedOutASAP · 20/12/2023 21:00

I'd just say, "If you're not fast, you're last" whilst licking my lips.

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