To dress siblings the same?

Cute for, under 5s, but after that, it looks silly.

An acquaintance of mine makes her 12yo and 6yo dress the same, and it looks so dumb. I'm amazed the 12yo puts up with it tbh.

I have a DD and a DS with 2.5yrs between them. They loved being in matching outfits on the odd occasions it happened.

A neighbour has 3DDs with one being 18mths older than the (non-identical) twins. She says it saves rows between the toddler twins if they're in the same and the older sister complaining that she's different if she's not in the same too. I'm just impressed that she's on top of the washing enough to have the same outfits clean at the same time!

OMG really?!?

My mum dressed me and my sister the same until I was old enough to choose my own clothing. It was never anything more than because she liked the clothing and thought we'd look cute as a twosome. And it did nothing to shape my personality or anything.

If there were other things going in your life, I'm sorry about that, but your response is extreme.

Ugh no. I was made to wear matching clothes as my younger sister and I hated it. They treated us the same (same birthday and Christmas presents too) even though there was 3 years age difference and I absolutely detested having to wear the same clothes, same hairstyle and have the same books and toys as my younger sibling. Even worse was the same bedtime! 😡

I felt so ignored.

Whatever makes you happy! It's not like they are 18 and 16 years of age. Go for it and enjoy the cuteness!!

Tackissimo.

I'm pretty sure this poster isn't my sister, but I was the younger in this exact situation and hated it.

Absolutely this. I hated it, but my mother would.always dress us the same. When my sister (older) started complaining, she still dressed us the same but in different colours. I still hated it. It robs the child of its individuality, it took me a while to discover my own style and personality and only as an older teen.

I'm in the tacky crowd but my friend had her whole family dressed the same and she's not tacky at all and has such a fun spirit. She's kind and lovely and her family is gorgeous so now I've changed my mind.

Go and have fun.

They are identical though

@twoshedsjackson was that to me?

If so I totally agree and as I said before we very rarely match them. Even with clothes they own in matching they tend to wear them at different times. It is sometimes easier to match at special events etc because finding two equally nice but different dresses is really really hard!

Unless they are identical twins, one will look (maybe only slightly) better in the outfit than the other, which could store up resentment, recorded forever in photos etc.
If they attend the same school. they are already being made to match by default; why not let them be their own person when "off duty"?

Cute at this age. Don't carry on past 5 though would be my personal cut off (although I may do matching colours!) For professional photos then family colour matching is appropriate too!

@lanthanum mine are 7 and still don't really mind if I pick out their clothes.
Some days they will say 'no I want to wear a dress/skirt/trousers today' but usually they're more than happy with what a pull out!

I grew up in London. I suspect my parents were just lacking in imagination 🙃

Mine was born in the autumn of 1979 and there were loads of clothes available in the 1990s, a lot of them not expensive if you looked around, chain stores like BHS were good. It may vary according to wear you live of course but there was much in the way of children's clothes in most towns.

Good point 😂

I loathe this, so tacky. Poor kids.

I don't see it as tacky but then I grew up in the 80s where it was standard (and also far less choice of kids clothes available!).

Cute if they’re 18 months. Not so much at 17 years 😁

Nah - if you're in a household where hand-me-downs are essential, it's hardest on child number 3 who gets to wear the same outfit for 3/4 years.

I'm interested in the notion of people 'dressing' their 4 years plus chidren. I mean, don't most choose what to wear by then? They have enough conformity at school. Obviously they need to wear something appropriate for circumstances- formal if necessary, and clean, well fitting etc if leaving the house. But my lot had a huge amount of choice so the concept of 'dressing' older twins is a bit bonkers to me!

I don't usually dress my twins the same (age 7). It's more because I want people to easily know who is who and not keep getting their names wrong as they're identical. They have a lot of matching clothes because honestly it's a nightmare if I find one dress they love but not a second as their personal preferences are very similar... but tend to wear them at different times.

They do sometimes match but that is their choice if they pick out the same outfit in the same day.

Having said that I don't have an opinion on other people dressing their children matching. I prefer coordinating personally (so same dress, different colour. Or different outfit but same colour etc) but I wouldn't look at matching and think anything bad.

Are they old enough to ask them? My younger sisters used to choose to wear matching outfits

Now that's more like what used to happen in my house 😂