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‘But he’s friendly’

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Baffledandalarmed · 17/12/2023 09:26

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On a dog walk. My dogs (two) off lead, walking to heel and generally not being pests. It’s a busy walk (along the top of a beach) so they’re keeping close until we get onto the beach.

Four people sitting on benches - facing the path and chatting. Six little dogs all running around them off the lead. Three run up to mine growling and nipping. One of my dogs makes to bolt (he’s a puppy still and very much at the ‘flight’ stage or flight or fight). I grab him and ask owners to call their dogs back.

Their response ‘but they’re friendly’ and make no move to intervene. Dogs still jumping up and growling in my dogs faces. I end up being bitten trying to get their dogs away - which wouldn’t have happened if it had been ‘play’ as dogs don’t play with their bloody canines exposed.

AIBU to think that ‘friendly dogs’ dogs don’t run up to other dogs and nip at them and growl and snarl? And ‘he/she/they are friendly is code for I can’t be bothered to train my dogs’?

Dogs growl when they play, mine do all the time, but there’s a distinct difference between the two growls. If one dog is clearly terrified then you call your damn dog back?

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furtivetussling · 17/12/2023 11:27

Yes. I don't care how friendly it is. I just want dog owners to keep it the fuck out of my way.

PGmicstand · 17/12/2023 11:26

I like dogs but it passes me off when people have them off lead in a public space when they don't have proper recall.
The amount of times I've had muddy/wet prints up my legs from "just being friendly" dogs that have approached me. DC and friend were chased by a dog that was "just being friendly" ( friend is scared of dogs). A gosling was killed by an offlead dog in our park, in front of people. The dog owner pretty much shrugged it off.
If you can't control your dog, you shouldn't have one.

EdithStourton · 17/12/2023 11:22

I got told by the owner of a terrier that my middling sized dog was 'a bit aggressive'.

Um no. You could clearly see that I was training my dog and that she was intently focused on what we were doing. Your spectacularly un-trained (but essentially very sweet little dog) came rollicking over in your full view (but you have no recall) and got into my dog's face, at speed. My dog barked 'Fuck off!' and chased for two or three strides, and then came immediately back to me.

All my dog was doing was teaching your 'she's friendly!' (she is, I know her) little hooligan a few canine manners that might save her a proper bite from an actually aggressive dog.

CaroleSinger · 17/12/2023 11:21

When they do the 'he's friendly' thing to me I just say 'mine isn't ' then watch them panic trying to get their dogs back.

Sharontheodopolodous · 17/12/2023 11:12

hookiewookie29 · 17/12/2023 10:25

We have a 3 year old Staffy. He goes off lead, never even looks at another dog,he doesn't bother them at all. We get numerous small dogs running up and yapping around his feet, and the pathetic owners are " oh don't worry, little Tarquin is only playing "
Damn sure that if my boy retaliated it would be all over the local news because of his breed.....

My son had the same thing

His staffie is about 5 (rescue) and they where walking through the local park

Dog was on lead,at heel with my son (who is 6 foot tall and broad)

Little rat dog runs up and is hanging off ds's dogs throat

Staffie is freaking out and trying to get it off, my ds is trying to pull it off and the owner (who ds said was about 5 foot tall and tiny) is squawking that her dog is 'friendly'

My son growls at her and tells her hes not and to get her dog off his or he will

Long story short,the other owner rang the police to say the staffie had attacked hers and my son was aggressive towards her!

Thank god it was a busy,hot day with a lot of witnesses and the woman got a bollocking for wasting police time

Ds could have lost his dog through no fault of his own and ended up all over the news for having a dangerous breed (dangerous my arse-a well trained staffie is a gorgeous breed) when it was the rat style dog who started it

Shannith · 17/12/2023 11:09

Don't get me started. It's the hill I'm prepared to die on. Teach your dog whatever size it is recall.

Recall from anything in any situation or they don't get to go off lead.

I've fostered a few small dogs who were basically ruined by people like this. Dog aggressive, snappy to humans, resource guarding,no recall, not wales enough, pains in the butt, treated like lapdogs and rehomed because of it.

They were all absolutely fine and a delight to have around after a couple of months of proper training and being treated as if they were a big dog.

I also have had some bigger reactive dogs and my worse nightmare was yappy out of control dogs run up with people cooing it's ok they are friendly.

Well mine isn't. It's on 2 luminous leads, I've got high viz on, it's muzzled, it's early int be morning over a farm and I'm shouting at you to put your dogs on a lead because I am training g it not to react and you've just undone weeks of work.

vanillaredbushtea · 17/12/2023 10:53

Did you call the police to destroy the dog?

Baffledandalarmed · 17/12/2023 10:49

Passingthethyme · 17/12/2023 10:16

What was their reaction to you being bitten? I hope you reported them. I honestly feel all dogs should have to be on a lead, and maybe even muzzled as I'm seeing this more and more often. A 2 year old was attacked (by a large dog, not that it should matter) in my local playground a month ago, absolutely devastating. Owners shrugged, and quickly drove off.

Nothing! They did not care at all. Only bothered to call their dogs off when one of mine jumped trying to get away and landed on one of their dogs backs (all 50KG of him!)

No apology for the bite I sustained or the terror of my puppy, only concern about their dog potentially being injured.

They wanted my information so when they took their dog to the vet they could charge me - I happily said I’d exchange information so I could report them for having out of control dogs. Naturally they very quickly changed their minds…

Feel very sorry for their dogs.

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Honeyglazed · 17/12/2023 10:49

Some people shouldn’t have dogs and sadly it’ll be those idiots that ruin it for the rest of us that have actually bothered to train our dogs and keep them under control.

i Always put mine on a lead to pass other people on a footpath we frequently walk.

He walks beautifully to heel (I am being boastful 😂) when a lady with two dogs straining at the lead walks towards us. She asks how we trained him to walk so well as she proceeds to let her dogs off who fly over and bounce all over mine 🙄 why would any normal person do this??
She didn’t even ask if mine was ok with other dogs or why it was on a lead. The mind boggles

GSD20 · 17/12/2023 10:43

I don’t allow my dogs to interact with anyone else’s because 9 times out of 10 they are horrid. I just want to walk and enjoy my dogs in peace without being hassled.

Usually when someone calls out he’s friendly I shout back good for him but mines nasty/bites. Usually gets them moving!

Round here the offenders are 99% some type of poodle or poodle cross

Ponoka7 · 17/12/2023 10:42

MyDogCafe · 17/12/2023 10:21

Well no I’ll kick the little thing that looks like it’s going to bite me.

I just feel sorry for a dog getting kicked because their human is an irresponsible cunt. But as I said earlier, all dogs should be on leads in public areas.

I used to hate having to do it. But I had a GS and it would have been my dog blamed and potentially PTS. I started carrying a metal lead, so I could flick them away (not viciously, but the would at least react and get their dog). One if my very gentle female GS had her personality changed towards smaller dogs because she was bitten and constantly snarled/ran at.

sandgrown · 17/12/2023 10:33

My Shih Tzu was plodding along when he was attacked by 3 out of control chihuahuas. I made the mistake of picking him up and they carried on jumping and trying to snap at him. They ran across a road to get to him
and completely ignored the owner . Nasty nippy little dogs

LeaveBritneyAlone · 17/12/2023 10:32

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I’m a bitch? Why 🤣 because I don’t want some ankle snapper ‘saying hello’

These cross breeds are bred for aesthetics with no consideration for anything else. I have to say any ‘friendly’ dog - including the one that made a hole in my leggings when it bit them - was a something-poo. Whenever I’ve seen a staffy or bulldog they’ve completely ignored me. The yappy tiny needy annoying ones are the ones that are the most bothersome IMO.

If that makes me a bitch then meh

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MyDogCafe · 17/12/2023 10:21

Well no I’ll kick the little thing that looks like it’s going to bite me.

I just feel sorry for a dog getting kicked because their human is an irresponsible cunt. But as I said earlier, all dogs should be on leads in public areas.

Yes it’s no ideal but I’ll never be someone who gets bitten on purpose.

hookiewookie29 · 17/12/2023 10:25

We have a 3 year old Staffy. He goes off lead, never even looks at another dog,he doesn't bother them at all. We get numerous small dogs running up and yapping around his feet, and the pathetic owners are " oh don't worry, little Tarquin is only playing "
Damn sure that if my boy retaliated it would be all over the local news because of his breed.....

MyDogCafe · 17/12/2023 10:21

Well no I’ll kick the little thing that looks like it’s going to bite me.

I just feel sorry for a dog getting kicked because their human is an irresponsible cunt. But as I said earlier, all dogs should be on leads in public areas.

CoatOfArms · 17/12/2023 10:17

I don't care whether your dog is friendly, unfriendly, indifferent, aggressive, or a soft lump.

It is YOUR job as a dog owner to keep it under control and make sure it does not come anywhere near me. This is what I hate most about entitled dog owners, they expect everyone to be as besotted with their animals as they are. Many of us are not.

Passingthethyme · 17/12/2023 10:16

What was their reaction to you being bitten? I hope you reported them. I honestly feel all dogs should have to be on a lead, and maybe even muzzled as I'm seeing this more and more often. A 2 year old was attacked (by a large dog, not that it should matter) in my local playground a month ago, absolutely devastating. Owners shrugged, and quickly drove off.

LeaveBritneyAlone · 17/12/2023 10:15

ColleenDonaghy · 17/12/2023 10:13

"Friendly" dogs are the reason I now have two small DC who are utterly terrified of dogs. Loved them as babies and then as soon as they were out and toddling they had dogs running up and getting in their faces. No physical harm done but funnily enough they didn't perceive it as friendly as all.

Yep. My DS is scared of them too. Don’t blame him - dogs the same size as him coming over for a good sniff because apparently “they’re just saying hello” 🙄

ColleenDonaghy · 17/12/2023 10:13

"Friendly" dogs are the reason I now have two small DC who are utterly terrified of dogs. Loved them as babies and then as soon as they were out and toddling they had dogs running up and getting in their faces. No physical harm done but funnily enough they didn't perceive it as friendly as all.

LeaveBritneyAlone · 17/12/2023 10:13

MyDogCafe · 17/12/2023 10:10

I’ll tell them I’m not and I will kick it away if it continues to bother me

I suggest kicking the owner instead if you’re going to kick.

Well no I’ll kick the little thing that looks like it’s going to bite me.

Saw a video recently of a horse rider using a go pro. She was cantering on a beach and some soghthound type thing rang alongside and tried to go for the horse. She shouted “She will kick it call it back” to the owner who completely lost it saying it was the horse’s fault for going too fast on a beach full of dogs 🙄

BubbleBubbleBubbleBubblePop · 17/12/2023 10:12

I'd have given the dog a boot if it had bitten me

MyDogCafe · 17/12/2023 10:10

I’ll tell them I’m not and I will kick it away if it continues to bother me

I suggest kicking the owner instead if you’re going to kick.

MyDogCafe · 17/12/2023 10:09

We’re very fortunate where we live, I’ve never come across one of these owners. I always keep out dogs on a lead though unless on our land. I don’t think any dog should be off lead in public places, I really love dogs but you can’t trust any 100%.