School Nativity Ticket Debate

To those of you saying that the tickets should be allocated per child rather than per family, why should the child who was a friend of one of mine have 2 tickets as an only child whilst his best friend's family would get 10 as he was one of 5? It was a school of nearly 400 pupils but the school hall was the size of a netball court and even with 4 performances there were few spare tickets beyond the 2 per family.

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It's not that twin parents deserve extra tickets because twins are hard per se... just if you're point is to demand 'fairness', we've probably got a fair few more on our side where we get a harder deal.

So yeah, if on the odd occasion the coin falls in our favour, don't begrudge it. It doesn't happen often!

yes twins are hard, but so are two children a year apart

Every twin mum rolling their eyes right now
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SuperBored

@44PumpLane I would say there are lots of wins with twins...you never have children at different schools, you never have different school holidays/inset days for different children, you don't have to spend two different evenings going to nativity/parents evenings/open evenings, or keep abreast of what children in different years are supposed to be learning

You're assuming twins in same school here.....and mine currently are but that may change if my SEN twin can't cope with mainstream middle when it comes!

Also, you're assuming no other siblings.

Our school does daytime parents "evening" so you're right it's a lot more convenient only having to go along once.....but we do get so few of these wins :)

All the school needs to do is make it two per family instead of two per child, which eliminates the obvious unfairness re twins.

Then if there are any tickets left over, they get allocated via a waiting list and handed out first come, first served, which is perfectly fair.

Our school do two performances and that way everyone gets all the tickets they could dream of. 😂

I have never seen such an unconvincing attempt to play the victim. Rollercoasters and hotel rooms 🤣

I think two per "set" of children in each year/shared performance if that makes sense is fairest. Yes twins are even more difficult in so many ways - but they usually have the same two "primary" parental/guardian figures any other single child or sibling group would have, on average anyway, so I fail to see why every child shouldn't have the theoretical opportunity to have two parents/primary caregivers present before anyone gets extras for grandparents, aunts, uncles, step-parents and so on who aren't primary caregivers.

Of course scheduling/work/shifts etc. don't always work out so straightforwardly, but ticketing should be proportional to the average expected number of involved parents/primary adults rather than the number of children when they share the exact same parents imo. Then if every child doesn't have two parents/adults coming for whatever reason, additional tickets can be wait listed/requested for.

Two per family is fairest. Twins have two parents, so why do they need four tickets??

Yes, yes twins are hard, but so are two children a year apart. not to mention single parents who have to take a toddler, preschooler along, or disabled parents...I mean we could just go on and on!

Our school did two per child and children with divorced parents got them split.

Extra tickets raffled off. Super fair, its not about your twin child's right to be an individual, it's about making it fair for parents.

There's no ticketing for ours and 120 kids in the year group, nativity is reception only other years do other plays, two showings, one for parents of classes a&b one for parents of classes c&d , both at 9am. We didn't take grandparents but the hall is huge and there was plenty of space so I wish we had. We do live in an area where almost all families have two working parents so whilst we were able to both be there and there were other families the same, there were lots where only one parent could make it (we live near a huge hospital so lots of doctors and nurses amongst parents)

Generally not allowed due to Child protection and privacy. No photography whatsoever.

Can't people film it on their mobiles for the Grandparents extended family to see

I think this is fair as when my children were at school while families seemed to turn up , aunties, cousins, grandparents etc which meant there was no where to sit and everyone was packed like sardines and couldn't see anything properly.

My youngest DC has their nativity tonight. There's also a performance tomorrow afternoon. We get one ticket per performance at a cost of £2 each and then get to request extra if needed and if available. DH is going tomorrow and I'm going tonight.

I had to request an extra one for tonight's performance so that my 8yo, who isn't in the nativity could come with me. Otherwise, I'd have to find a babysitter 😂

@applejuice123 I have no doubt that having twins as babies presents a lot of extra challenges, but once they are school age, if they are your only children rather than 2 siblings of different ages, there are upsides was my point.

People feel the same way when someone has a child in reception and a child in year two in the same nativity, and the family get four tickets. Arguably two tickets per family would be more fair, so that every child could just have both parents there rather than some being able to have grandparents as well.

I wouldn't actually be bothered to complain to a school about this and think you should enjoy your extra tickets, but I do understand the argument for why it's unfair, and nothing to do with treating twins as though they're not individuals.

As someone who used to work in a school office I can assure you they did.
Every single year I would have parents angry or crying about not getting additional tickets.

Do you have twins @SuperBored ?

Twins in my opinion presents many challenges.

In my school I had two children in year 1 and they have an individual performance per year group. I think I should have been offered 4 tickets.

Siblings is not the same as twins.

It's been massively challenging from the minute that line came up on the test. Carrying two 6lb babies around til 37 weeks. Giving birth to them vaginally (would not recommend) - siblings are usually spaced more than 3 minutes apart are they not?! Needing to buy a new car. Not being able to easily breastfeed. New pram! Unwanted attention. One asleep , one awake all the time. Endless night feeds. Double illness. The guilt of not being able to give your newborn all your time/more of your time.

Two sets of new school uniform. Arguments about who comes to parties. Arguments about who has been invited to parties.

Constant comparison in a way that is much more intense than non twins.

And people treating them as one unit.

They are individuals and they should be treated as such.

Of course there are many more fabulous moments and I would not change my situation. It's very special. But an extra two tickets would as others have said be a nice little perk to a very financially and mentally and physically difficult time!

@applejuice123 nothing about your post is specific to having twins, just a family of 5, same as my post was with the assumption the twins were the only children compared to a family with two different aged siblings.

That would be much fairer.

We also get invited to 90 children's parties a year 🤣

We have 3 x separate parents evening.

4 x performances at Xmas.

I can never watch all my kids in sports day at once.

We deserve the extra tickets...

This has pissed me off so much.

I'm a mum of twins.

They are individuals and should be treated as such. It should be 2 tickets per kid.

Twin life is hard, especially as I have another child. The world is not set up for a family of 5. Cars, travelling, rollercoasters, hotel rooms, family tickets. Can't even buy food as I want as everything is packaged in 4s.

And I have to pay for three end of year presents for teachers and about 9 x TAs.

It should be two tickets per child - that is fair

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And lots of carping from parents whose kid was a cow rather than a star I hope!

Surely not all 160 kids are in this nativity?