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To really hate this phrase

212 replies

Endsofthetowel · 12/12/2023 20:39

And I am being unreasonable

Mucky pup.

It makes me cringe whenever it is used to 3 year old DS. I have no idea why, I am sure its unreasonable, but does anyone else have a strong reaction to a harmless phrase?

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Aquariass · 14/12/2023 00:55

‘This one’ when captioned under a photo referring to a person.

MeanMedian · 14/12/2023 00:53

Snugglemonkey · 14/12/2023 00:50

We may all have to eat, but some people shove beige stuff on trays into ovens and some people carefully select ingredients with which to cook from scratch. They are not both foodies.

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Oh goodness, this is a thread about words and phrases you (mostly irrationally!) don’t like. It’s not a big deal 🙂

Snugglemonkey · 14/12/2023 00:50

MeanMedian · 13/12/2023 18:59

Oh, also, people who describe themselves / others as ‘foodies.’

We all have to eat, David.

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We may all have to eat, but some people shove beige stuff on trays into ovens and some people carefully select ingredients with which to cook from scratch. They are not both foodies.

MeanMedian · 14/12/2023 00:39

Maggiethecat · 13/12/2023 19:19

Have to disagree. Some eat to live and others live to eat!

Probably another loathed phrase!

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I never said I was being reasonable or rational Grin

I especially dislike ‘we’re real foodies.’

MeanMedian · 14/12/2023 00:37

CrapGoat · 14/12/2023 00:02

@MeanMedian I don't like that either-it is also a real bugbear of the police when taking 999 calls about a fight or domestic or such.
'They're kicking off in the street!'
'What're they doing though?'
'They're kicking off! One of 'em kicked off with the other and now there's 3 of 'em, all kicking off!'
'But what exactly are they doing sir?
'THEY'RE KICKING OFF!'
😂

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Ha that’s brilliant. I’m picturing many people doing stupid Monty Python style kicking walks in a town centre.

Snugglemonkey · 14/12/2023 00:24

ChristmasFluff · 13/12/2023 07:25

I lived in Scotland for many years and mostly really enjoyed the difference in language.

But 'outwith' did my head in. Totally irrational inner fury every time.

I am not from Scotland, but live here and have 100% embraced outwith. It just makes sense 🙂

JamieJ93 · 14/12/2023 00:07

Oh god,
There is a dog groomers up the road from me called "mucky pups" and it makes me cringe every time I drive past it 😬

CrapGoat · 14/12/2023 00:02

MeanMedian · 13/12/2023 23:42

Kicked off

@MeanMedian I don't like that either-it is also a real bugbear of the police when taking 999 calls about a fight or domestic or such.
'They're kicking off in the street!'
'What're they doing though?'
'They're kicking off! One of 'em kicked off with the other and now there's 3 of 'em, all kicking off!'
'But what exactly are they doing sir?
'THEY'RE KICKING OFF!'
😂

CrapGoat · 14/12/2023 00:01

I hate 'Fill them up', context usually being on MN threads about a child's diet.

'He needs more protein OP, that'll fill him up!'

'I don't think that's going to fill her up OP'
I don't know why I hate this so much!
Maybe a childhood thing, I remember my Mum saying 'That'll fill yer Tummy up!' and I hate the word 'Tummy' too. maybe just a me thing

MeanMedian · 13/12/2023 23:42

Kicked off

mrlistersgelfbride · 13/12/2023 23:11

hotchestnut · 13/12/2023 09:21

A relative of mine would call revising for exams 'boning up'. I remember a conversation one weekend when he asked if I needed to 'bone up' on my maths and I felt physically ill.

Also hate 'curl up' and as 'curl up on the sofa with the tv'. I always imagine someone wound up like an arctic roll.

Also can't stand being asked if I slept well. I have no idea why.

Wound up like arctic roll 😂🤣 ...brilliant!

"Making memories"
"Rock up"
"Hubby" or even worse "Hubster"

Fur babies , dog mum, mama bear 🤮

A weird one but my mother in law always refers to my severe PND period as 'you were away with the mixer"
... I've never heard anyone else say this at any other time.

ShinyAppleDreamingOfTheSea · 13/12/2023 23:09

MyBrownEyedHandsomeBoy · 13/12/2023 13:57

A couple I know calll each other bubs.
Makes me a little sick in my mouth

Makes me a little sick in my mouth has to be one of my most hated sayings - and I've only ever seen it on here .

Kingsleadhat · 13/12/2023 23:09

TheYearOfSmallThings · 12/12/2023 22:57

"I text him yesterday"

As far as I'm concerned, you texted him yesterday.

This one drives me nuts as well

ShinyAppleDreamingOfTheSea · 13/12/2023 23:05

WhichEllie · 13/12/2023 01:14

I don’t like when people repeatedly add an unnecessary “the” in front of a day. As in, “Well on the Saturday we did x so on the Sunday we did y, but we would have done y on the Wednesday if we hadn’t…” On Saturday. On Sunday. You don’t need to add “the” in there every time. It’s completely unnecessary.

Does this not show that they are speaking of a specific week? Eg 'we went on holiday two weeks ago and on the Sunday we went to a water park' has a different meaning to 'we went on holiday two weeks ago and on Sunday we went to a water park' which suggests it was the Sunday after the holiday not during .

Mistressofnone · 13/12/2023 22:56

"Let's squash those rumours"

Quash. It's quash!

UncleHerbie · 13/12/2023 22:39

alwaystroubleonmn · 13/12/2023 22:32

But when people say someone passed away are you confused? Do you have to seek clarification? Dead and died are hard words to deal with emotionally and generally when you are speaking to someone about the death of their loved ones, minimising their pain is most people’s objective - the language you chose to use does make a difference to how they feel at that moment.

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When I told friends my mum had died that’s exactly the word I used. Saying passed/passed away wouldn’t have made the pain I felt any easier to bear. When doctors have to tell relatives that someone has died they are taught to use precise words so there’s no confusion

alwaystroubleonmn · 13/12/2023 22:32

UncleHerbie · 13/12/2023 19:55

I find “passed” and “passed away” irritating. The person died. Using those words doesn’t change that fact. However, each to their own (another potential cringe) 🤷‍♀️

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But when people say someone passed away are you confused? Do you have to seek clarification? Dead and died are hard words to deal with emotionally and generally when you are speaking to someone about the death of their loved ones, minimising their pain is most people’s objective - the language you chose to use does make a difference to how they feel at that moment.

Fedupwitheveryone · 13/12/2023 20:53

'To be fair'
'I'm not gonna lie'

So very annoying and unnecessary

Lilacanemone · 13/12/2023 20:47

Mummymummy89 · 13/12/2023 02:38

Pedant here - using the present tense for immediacy, when narrating the past, actually dates all the way back to Latin and was considered good oracy back then.

"And then this guy walks in..." anticipates the impending drama better than "and then this guy walked in"

(You're still allowed to find it annoying obvs)

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It’s not quite the same somehow. It’s only ever “see” that’s written like that. I don’t know why unless they are trying to say “I seen such and such”, which would also be annoying but not quite annoying as “I see”.
For instance someone will query if you now have to pay for a car park which was previously free and someone will answer, “yes, I see a sign this morning as I drove in”.

LizzieW1969 · 13/12/2023 20:29

I find ‘kinda’ grating, e.g. ‘I kinda get it’. It should be ‘kind of’.

For the same reason, I dislike ‘gonna’ for ‘going to’.

queenmeadhbh · 13/12/2023 20:29

Dogknowsbest · 12/12/2023 21:57

Least favourite word in the English language is posh. I feel like when people use it to describe someone, it's a backhanded compliment.

Is posh not disparaging?? I would only ever describe someone as posh in a negative way, like snobby - not as a compliment, backhanded or otherwise!

Hbh17 · 13/12/2023 20:17

"He passed away" - no, he died.
"She passed" - her exams? Her driving test? Oh, you mean she died?
"Train station" - this is the very worst one - trains don't have stations, but railways do.
"Myself and Billy" - I think you mean "Billy and I".

Plus almost all of the others mentioned on this thread, especially the hubby/crimbo type ones!

UncleHerbie · 13/12/2023 20:04

Petrine · 13/12/2023 09:23

In fashion magazines…

the trouser
the shoe
red lip

I snorted aloud in duty free when the salesperson, having sampled mascara on me exclaimed “you’ve got a lovely lash!” What, just the one?? I had to convert the snort to a snorf (snort/cough hybrid) 😂

Chickenkeev · 13/12/2023 19:58

UncleHerbie · 13/12/2023 19:55

I find “passed” and “passed away” irritating. The person died. Using those words doesn’t change that fact. However, each to their own (another potential cringe) 🤷‍♀️

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It just seems so blunt though.

UncleHerbie · 13/12/2023 19:55

Riverlee · 13/12/2023 05:47

X ‘passed’ instead of ‘passed away’ . Really infuriates me. Is it more of an American phrase?

I find “passed” and “passed away” irritating. The person died. Using those words doesn’t change that fact. However, each to their own (another potential cringe) 🤷‍♀️