Big boobs

Go to bravissimo. It was a revelation! I'm size14-16 and a 36g. So no way are you a 38z

You really wont be a 38 op

The band is supposed to feel really tight at the beginning as you wear it in and you wear them on the loosest notch then as it gets looser with time you put it on the next notch so its tighter again and so forth until your on the final notch when that starts to get loose your due a new bra. Your bra's are supposed to be firm fitting and supporting

If you're going to show anyone your bra for fit, go into a shop with professional fitters and do it there.

Don't do this, OP. Even cropped.

You need to be properly measured as you're undoubtedly wearing the wrong size bra, which will make you look more "booby" as you aren't supported properly and they won't be sitting right.

Do NOT do this! I can't believe people post shit like this on a public forum.

I echo others worth getting an expert bra fitting. You keep going up sizes in your posts for a 12 to a 16….buy I am a size 20/22 but I wear a size 38 like you think you are. You mum seems to be trying to tell you too to get a bra fitting so obviously something is not right with your bra.

if you have very big breasts and are wearing size 16 or 14 or even 12, that's probably to accommodate your breasts. So I agree with everyone else, I think you're not wearing the right bra size.

Having said that, I had a breast reduction in my 20s and it was life changing. At the time, I was about a size 10-12 but on top I routinely wore a size 14-16 because of my breasts. The surgeon did not take as much as I wanted, but after the surgery, I went down to a 32D. Sadly, having gained weight, I'm not a 38E and I definitely have big breasts, but I remind myself that if I hadn't had the surgery they'd probably be a 38J or something!

So my advice is 1. look into better fitting bras that are more supportive and 2. if it really really bothers you, consider surgery.

A properly fitting bra will make your boobs look smaller. As will wearing v-neck t-shirts and jumpers. Go to Bravissimo and get a proper fitting. I've always been busty and was J/K cup when BF so trust me!

Hello, I agree with others about making sure you're the correct size.
It sounds as though your chest size would reduce if you lost some weight - easier said than done I know!

I'd also suggest there are ways to dress more modestly , I am 30G/H size. I find that wearing knit dresses or dresses that have that expandable stretchy section at the back help. Wrap dresses.

Then tops which have a 'boat neck' style are really helpful, high waisted jeans etc

Echo all the PP about getting a proper fitting bra

My other top tip is to wear v necks as so much more flattering then a higher neck

I have huge boobs. I hate them.

But

Supermarket brands are rubbish. The sizing awful.

Get to bravissimo or similar. You'd be shocked how much of a difference it makes.

But yes I'm booby in everything.

I would love a reduction but can't afford it

@RoseMarigoldViolet im about the same size as OP and Tesco do a good sleeping bra. I can’t link for you but they are ribbed, thin straps and come in packs of 3 around about £15. I usually wear them daily too as my chest is really heavy but I don’t have really any fat against my ribs so the underwear just cuts right in, bras without the wire give me a triangular look🤣

Agree with having a proper bra fitting at bravissimo. A good fitting bra makes a huge difference. I'd also say it's unlikely you're a 38 band.

Thanks, Merryoldgoat !

@RoseMarigoldViolet

I wear these

SIMIYA Super Comfort Bra, Womens... https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B07T89DG3K?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share

They just keep me in place whilst sleeping. No actual support!

Could anyone recommend a shop that does a nice sleeping bra? Something soft and comfy that just keeps them in place so you don’t turn and leave them behind in the bed!!

The smaller band size probably felt uncomfortable before as your band is trying to accommodate all the boob that doesn't fit into a too small cup.

Your boobs may also be the shape that need scooping into bras: ie parts of them go wide and towards the under arms

Mine aren't particularly massive but I have a small back and can't for the life of me find anywhere that stocks cup sizes larger than a D with a small enough bandsize, even looking at some websites a lot of them start at a 32, I need 28/30

I suspect you're wearing the wrong size and probably need a smaller band and a larger cup size. If you're a 12, you are very unlikely to actually be a 38. I used to wear a 38FF too... then I got a fitting at Bravissimo and they pointed out that I'm actually either a 32 or a 34GG/H, depending on the style/brand.

Get yourself a proper bra fitting (not in M&S, they're terrible at it). Ideally go to somewhere like Bravissimo that specialises in bras for larger busts. Honestly, it's a game-changer for those of us with massive knockers. Did wonders for my confidence.

I echo getting a proper fitting, OP, and I feel your pain. When I was younger I got heartily sick of men and women assuming I was a bit of a slut because I had big boobs and yes! I will make everything look booby because they are BIG! Don't let men talk to them, pull them on them, pull them on their behaviour and if they don't behave, walk away. So fecking rude!

I’m a 36F snd proud of my (natural) boobs. A lot of women pay a lot of money for similar.

A proper fitting will do wonders - I went from wearing 40/42 DD to 38GG - tranformed me and my boobs! I went to Bravisimo.

https://www.bravissimo.com/how-to-get-a-bra-fitting/

https://www.brastop.com/pages/bra-fitting-guide

I'd look through the sizing guides and then look on these sites for bras.

It is very much a pain in arse IME - and yes I don't really wear T-shirts with round necks - v necks are possible though. You do just factor it into clothing choices that suit your body - and often have a wrap/cardigan jacket to "hide" from stares.