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Skipping the Que

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LindaHoney · 10/12/2023 20:46

Now that I am calmer, I think perhaps I may have been a jerk but I was so annoyed earlier.

I was catching the train to work with about 20 minutes to spare. I stopped off at the deli near the trainstation (also petrol station), Sunday morning close to Xmas, the que was longer than usual and the staff were slow enough.

This lady skipped the que and approached the men at the top and asked if she could stand in, as she was in a hurry as she had a baby in the car.

I was annoyed but whatever. She then did the same thing in the que to pay.

She left the shop and while I was in the que to pay, and by now, barely going to make my train due to the slow deli, she came back in, picked up a bottle of water and approached the man at the top of the que.

I was second in the que, she had the same story. “Sorry is it ok to jump in, I just have a baby in the car”.

he said it was ok. It was not ok with me. I piped up and told her no it wasn’t okay, everyone’s got places to be and I’m in a hurry too, she’s after skipping twice and wants to skip the third time? Get to the back of the que and wait your turn.

she started yelling I was very rude, very rude indeed, turned to the sales assistant saying how rude I was and the sales assistant served her.

the man who let her go ahead of him also let me go ahead of him.

I didn’t complain to the sales assistant but I called the shop immediately after I got on the train, complained to the manager and he called me back there tonight to say he watched the cctv back and he is after reprimanding the assistant in question.

OP posts:
FofB · 10/12/2023 21:20

What a load of nonsense- there's no way she had a baby sat in the car on its own. I'm with you OP, her time isn't more important that yours.

43ontherocksporfavor · 10/12/2023 21:18

You know how to spell it but keep making the same mistake?
Sorry OP , I’m out.

Headshoulderscheeseontoast · 10/12/2023 21:17

LindaHoney · 10/12/2023 21:11

I know how to spell it. I’m just unbothered by bad spelling, sorry.

And skipped 3 times. Twice originally. Once at the deli. Once at the till. Exited, returned, skipped again.

The reason I complained to the manager was because I felt like I was being treated like the asshole to say I don’t want to let the same person skip ahead of me 3 times. I have places to be too. If I miss my train it’s an hour until the next one.

The shop assistant disregarded that the people queuing were not okay with her skipping for the third time and I felt ignored when the shop assistant let her go ahead of me.

I don’t feel like I did anything wrong yet was verbally dressed down and the shop assistant ignored what I felt like was a valid point.

Shop assistants don't get paid enough to care about shit like this. You and the queue jumper made their day/job harder than it needed to be

senua · 10/12/2023 21:16

I’m just unbothered by bad spelling
YABVU

As for the rest. No idea if YWBU. I was distracted by the 'que' and stopped reading after the fifth time you got it wrong. I can only take so much.

eatsleepfarmrepeat · 10/12/2023 21:13

My personal view is that it’s only ok to sanction a queue jump if you are the ONLY person in the queue - you can’t OK something that also affects those stood behind you in a queue.

I wouldn’t have called the shop though, I think that’s unnecessary and puts someone’s job at risk which is a bit shit, they were in a difficult position having been approved by the chap at the front of the queue.

The woman sounds like a twat though. A good deal of us on here have children and would never be a CF.

TheresaCrowd · 10/12/2023 21:12

Oh FFS why must people always jump in to correct an OP's spelling, despite the fact some twat has got there and done it long before them?

The thread just fills up with pages and pages of knobs.

LindaHoney · 10/12/2023 21:11

I know how to spell it. I’m just unbothered by bad spelling, sorry.

And skipped 3 times. Twice originally. Once at the deli. Once at the till. Exited, returned, skipped again.

The reason I complained to the manager was because I felt like I was being treated like the asshole to say I don’t want to let the same person skip ahead of me 3 times. I have places to be too. If I miss my train it’s an hour until the next one.

The shop assistant disregarded that the people queuing were not okay with her skipping for the third time and I felt ignored when the shop assistant let her go ahead of me.

I don’t feel like I did anything wrong yet was verbally dressed down and the shop assistant ignored what I felt like was a valid point.

OP posts:
AmazingBouncingFerret · 10/12/2023 21:11

The manager lied to you. There’s protocols for accessing and viewing CCTV and looking for queue jumpers is not one of them!

FatFatMary · 10/12/2023 21:09

I think you have anger problems.

ViaRia01 · 10/12/2023 21:08

Fair enough if you were directly behind the an and swapped places with him. Sorry if I misunderstood that at first.

Ravenclaw101 · 10/12/2023 21:08

The assistant could and should have told her to go to the back of the queue. I’ve done my time in retail and I’ve done that plenty.

MissBuffyAnneSummers · 10/12/2023 21:08

Woman was a CF

I'd have said something too.

But falling the shop afterwards and getting the assistant reprimanded is OTT.

It's not the assistants fault it's the CF woman and those at the front who let her in.

wjpa · 10/12/2023 21:07

The queue jumper was very unreasonable. She queue jumped multiple times and shouted when she was called out.

TBH I don't think the assistant was wrong to serve her after the shouting. By serving her, that got her to fuck off and stop shouting.

However, I'm not sure why you called the manager. The problem was the cheeky fucker, not the shop or the assistant. Are you actually pleased/satisfied that a shop assistant got bollocked? Bollocked because a selfish bitch kept queue jumping? The assistant did the right thing IMO - serve bitch, she goes away, peace is restored.

hihihihihihihihihihi · 10/12/2023 21:07

YABU. It's queue.

DontLeanOnTheKeyboard · 10/12/2023 21:07

QUEUE - line of people waiting for something
QUE - ‘what’ in Spanish.

Elvanseshortage · 10/12/2023 21:05

How annoying and you were right to complain!

Some people have been politely using the word queue rather than directly pointing out that you have made a mistake. But you don’t seem to have noticed and you have repeated
the mistake (que). I am direct, like you. It’s queue, not que.

MarmitePizza · 10/12/2023 21:05

pinksheetss · 10/12/2023 21:03

The lady que skipping is unreasonable but you are also unreasonable for calling the shop and getting the shop assistant in trouble. Probably thought they were doing a nice thing as well

Don’t you start as well! It’s bloody QUEUE!!!

I once made a thread about this but everyone said I was just being a bitch…

Ravenclaw101 · 10/12/2023 21:04

No it’s not a nice thing. Not when they are subjecting everyone in the queue to a longer wait, twice. They also imply by their actions that the OP was unreasonable to protest it the second time. Fuck that.

ChocolateCinderToffee · 10/12/2023 21:04

Sexlivesofthepotatomen · 10/12/2023 21:01

Same Grin

Me too!

pinksheetss · 10/12/2023 21:03

The lady que skipping is unreasonable but you are also unreasonable for calling the shop and getting the shop assistant in trouble. Probably thought they were doing a nice thing as well

Bobtheamazinggingerdog · 10/12/2023 21:02

¿Qué?

que GIF
Justleaveitblankthen · 10/12/2023 21:02

Queue.
Nothing else to add sorry Cake

thenightsky · 10/12/2023 21:02

SBHon · 10/12/2023 20:59

Unrelated but every single time I read ‘que’ I heard Manuel from Faulty Towers and smiled.

You're not the only one.

Sexlivesofthepotatomen · 10/12/2023 21:01

SBHon · 10/12/2023 20:59

Unrelated but every single time I read ‘que’ I heard Manuel from Faulty Towers and smiled.

Same Grin

Garman · 10/12/2023 21:01

Same re hearing Manuel with the Que. It’s queue OP, the word you’re looking for is queue.