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AIBU… issues at work

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Zombieof3 · 10/12/2023 12:36

Hi all,

Im posting this here as I know it will get more responses, I hope that’s ok.

On Friday, I reported my management and a certain team to HR. The issue is there is a ton of bullying in the work place including hate speech and racism, management are aware and have had months to sort it out, but nothing has been done. So I had enough and reported them all, HR are unable to keep me anonymous due to the seriousness of it, so tomorrow I’m fully expecting some really really awkward conversations and possibly quite hostile.

im really nervous, I do not deal well with conflict, however, it’s gotten to the point that people are leaving the team constantly. I’m miserable going into work, I’ve had time off for mental health reasons and I’m really struggling mentally. I’m so tempted to just go off sick and wait until I can find another job, but I feel like that is the cowardly way out.

has anyone experienced anything like this and have any advice?

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greencheetah · 10/12/2023 12:48

Do you have a trade union rep who could support you?

FWIW I wish more people were brave like you OP

ChristmasPuddy · 10/12/2023 12:47

It definitely should be kept anonymous, there is no reason for it not to be!!

I reported inappropriate behaviour (sexual) at work and it was kept anonymous.. although the person was able to work out it was me but that’s another issue.

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Zombieof3 · 10/12/2023 12:46

HappyHamsters · 10/12/2023 12:42

What sort of work is it, I was in nhs and bullying was rife, ward staff did nothing, eventually I reported it to hr and they got a new ward manager in but it takes forever and it was awkward but I had enough, few people backed me up. If hr care they will investigate and be professional and fair but they should have addressed it before. How long have you worked there.

It’s not the NHS, but is a support role for the homeless. Prior to this role, I worked with the same company in a different team and everything was brilliant. I got offered a promotion which included me moving to a new team, since then it’s been absolute hell. I’ve been there 8 months, I have told my managers about the bullying, degradation of other colleagues done by some staff and even comments affecting our clients. Management have made excuse after excuse for them and I’m done, so I reported it.

ive heard good things about the HR team in all fairness and the lady was lovely, but I can’t honestly see anything changing even after this.

im just so tempted to just not go back at all

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CombatBarbie · 10/12/2023 12:43

They are wrong, if they out you, you need to go nuclear on it all. I'd be inclined to call in sick tomorrow and seek advice from ACAS, union, find the company policy on bullying and whistle blowing. It should be readily available.

HappyHamsters · 10/12/2023 12:42

What sort of work is it, I was in nhs and bullying was rife, ward staff did nothing, eventually I reported it to hr and they got a new ward manager in but it takes forever and it was awkward but I had enough, few people backed me up. If hr care they will investigate and be professional and fair but they should have addressed it before. How long have you worked there.

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Zombieof3 · 10/12/2023 12:40

Hellocatshome · 10/12/2023 12:38

I would be concerned about the fact they are not keeping your report confidential. They should have whistle blowing policy for things like this.

I was told that due to it being a breach of dignity at the workplace, it cannot be kept confidential.
Im in the process of looking for a new job as it is due to all of this, just absolutely fed up with it. Grown adults bullying people 😔

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Hellocatshome · 10/12/2023 12:38

I would be concerned about the fact they are not keeping your report confidential. They should have whistle blowing policy for things like this.

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