Stepson behaviour

@therealcookiemonster

if you want to stay in a horrible situation where you are getting physically assaulted and mentally abused, that's your call. but you could lose your kids. if the school or anyone else finds out what is happening at home, they will report your situation to social services. to be frank, if I knew you in person - I would report your situation. social service will probably assess that the home is not safe for your kids and take them away. I am not trying to be horrible, but you need to wake up.

Perfectly put.

^ this. with bells on. for the sake of your own children if you're not willing to do it for yourself.

You’ve had clear and absolutely spot on advice from everyone, I’m just adding to the call for you to put your own children as your top priority and ring the police NOW!
If he has done those things to you I can pretty much guarantee he has already been terrrorising you children, and making them keep quiet!
step up and be their protector!!

Call the police FFS.

Or are you going to wait until DP hits you too? DSS only broke your fingers, I'm sure his big strong dad could easily manage some bigger bones.

How do you think your children feel if you are scared and you're a grown woman?

If not for your sake please for the sake of your children get these people out of your house ASAP!

This!

he has broken my fingers; punched me and left bruises on my hands and face. He trapped me in his bedroom and attempted to smash me over the head with TV remote whilst blocking my exit.

And your partner thinks this is all normal? They both need to go now. I’m stunned you didn’t go to the police when he first hurt you.

Get them out. Police. Maybe the boy needs sectioning? What can your children be making of all this? They'll be next. ACT. ACT. ACT.

@Mum2bambinos

In the argument he said if you want me to leave you’ll have to ring the police. Which he knows I probably wouldn’t do.

Then nothing will change, except to get worse. Nobody will able to rescue you from this awful situation unless you ask for help and give your full cooperation to the police. Your "partner" has shown his true colours and his son follows his example.

Take a deep breath, call the police and get them out. What are you waiting for? For one of them to put you in hospital? Be brave OP and do what you know needs to be done. 🌹

@Mum2bambinos OK. you are an adult. if you want to stay in a horrible situation where you are getting physically assaulted and mentally abused, that's your call. but you could lose your kids. if the school or anyone else finds out what is happening at home, they will report your situation to social services. to be frank, if I knew you in person - I would report your situation. social service will probably assess that the home is not safe for your kids and take them away. I am not trying to be horrible, but you need to wake up. your kids are at risk. what is to stop this unstable teenager beating up your kids? or your partner harming them? do you not see the news articles about all the kids killed by their own families? your so called partner clearly has no care for you or your kids. you need to call the police and kick him out straight away. don't tell him you called the police, because he will hurt you/your kids. and then, change the locks. he must never ever come back.

Your partner is as bad as his son. Please please call the police now. I’m a social worker, you’re children are at risk. Please do it.

OP GET THEM OUT.

I can’t believe your OH blamed you for going into his sons room?!

You have no support there and it’s scary that he has enabled his sons behaviour like that.

Get them out - your children shouldn’t be witnessing someone assaulting their mum with no repercussions.

Please call the police. And Women's Aid, and any local organisations who can advise you about getting them to leave as soon as possible.

Look I'm not being harsh but wake up, you are exposing your children to this awful abuse from both of them.

Do you own the house, OP? I imagine there is no tenancy agreement and you can evict them any day you choose!

It's your house.

When they both are out - call a lock smith.

You've asked him to leave. Put it to him in writing - e,ail or text a deadline to leave.

You change the locks the minute you can after that date.

There can be violent teens. It's not the norm but the behaviour will be caused by something and currently dp is doing nothing to sort out solving it.

You are lucky that because you aren't a,fried your children don't need to live like this and neither do you.

I have called the police for violence in my house. They were very helpful. Please do call them.

Call the police, explain what has been happening and get your home back to the safe sanctuary it should be for you and your children. Your children are not safe as long as these men are in your house, they do not care about you or respect you if they are treating you this way.

Ok, I suspect that you’re in boiling frog mode

They need to get the fuck out. Now.

Call the police and report the little scrote

Apart from anything else there are big safeguarding concerns for your own kids being exposed to him

Tomorrow can you call a male relative/friend or preferably 3 who are firm and not prone to hitting/lashing out to come over while your partner is in?

If you can then do so.

Then tell your "partner" he and his son need to move out today.

Also call an emergency locksmith and change the locks.

If he kicks of call the police immediately.

You call the police if he assaults you.

you kick DP out this will make him parent his DS. It’s that simple.

yes I have called the police in my own child. It triggered much needed support.

You are probably in shock and wondering how you have got into this situation. Your DP is not a DP as he is allowing his son to abuse you and destroy your house and basically laughing in your face when you are telling him to leave. Neither of them have any respect for you or your home and if you don't get them out now I guarantee your DP will start abusing you and your kids too,
You really need to think about your own kids and put them first before it seriously starts effecting them.
If you don't get them out of this situation they will absolutely hate you when they are older for ruining their lives in choosing a man over their own well being.

I'm not saying this to be cruel but you really need a wake up call here.
Phone the police, get them out tonight

You've told them to leave, they are now trespassers in your home. Ring the police. The 16 year old has the capacity and want to kill you or your children.

Please please get help ASAP to have this abusive man and his equally abusive son removed from your home and your life. You are being abused, repeatedly and your young children are witnessing it. It must be so upsetting for them. Again, please get them out of your life before you are a statistic and someone else is rearing your children.

So you told them to leave and they said ring the police… so ring the police. You have young kids in the house. A weight will be lifted and your kids will have a few less traumas to witness.

@Mum2bambinos what willyou feel like when your step son turns his anger into your DDs and injures them. When they have broken bones? When social services end up involved?

your DP should know full well this isn’t normal behaviour. Is this how he behaved as a teen?

There needs to be consequences to the behaviour of your partner and his son. And those consequences should be he can’t remain in your home as he isn’t a supportive partner or stepdad and isn’t helping enable a safe home or managing his child.

ring women’s aid, ring the police. Ring agencies and get support in moving these people out of your home and life.

your DP is just as big a problem because he’s minimising and excusing this violence.

please please please OP. Take the steps. Be strong. Do what’s right for your daughters so they have a safe and happy home life.