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Requesting more maintenance?

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ANONforthisone67374 · 09/12/2023 09:22

My ex earns more than when we originally agreed child maintenance. Am I being unreasonable to request we review the amount he pays? He's self employed so CMS isn't an option as my friend said they can just hide the money but is it worth the hassle of requesting we review it? My friend said there's no need for me to struggle when he could be paying more but I know he will just say I'm only after him for money bla bla

I don't know his exact wage but I would put it at about 3.5-4k a month he currently pays £600 for three children 7, 8 & 12 he has them maybe 2-4 max nights a month

Eta
I do also work part time but as I don't have childcare I can't work more hours. I do shift work 5am starts some shifts finish 1-2am so it's not easy to find childcare.

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IDoLikeToBeByTheSea · 09/12/2023 09:30

How much more would you ask for? I just used the calculator and based on 1 night a week and earning £3.5k per month, you’d be entitled to £663 so he isn’t paying far off that at the moment.
Is it likely he would stop paying and tell you to go through CMS? If he is and is likely to have manipulated S/E figures, you could get a lot less than now.

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ANONforthisone67374 · 09/12/2023 09:25

Dotcheck · 09/12/2023 09:24

Of course ask.
How much does he have them? That impacts maintenance

Between 2-4 nights a month

OP posts:
Dotcheck · 09/12/2023 09:24

Of course ask.
How much does he have them? That impacts maintenance