To be offended

I wonder if you didn't get the original role due to poor attitude.

The answers were 'Thank you" and "Appreciate the vote of confidence"...Why you turned that into such a pity fest is beyond me.

I feel really sorry for anyone you’ll be managing in your new role if this is how you communicate.

Hi OP, congrats on the promotion! In answer to your question as you presented it I think YABU to be offended as do most on here. Obviously there is a lot of context omitted in your original post which you have slowly drip fed.

As others have said, convos like this should be held on the phone as this way nothing can be misinterpreted. You took it one way, the whole of MN took it another. You even said “it’s the way they said…” it was a text. They didn’t ‘say’ it any particular way. You read it how you chose the interpret it and then chose to be offended.

You will get so much more out of life, every single day, If you choose to do the opposite; be grateful for what you do have and work harder not to be offended.

Best of luck with your new role!

😂

The joy of texts - so open to misinterpretation!!

from an outsider perspective, your colleague sounds fine, and you’re the one coming across as being a bit off.

Was your promotion to the role of Chief Argument Officer? If so, it was a good appointment!

Doesn't seem anything wrong with his messages to me. But you know the guy so maybe there's a tone we're missing. I would say, unless you're 100% certain of his (and everyone's else's) loyalty and goodwill towards you, I'd make that the last conversation you have about your career and feelings about it with a colleague in writing.

The conversation should have finished several lines earlier … he congratulated you .. a simple thank you would have sufficed - if I was the congratulator colleague I’d have been the offended one and also thought you were odd and unappreciative tbh

Ohhh you're the poster trying to flirt (badly) with this fella.

That's flirting?! Jesus!

Sounds like you’re picking a fight 😵‍💫 bizarre

Christ he’d run a mile at this point!

You do sound unappreciative.

You are dismissing a very real promotion, a promotion that very well may have been someone else's first choice by saying that you only got it because your company wanted to placate you after you didn't get what you wanted.

You may be saying you're happy, but literally everything else that you are saying is screaming bitter and ungrateful.

And to be honest, that's okay, if that is how you feel. But your can't then go off the deep end because you feel called out about it.

I don't agree that this guy started off insinuating that you're ungrateful either, the start of the conversation is pleasant and he spends the majority of it bigging you up. You derail it with your, quite frankly, utter nonsense about your consolation prize job role.

"You better do." Is where I feel he's started to regret the conversation, and this is where you've said you've gotten offended, but you've caused this!

Just FYI, I don't think a lot of successful businesses out there hand out promotions to people who aren't the best people for the job just because they didn't get another job they wanted.

Ohhh you're the poster trying to flirt (badly) with this fella.

You sound like you're in a primary school playground.

There's no need for offence and ffs if you like him just ask him out and stop playing stupid games.

You completely misunderstood him while being certain that he was the one misunderstanding you. In the process you came across as rather aggressively looking for any argument and, frankly, crazy.

On this thread you have again completely misunderstood/not listened to what people are saying and again come across like you are looking for an argument even when people smooth things over.

You seem focused on the idea that he is saying you are unappreciative of the promotion- which he isn't. But perhaps this us such an achieves heel for you because the more you reply (to him and to us) the more it comes across that you actually are unappreciative of this promotion - you wanted a different role and feel like you've been thrown a consolation prize.

Wait this is someone you fancy?!

Are you always this hard work? You sound insufferable.

You sound argumentative and annoying as fuck, I bet he wishes he’d never bothered

@sandyhappypeople your response was extremely amusing. Mental town 🤣. I think OP admitted unthread that she's playing hard to get, so this isn't interaction with any old random colleague. She's being consciously spiky.

Honestly, this is absolutely insane.

If this is how you communicate at work, I’m amazed you’ve still got a job, let alone a promotion.

Yes, yabu to be offended. Your work colleague was trying to be nice by congratulating you. It sounds like to me, he was saying you've done well getting a promotion, where as it took him 7 years. You sound like you're after an argument for the sake of it. If you were my colleague, I would avoid any un nessessary interactions with you. It wouldn't be worth the drama.

when he said fair play I didn’t get it until 7 years that was a nudge of “mate you sound like you don’t give a flying toss”
It really wasn't. That's a really odd interpretation.

Yeah I don't get it. He seemed pleasant, you were rude and defensive. I'd apologise if I were you.

You sound like dreadfully hard work

Sounds fair enough, you're still being unreasonable.