Lip filler

I have 0.5ml.lip filler once a year and botox twice a year.Like fuck would dh try and dictate what I do with my own face.

The problem with them is that you can always tell they’ve been done. On the flip side, they’re not permanent. I would have discussed it with DH.

I had 0.25 and Botox there and it made such a fabulous difference

I bow to no one in my conviction that women should do what they want and don't need male permission for any 'work' they want done. But at the same time you have to be reasonable- there is only one person in the whole world who will be kissing those lips, so think carefully before you do anything to them that you already know he doesn't like.

I wouldn’t blame him for expressing an opinion on how he feels about lip filler, he feels how he feels, but the bossy, overbearing ‘you must speak with me first’ attitude would be such a turn off!!

It’s a difficult one. It depends on how much it’s going to change your face. Yes it’s your body, but equally you’re meant to be in a partnership with him and part of the attraction between you both is what you look like. If one of you drastically changes your aesthetic the other one might just say ‘no thanks’.

Lip fillers are fine.

Start with .5ml, don't go for the 1ml even if they offer/suggest it.

Start slow and see how you feel.

Your DH is being unreasonable. This is NOT comparable to a tattoo etc as they will dissolve over about 12 months.

It's not permanent and if you really don't like them you can just get them completely dissolved immediately after anyway.

Mumsnet is NOT the place to talk about lip filler lol. People are are strangely obsessed and filled with anger about it 😂

It looks very obvious whenever anyone has had this done and it looks dreadful. I can see why he’s upset, but yeah, your choice at the end of the day.

Two of my friends have ruined their naturally pretty faces by doing this (plus Russian lashes 🤢) it is sad.

I'd like to say it's your body, your choice but my DP has recently shaved off his beard and I hate it so I'm on the fence

You have every right to do whatever you like to your body. However, sometimes what we might choose to do makes us less attractive to our partner. We then get to choose whether being attractive to them matters more or less than the thing we want to change. If we decide the change is more important, they in turn need to decide if they can put up with it, get used to it, or whether it's a deal breaker. There's not really a right or wrong when it comes to taste and attraction.

He’s daft and I bet if you hadn’t told him he wouldn’t have noticed. What does he say when you wear make up or colour your hair??

I agree pointless asking here.. Mumsnet think lip fillers = perma duck face which isn’t necessarily the case.

And you can't stop ME from speaking luv. And I am telling you that you do NOT get to speak for me. Or anyone else. That is a fact. Welcome to real life - hun.

I had subtle lip filler and loved it. Very few people noticed unless it came up in conversation and I told them out right.

I would have the conversation but keep the appointment and maybe he will change his mind. I do think it’s up to you ultimately.

Oh, sorry, I misread your post. You did tell him! Well, I think it's okay to book it as long as it can be cancelled if he really, really doesn't like the idea.

I wouldn't 'ask for permission' as such, but I'd definitely tell or consult DH before going through with it. As a PP said, would you be happy if he came back from a day out with a facial tattoo without as much as mentioning it to you?

Lip filler can look great if it's done carefully and in proportion to your features.

Your husband is a moron, it's not even permanent.

Have you had children with him? Was he okay with the permanent changes to your body birthing his kids caused?

Tell him to get over himself. Honestly who even marries these men. He is treating you like a possession.

@NicolaC17 sorry I agree with your hubby!! people who get lip fillers end up looking like ducks!! it looks awful!

This.

Lip fillers make me feel a bit queasy. I'm sure yours will be tasteful but when I see influencers speaking or worse, eating 🤢

Maybe he feels like this?

I haven't voted on this one because: I 100% agree that it is your body body and I shouldn’t have to consult with him about it or should be checking before booking.

But you do read about things going wrong and shop staff playing about with "semi medical" (my loose term) procedures that they are not trained to do. so, if part of someone's concern is health related, I think that can make a huge difference.

You can't stop me from speaking, I can't stop you from shouting at strangers. Welcome to the internet, Ma'am.
HTH

Oh I misread - I thought it had happened and only come up in conversation after the fact.

There's not necessarily a connection. I don't like how lip fillers look, but I don't think she needs her husband's permission to get them.

I think it's odd to not mention it, just from a chatting point of view. Not like she "should" have mentioned it, I'm just surprised it didn't come up.

Oh I’m on the fence here.

In theory I do think I would run any significant appearance changes past DH and would expect him to do the same. I might still do it even if he hated it as it’s my body but probably not, I do want him to find me attractive after all.

However - lip fillers are a bit of a funny one because he’s probably picturing the trout pout look and you may have something far more natural in mind. In which case I might be inclined to get it done without mentioning and see if he notices.