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Ostagazuzulum · 06/12/2023 23:28

I know this is going to be controversial. That's not my intention.

I want to stress that I'm not having a go at anyone who gets benefits. I'm just curious about pip and how it's justified.

One of my friends today has told me that they were recently approved for pip in higher scale. Going to be getting around £700 a month apparently. She doesn't claim any other benefits. She has fibromyalgia. Her and her husband both have middle management full time jobs earning around £80k per year between the pair of them. They own their own home and she's very open about having around £12k in savings. Three children all of school age.

They're intending on using the money for holidays mostly.

I'm just baffled how it's justified.

She definitely suffers with the condition, can sometimes struggle with mobility. and you can see she's in pain. But what's the purpose of pip? Her condition isn't incurring any extra costs and isn't being spent on day to day help. Why do we have it for those circumstances?

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Ostagazuzulum · 08/12/2023 18:27

IHS · 08/12/2023 16:26

Don't worry op, plenty of people don't apply for PIP because they can't face doing it or are too confused by the process. The government no doubt save a lot of money due to this. More money to go to their villainous mates.

Really?

Love how judgemental you are about me presumably insinuating I'm a villainous mate. You know absolutely nothing.

Get a grip.

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IHS · 08/12/2023 16:26

Don't worry op, plenty of people don't apply for PIP because they can't face doing it or are too confused by the process. The government no doubt save a lot of money due to this. More money to go to their villainous mates.

keye · 08/12/2023 16:08

So they stop pip at 65? How is that justified. If you need it why do they feel that need suddenly stops on your 65th birthday? I

No they don't. If you are on PIP when you reach pension age you remain on it. If you want to claim after pension age you claim attendance allowance which is essentially the same except it lacks the mobility element.

Ostagazuzulum · 08/12/2023 15:50

Elleherd · 08/12/2023 06:17

PIP has done exactly what it is supposed to do here; allow me access to work and education by covering some of the otherwise prohibitive costs incurred through working around (multiple) disability. That in turn means I am able to do work that benefits many others. My worth isn't measured by how much I cost, or how little I earn, but in how many others do better and use less resources as a result of what I do on very little.

I am in a wheelchair, unable to access public transport without assistance, and frequently hospitalized with lots of clear medical evidence and scans showing my deterioration. But that doesn't stop Capita etc from lying and trying to reduce my award so that I have to give up work, and it doesn't stop stupid neighbors from reporting me for benefit fraud for working or attending university. It doesn't stop colleagues or uni from speculating about what I really can or can't do and if I really deserve assistance or suggesting either I should silently manage or not be there. (Usually to do with ramps, doors, inability to reach, poor planning on their part etc.)
But I get sent home when my struggles are too visible as not fit to be on campus, but still have to pay the fees. I lose contracts through others embarrassment at seeing reality. I constantly have to hide how I am achieving things and how hard it physically is. A different type of means testing.

Despite PIP I struggle financially because the same award has to cover so, so, much and the attitude is I get help, so can earn less and work more. It's a very vicious circle.
Every time I'm in hospital for four weeks plus, or without a four week gap between being an inpatient, I lose my PIP, right at the time I need it the most to cover my rent and council tax, so the system already means tests me saying I am living elsewhere and fed, so don't need to pay for a home left empty, and can reasonably lose it if I can't save or borrow enough to see me through.

I can't start and end my day without assistance. I can't use a council carer as they can't provide set times and work limited hours, but of course have to pay an element of CT to meet the social care bill. So I have to use the carers allowance system to employ one who can come when I start and finish work, and do a seven day week. They get £76.75 a week for 40 hrs a week, which I have to top up in order to interest anyone. They in turn are means tested by not being allowed to earn more than £139 a week on top. Inevitably I can only attract the desperate or between other jobs, (and students aren't allowed) and they don't last long.
I lost my pension to divorce and will work till I die, even though he died without accessing that pension, it doesn't revert to me. At 65 I will lose my PIP and if I am lucky will qualify for the lower sums of attendance allowance, (but fear I may not, as I don't need someone with me at all times) However I can be required to remain working, available for work and job seeking, until 68 without any way of offsetting the additional costs of being a disabled worker, and in reality I will have to keep working. I've been told to invest my (already in use to keep me working) PIP now, in retraining again for WFH work to accommodate this. Working while disabled can trap you into being expected to remain able to.

No amount of saved PIP will result in there being 'more in the pot for those who genuinely need it.' It doesn't work like that, it's all about reducing numbers, not helping getting it to the 'deserving' no matter how obviously disabled you are.

For those who want to see us means tested and forced to jump through further hoops than we already do, our means and right to survive are constantly tested in many ways, so really this is about you being parsimonious and believing that not being disabled gives you the right to judge those who are, as somehow lesser for needing help. Shame on you.

This is really interesting and very sad to read.

I've learnt a lot through this thread. I'm clearly woefully ignorant in alot of ways and will happily stand corrected but reading everything, it very much feels that the approach to awarding PIP is very subjective and almost haphazard and sometimes unfair how people have to fight. I think my friend employed an expert to do her claim for her but it was costly. Not everyone can afford that. Listening to your story I don't understand why you're not given the higher rate. How do they justify that?

So they stop pip at 65? How is that justified. If you need it why do they feel that need suddenly stops on your 65th birthday? Is your pension meant to replace it? That seems unfair.

And you don't get in in hospital for overnight stays? Are you not meant to rely on that money? How do they expect you to manage? That seems crazy too.

I know it's benefitting lots of clearly deserving people but it feels like a very flawed system.

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keye · 08/12/2023 13:14

TomeTome · 08/12/2023 13:03

I don’t think I’m clever at all, certainly not for knowing what “judge” means. I think you misunderstood my post. I think the poster wanted to encourage people to doubt disability benefits were deserved, not be judgemental. I apologise if I’ve upset you.

Ah the standard mumsnet go to - 'I'm sorry if I upset you' - patronising crap. Of course you haven't upset me. It's a forum discussion not anything remotely important.

TomeTome · 08/12/2023 13:03

I don’t think I’m clever at all, certainly not for knowing what “judge” means. I think you misunderstood my post. I think the poster wanted to encourage people to doubt disability benefits were deserved, not be judgemental. I apologise if I’ve upset you.

keye · 08/12/2023 12:40

TomeTome · 08/12/2023 11:52

@keye there’s a definition in the dictionary or just google. Perhaps you mean “Judgemental”? It isn’t important, I think your intent is clear.

I have absolutely no idea what you are trying to say here but bashing benefit claimants is judging them, or the system; or both.

The 'dictionary' comment? If not important why mention it? It certainly didn’t make you look as clever as you think it did.

TomeTome · 08/12/2023 11:52

@keye there’s a definition in the dictionary or just google. Perhaps you mean “Judgemental”? It isn’t important, I think your intent is clear.

Zoflorabore · 08/12/2023 11:02

Really good point! I don’t think the format of the form has changed in years and needs to be updated.

keye · 08/12/2023 10:24

TomeTome · 08/12/2023 10:10

I'd say its an invitation to disabled benefits bashing - " judgement" means something slightly different.

Then bashing is judgement 🤷🏻‍♀️

TomeTome · 08/12/2023 10:10

I'd say its an invitation to disabled benefits bashing - " judgement" means something slightly different.

keye · 08/12/2023 09:56

TomeTome · 08/12/2023 09:47

I don't think asking for information. On what pip is supposed to be used for is "judgemental", Ido think google is probably more than up to the job of answering that though

Adding in the details of one specific claimant when asking is absolute judgement.

TomeTome · 08/12/2023 09:47

I don't think asking for information. On what pip is supposed to be used for is "judgemental", Ido think google is probably more than up to the job of answering that though

Theunamedcat · 08/12/2023 09:14

Ostagazuzulum · 06/12/2023 23:30

It's not judgmental. I'm just curious about purpose of it. Sorry if it came across wrong.

IT IS JUDGMENTAL

Having fibro means at some point they might not be able to work my neighbour is an ambulatory wheelchair user because of it you wouldn't know how much she struggles on a good day

WaitingForMojo · 08/12/2023 09:12

@Elleherd that is awful and I wish I was surprised.

small piece of good news though is that you won’t lose pip at 65. If you’re awarded prior to retirement age, you continue to be eligible.

TomeTome · 08/12/2023 07:18

@Drdoomish if she cannot apply herself she can have someone do it for her. There are many disabled people who can’t manage their own affairs.

Drdoomish · 08/12/2023 07:02

WaitingForMojo · 08/12/2023 00:01

@Drdoomish this is unfortunately extremely common. Your friend needs to submit a mandatory reconsideration request. Asking the DWP to look again at the decision.

You have 13 months in law in which to do this. The DWP will lead you to believe that you have a month, which is wrong.

That's what happened with her. She needed a few months to get her health recovered from the application process and interview. When she thought she only had a month to appeal, it knocked her health back further.

So she gave up applying and hasn't tried since. No amount of money was worth the health knock back again and the impact on her life.

That was Sept 2019.

A financial cost she can't avoid is coming up for her soon. I'm trying to find a way to support her to realise she needs to apply again.

Elleherd · 08/12/2023 06:49

Oh btw we are also means tested to qualify for council carers, and home adaptations and the amount we must pay for them. A disabled CT reduction in my borough, is not based on dsability needs, but how many major disabled adaptations you have in your home.
Hospital beds, dialysis machine, adapted toilets, etc don't count. If you have paid for doors to be widened, ramps etc from a builder who turns out not to be registered to pay tax, they don't count, even though there's a website, sign written van etc, and you paid by bank transfer and have receipts. They want us to pay their extortionate prices for whoever they sub contract (often bodge artists) in order to qualify for the disabled CT reduction, because "that's what your PIP is for." Everyone thinks it's an available pot for them to take because you've been given it.

Elleherd · 08/12/2023 06:17

PIP has done exactly what it is supposed to do here; allow me access to work and education by covering some of the otherwise prohibitive costs incurred through working around (multiple) disability. That in turn means I am able to do work that benefits many others. My worth isn't measured by how much I cost, or how little I earn, but in how many others do better and use less resources as a result of what I do on very little.

I am in a wheelchair, unable to access public transport without assistance, and frequently hospitalized with lots of clear medical evidence and scans showing my deterioration. But that doesn't stop Capita etc from lying and trying to reduce my award so that I have to give up work, and it doesn't stop stupid neighbors from reporting me for benefit fraud for working or attending university. It doesn't stop colleagues or uni from speculating about what I really can or can't do and if I really deserve assistance or suggesting either I should silently manage or not be there. (Usually to do with ramps, doors, inability to reach, poor planning on their part etc.)
But I get sent home when my struggles are too visible as not fit to be on campus, but still have to pay the fees. I lose contracts through others embarrassment at seeing reality. I constantly have to hide how I am achieving things and how hard it physically is. A different type of means testing.

Despite PIP I struggle financially because the same award has to cover so, so, much and the attitude is I get help, so can earn less and work more. It's a very vicious circle.
Every time I'm in hospital for four weeks plus, or without a four week gap between being an inpatient, I lose my PIP, right at the time I need it the most to cover my rent and council tax, so the system already means tests me saying I am living elsewhere and fed, so don't need to pay for a home left empty, and can reasonably lose it if I can't save or borrow enough to see me through.

I can't start and end my day without assistance. I can't use a council carer as they can't provide set times and work limited hours, but of course have to pay an element of CT to meet the social care bill. So I have to use the carers allowance system to employ one who can come when I start and finish work, and do a seven day week. They get £76.75 a week for 40 hrs a week, which I have to top up in order to interest anyone. They in turn are means tested by not being allowed to earn more than £139 a week on top. Inevitably I can only attract the desperate or between other jobs, (and students aren't allowed) and they don't last long.
I lost my pension to divorce and will work till I die, even though he died without accessing that pension, it doesn't revert to me. At 65 I will lose my PIP and if I am lucky will qualify for the lower sums of attendance allowance, (but fear I may not, as I don't need someone with me at all times) However I can be required to remain working, available for work and job seeking, until 68 without any way of offsetting the additional costs of being a disabled worker, and in reality I will have to keep working. I've been told to invest my (already in use to keep me working) PIP now, in retraining again for WFH work to accommodate this. Working while disabled can trap you into being expected to remain able to.

No amount of saved PIP will result in there being 'more in the pot for those who genuinely need it.' It doesn't work like that, it's all about reducing numbers, not helping getting it to the 'deserving' no matter how obviously disabled you are.

For those who want to see us means tested and forced to jump through further hoops than we already do, our means and right to survive are constantly tested in many ways, so really this is about you being parsimonious and believing that not being disabled gives you the right to judge those who are, as somehow lesser for needing help. Shame on you.

lanewi · 08/12/2023 01:06

I've been getting PIP for years, from back when it was DLA for adults. I'm on the enhanced rate for both components and I don't have specific disability costs that I use it for. However I'm not able to work due to disability, so in a way paying for general living expenses is a disability cost since I can't pay for them using wages. My disabled needs are such that spending money on them doesn't make sense. E.g. I can't drive due to disability, so I don't take the Motability option, but I get a disabled travel pass for public transport so most of my transport is free. I don't like using taxis due to social anxiety and I prefer public transport or walking. I need a cleaner as I struggle with housework but I have too much anxiety to let someone into my home, so I don't spend any money there. And my needs are severe enough that I've been able to access NHS psychotherapy over a long period (years - I think they like analysing my weird brain so they've kept me on) so I've not had to pay for private therapy.

I've always been able to get PIP without appeals and MR as I'm obsessive about collecting and maintaining my medical files, so I have lots of up to date evidence.

Financially we would be fine without the money as DH is a high earner, but without my disabilities I could have been a high earner too so it's important for me to have my own income. I've developed a hobby in investing which has allowed me to save and grow the money and provides a passive income for me too.

WaitingForMojo · 08/12/2023 00:01

@Drdoomish this is unfortunately extremely common. Your friend needs to submit a mandatory reconsideration request. Asking the DWP to look again at the decision.

You have 13 months in law in which to do this. The DWP will lead you to believe that you have a month, which is wrong.

Ostagazuzulum · 07/12/2023 23:59

FancyFran · 07/12/2023 19:44

I claim pip and it took me years to get it having had rheumatoid arthritis for twenty years. I also recently developed fibromialga.
I am also a 45% tax payer. Why do I claim it? When I was ill for 9 months this year, bed bound as I am now for the last five days, I could claim nothing. DWP currently use NI contributions from 2020/2021 when I was a shielder. No one would employ me and I was awarded nothing due to no contributions in this year. This is unfair and I currently pay huge returns. If I'm ill again will I get anything other than my pip? I doubt it. I have lived with RA for decades but the fibromialga is a complete bastard. Don't underestimate the pain. It's hell.
I have had to give up jobs due to illness and believe me that is heartbreaking. I've lost a home and hundreds of thousands in income. Don't begrudge your friend a little money. I would willing give back my £274 for a pain free life and normal loo seats/ no walking stick.

I promise you I don't begrudge her.

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Ostagazuzulum · 07/12/2023 23:57

FreshWinterMorning · 07/12/2023 23:05

Crikey, no wonder some people keep it under their hat that they are on disability benefits. Shock With such judgy people around.

People with disabilities are allowed holidays and decent cars @Ostagazuzulum I am just speechless at this thread. Confused

At what point did I say they didn't deserve it??? Confused

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Runnerduck34 · 07/12/2023 23:39

Drdoomish · 06/12/2023 23:51

How did she manage to get it? My friend has ME. Took her ages and over a month's worth of her energy (so didn't go out) researching what gave her the best chance at being successful at getting PIP.

I attended her interview with her. She was honest. She shared his limiting her life is. (E.g. she needs a 2 hour rest after a 10 min shower)

She didn't get PIP. The report the decision was based on was incorrect (e.g. she attended the interview alone). She didn't have energy to go through the process again and fight the incorrect decision, due to her disability. She wouldn't let me try on her behalf, as that would still take it out of her.

She's existing on a tiny amount, as she's too ill to work. She has high outgoings from the diet costs of improving her ME and a higher fuel cost to make her ME tolerable. I give her money most months to make up her short fall.

So I ask again, how did she succeed in getting the payment? I'm all ears.

She should definitely appeal. Go to benefits and work website and use their guides to help complete the form.
I think quite often you need to appeal.

WaitingForMojo · 07/12/2023 23:31

It’s not about ‘buzzwords’. It’s about knowing the law, and knowing the descriptors inside out. Yes, it’s wrong that people need to access that to prove eligibility. But it’s about case law and eligibility criteria. And explaining exactly how the descriptors are met.