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Comments about daughter

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Cuckoochanel80 · 05/12/2023 23:36

How would you feel if your closest friend was starting to make comments about your 18 month old child , including:

Making comments that they are delayed (they aren't)

Saying they have 'hobbit feet' and repeating it in front of them

Saying they have 'teeth like a bottle opener' (teeth are healthy just shape inherited from dad)

Person has form for long term putting me down, gaslighting, manipulating, undermining me etc but to others looks like a supportive, loving friend going above and beyond.

I have been vulnerable at times and they have come forward with a lot of support when I needed it, they make me feel I owe them.

However they have been making me feel not good for a while and starting to involve my child is the last straw

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Cuckoochanel80 · 05/12/2023 23:46

That's what I'm afraid of (that my daughter will soon realise what is being said)

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coldcallerbaiter · 05/12/2023 23:45

Tell this friend that her face looks like a pigs arse and to shove her comments up her bum

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Cuckoochanel80 · 05/12/2023 23:44

Yeah this is what I thought sadly. I know the tactics now as I've been in an abusive relationship previously

This person took me under her wing and I've ended up isolated, currently trying to build myself back up.

They have tried to involve their family members with my child to try and hook me in so I can't distance myself, it's all starting to disturb me

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AtrociousCircumstance · 05/12/2023 23:41

Unless you stop seeing this malicious prick you will be actively bringing toxic criticism to your child. Dump her or fade her out quickly.

DNLove · 05/12/2023 23:40

Wow, that's a horrific way to take about any child. Get that person out of your life. Let mamma bear come out and protect your child from disgusting comments like that. Comments like that can stick in a child's mind for life, your child will soon get to an age where they understand what is being said and you need that bitch out of the picture before then.

Hankunamatata · 05/12/2023 23:40

'Person has form for long term putting me down, gaslighting, manipulating, undermining me'

Why stay friends with them?

Aquamarine1029 · 05/12/2023 23:39

and starting to involve my child is the last straw

Then it should be the very last straw. Tell her you no longer want to continue the relationship and end it.

It's all up to you, op.

Useruser1212 · 05/12/2023 23:39

To makes those comments about ANYONES child is horrible but to make comments like that about a friends child, that's just on another level of nastiness. She's definitely not someone I would consider a friend.

AnnieSnap · 05/12/2023 23:39

I think it’s very sad that you consider this awful individual your closest friend. Dump her!

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Cuckoochanel80 · 05/12/2023 23:38

They make me feel like I'm too sensitive about things but I don't think I am

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Finestreason · 05/12/2023 23:38

Why are they still your closest friend?

Better to have no friends than friends who are awful. 😞

Greenshake · 05/12/2023 23:38

I would really wonder why I considered that person my closest friend.

Beckafett · 05/12/2023 23:38

You don't owe this person anything and neither does your baby. I'd step away

WanderingWitches · 05/12/2023 23:38

This person is not your friend
Protect your daughter

BubziOwl · 05/12/2023 23:37

Please ditch this person asap!

bryceQ · 05/12/2023 23:37

I wouldn't be friends with someone who spoke like this about my baby, it's vile.