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Work Christmas do's

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bjjgirl · 30/11/2023 16:06

AIBU to not go on work Christmas do's in the city where I work (45 mins away from
Where I live) in my own time?

If I am on my day off or my shift has ended why should I feel pressured to go and socialise with colleagues when I am
With them all day ?

It seems to offend people when I don't go- I just like to keep work separate from play iyswim.

I really like them, I value my team and promote wellbeing but I don't want to see everyone get drunk and eat crap.plus time off is so valuable I'd rather not waste it.

Happy for everyone to go without me or have a festive Buffett in the office in work time.

I'd rather be with my family. Am I a misery?

I have so many friend events / sport socials and family events I just don't want to be busy every weekend

God I feel old

OP posts:
TerrysNeapolitan · 30/11/2023 16:39

Not at all been there feel the same OP - different when I was young!

VickyEadieofThigh · 30/11/2023 16:35

bjjgirl · 30/11/2023 16:22

I just can't be bothered to spend my time off with them - it's the faff of travelling, being cold and generally the effort, to watch them get drunk (as I would be driving)) and pay too much for a crap roast dinner

I'm all for let's do a nice Buffett in works time

YANBU. Please don't bow to any pressure - if you don't want to go, don't.

Tiree1965 · 30/11/2023 16:33

I guess a lot depends on what the ‘Christmas do’ is. We usually go for an activity late afternoon and those who want to keep drinking can and those who don’t head home. This year it’s bowling and games but we’ve also done cocktail making, ghost tours and a visit to the zoo.

Dontcallmescarface · 30/11/2023 16:31

YNBU. In all my 40 years of working I have been to 2. None have ever been during work hours and driving back through cold, dark, country lanes afterwards (no buses and taxis are, and always were, very expensive), is a good enough reason not to bother IMO.

NotFastButFurious · 30/11/2023 16:27

I don't even have to pay for mine and it's easy to get to, I just don't want to go! Crap mass produced food and a drunken disco isn't my idea of a fun friday night and I have nothing to wear so would have had to go shopping and that's also up there in my idea of hell! A few of us are going out for a proper catch up and nice meal instead.

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bjjgirl · 30/11/2023 16:22

I just can't be bothered to spend my time off with them - it's the faff of travelling, being cold and generally the effort, to watch them get drunk (as I would be driving)) and pay too much for a crap roast dinner

I'm all for let's do a nice Buffett in works time

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Original poster
bjjgirl · 30/11/2023 16:21

I just can't be bothered to spend my time off with them - it's the faff of travelling, being cold and generally the effort, to watch them get drunk (as I would be driving)) and pay too much for a crap roast dinner

I'm all for let's do a nice Buffett in works time

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CatamaranViper · 30/11/2023 16:16

I love a bit of socialising with colleagues, I find it a great way to get to know them better. But, I don't think anyone should feel pressured to go to anything they don't want to. You should absolutely be able to refuse an invite without there being negative repercussions

Dogcatmousecat · 30/11/2023 16:14

It just depends on individuals . My two closest friends and all my other good friends ,were all friends I have picked up over the last 40 years who I met at work in different places .
Am sure we first got to really know each other over a few drinks ,out of work hours !

NotFastButFurious · 30/11/2023 16:09

YANBU
I've not been to mine for the last couple of years cos I'm just a bit done with having to be overly nice to drunk people I'd rather not spend my Friday evening with!

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