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AIBU: Left Alone with Concussion

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Concussed · 30/11/2023 09:31

I had a head injury on Sunday evening that suddenly became a one-sided headache, confusion and dizziness on Monday evening. I couldn't bend my head or lay down without it become more intense.

I called 111 who told me to go to A&E. I moved house a week ago, didn't have any cash for a taxi (drivers refuse to accept cards here) and would need to have looked for an ATM late at night.

Called my mum asking if I could get a lift to hospital. She told me to go to bed and see how it was in the morning.

Next day, even worse by lunchtime. Call 111 again and can't string a proper sentence together. They tell me I should have gone last night.

Go to A&E and get diagnosed with concussion. Get a leaflet about needing to stay with someone for 24 - 48 hours in case things get worse and expected symptoms. Told not to read, watch tv etc for a few days and gradually return to work after at least 7 days.

Parents left me alone for several days. They popped in for literally one minute on Tuesday and one minute yesterday. On the Tuesday I was so unwell I couldn't get out of bed to answer the door, so they let themselves in with a spare key. I was in the dark and could only answer with yes or no. Same yes or no answers yesterday.

Feeling more normal today, though really resentful that I was left alone without being able to wash the dishes etc. I had no plates or cutlery. My bed was delivered a few days ago and I was too unwell to make it, so I've been sleeping on a mattress on the floor. I'd told them I can't use my oven because turning it on causes the power to the full house to cut off. They brought me a frozen meal in response. All I ate yesterday was a packet of crisps.

In contrast, they've spent full days with my sister who had a baby two weeks ago. She lives in a city around 90 minutes drive away (I live 10 minutes drive from them), both mother and baby are healthy, she has a husband she lives with 24/7, both off on full pay, both sets of grandparents involved and she has several close friends who have children.

I know it's near Christmas but this was the final straw for me. I've been neglected by them at various points in the past and it's had a long term effect on my other relationships. I stayed with a controlling and emotionally abusive boyfriend for three years because it felt familiar.

OP posts:
tescocreditcard · 30/11/2023 09:36

I'm sorry to hear your parents weren't there for you when you needed them. They are probably a bit preoccupied with the new baby. In a way, baby's have priority over adults really.

In any case you said yourself this was the last straw so hopefully you won't have to deal with them again.

Hope you feel better soon.