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What makes your evening special?

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Member786488 · 28/11/2023 20:05

So if you don’t drink, smoke, vape and are trying not to eat chocolate and other shit food, what do you do / have in the evenings to mark ‘adult’ time, or feel like you’re treating yourself?

aibu to think there’s only so many baths one can reasonably have…

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wiseoldcat · 29/11/2023 08:33

I know the feeling OP, I'm trying to do the same but there is something nice about having an alcoholic drink to relax, and it's hard to get the same feeling from a cup of tea.

I suppose it's trying to get into a mindset of self care and knowing that you are doing it to make yourself feel good (which is quite a mature/ 'adult' idea really!). It's difficult to flip that switch but once you've done it, it feels great.

Cooking a nice meal from scratch and sharing with anyone you live with - or enjoying by yourself - is a really nice thing to do I find. Just skip the wine! ;)

JenniferJupiterVenusandMars · 29/11/2023 08:17

Long bath with a book, into bed with a hot chocolate and read until I fall asleep 😴
Bliss!

brrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr · 29/11/2023 08:03

I watch extraordinarily nerdy videos on YouTube.

bryceQ · 29/11/2023 07:55

I go to sound baths, Yoga or other activities.

oranga · 29/11/2023 07:44

OMG this is what's been missing from my life. A pop-up sauna tent? That sounds like heaven. Where do I get one of these

I have one like this - it's really much better than I expected!

COSTWAY Home Steam Sauna, 9 Levels Temperature Adjustable Personal Spa Box with Folding Chair, 3L 1000W Bathroom Remote Control Sauna Tent for Therapy, Detoxify, Sweating and Slimming (Silver) amzn.eu/d/bvqrBxR

piscofrisco · 29/11/2023 06:28

Going for a swim.
Lighting the candles, low light and reading on my kindle under the blanket with some music on low in the background. The second one happens about once a month when no one else is in to disturb the peace shouting at the PlayStation/their mates on FaceTime/each other.

Thepeopleversuswork · 28/11/2023 21:56

oranga · 28/11/2023 20:32

I have a pop up sauna tent so I get in that for 20 mins whilst watching telly. Afterwards a cold shower and drink a ton of water and moisturise. Niche but it's very relaxing!

OMG this is what's been missing from my life. A pop-up sauna tent? That sounds like heaven. Where do I get one of these?

Ohtobetwentytwo · 28/11/2023 21:47

You just need to find somethinf new to look forward to so you can build a new routine. Perhaps get a selection box of herbal teas?

I like tv evenings with a new series, bath and scented candle and trashy magazine evenings, book in bed nights, activity nights where I Get Shit Done. Stretching night. Mumsnet and Instagram nights. I also like a Thursday cleaning night so that I can flop on Friday with a clean house.

PelicanPopcorn · 28/11/2023 21:45

Researching potential trips with movies I've seen a lot of times in the background. Thinking of presents/fun things to do with people

QueSyrahSyrah · 28/11/2023 21:38

It will OP! I'm only on tea / hot chocolate instead of wine as I'm pregnant, but I have got used to it (and I'm treating myself to nicer brands in lieu of wine spend).

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Member786488 · 28/11/2023 21:28

Thanks for all of these - it does seem that a cup of some kind of tea and a book is the go-to for many of you.

i guess I was hoping I’d missed something. I SO enjoy a glass or 2 of wine but am knocking it on the head for health reasons - I just can’t help finding the evenings lacking at the moment but I guess it’ll pass.

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Rjahdhdvd · 28/11/2023 20:58

Watching a programme I really enjoy. A low calorie hot chocolate. A small treat with my cup of tea

@ssd my GP told me to take it at night

EdgarsTale · 28/11/2023 20:56

A really lovely dinner full of healthy foods. Afterwards, I light a scented candle & relax on the sofa. I have herbal teas & occasionally hot chocolate for a treat.

EarringsandLipstick · 28/11/2023 20:55

Ha! This all sounds lovely & quite idyllic.

Every. Single. Evening finds me running between kids' activities, mostly sport, often till 930 or later.

I get up very early to exercise so I often just about get my clothes off, teeth brushed & collapse into bed.

If I could, it would be a) reading in bed and b) actually watching a programme on TV, properly, sitting on the couch. Not half-catching up on my phone while doing a chore.

Raincloudsonasunnyday · 28/11/2023 20:51

Fruit, TV or a book, everyone leaving me along to my thoughts!

App13 · 28/11/2023 20:46

Green & Blacks hot chocolate

PieAndLattes · 28/11/2023 20:39

i Put my electric blanket on high for 15 minutes, get into bed, and read a trashy regency romance on my Kindle. I have to do a lot of ‘hard’ reading for work and it’s lovely to switch off my body and brain. It’s very soothing.

Carsarelife · 28/11/2023 20:39

Candle, cup of tea, cuddling with my dog

2mummies1baby · 28/11/2023 20:35

Non-alcoholic beer, nice lighting in the lounge, either watch something or read a book.

OnlyFannys · 28/11/2023 20:34

ssd · 28/11/2023 20:19

How much magnesium? I take a tablet in the morning 375mg. Should i be taking it at night?

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I take 2 high strength at night to help me sleep

oranga · 28/11/2023 20:32

I have a pop up sauna tent so I get in that for 20 mins whilst watching telly. Afterwards a cold shower and drink a ton of water and moisturise. Niche but it's very relaxing!

4intheCorner · 28/11/2023 20:23

A cup of The Earl and a cinnamon bun 🤌

NuffSaidSam · 28/11/2023 20:21

At this time of year, being cosy. PJ's, slippers, blankets, candle, fairy lights etc. Cup of tea. Peace and quiet. Might have a bit of chocolate too, but can leave that bit out if necessary.

ssd · 28/11/2023 20:19

whatisforteamum · 28/11/2023 20:10

Got into herbal tea and masala chai.
Magnesium before bed.
Boring but i sleep like a baby.

How much magnesium? I take a tablet in the morning 375mg. Should i be taking it at night?

Crunchymum · 28/11/2023 20:19

Reading, TV of my choice.

I do currently eat a dessert which will be stopping as part of a drastic health overhaul soon but tonight we had lemon meringue pie. Was delish!!