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Drinking all weekend?

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seriouslyfedup · 26/11/2023 18:55

Every weekend, and then living the working week as though that was another me and I don't relate.

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StephanieLampshade · 26/11/2023 19:40

A lot of people do it. But how do you fit in gorgeous day trips and exercise and hobbies?

One definition of addiction is a gradual narrowing of things that give you pleasure and a focus on one: in this case, alcohol.

usernother · 26/11/2023 19:38

Sounds normal to me. I only drink one of the days at weekends and not every weekend but I have lots of friends who drink lots more than you on Friday and Saturdays.

Loopytiles · 26/11/2023 19:38

Sounds like you and your H have a drink problem.

Tailfeather · 26/11/2023 19:38

@Eve223 46.

We don't get utterly trollied! But booze is definitely a common factor of our socialising, but this is across parent friends from school, work mates, old friends, neighbours etc.

Caspianberg · 26/11/2023 19:37

No it’s not normal for me.
Dh very rarely drink now. A drink at a bbq in summer or glass of wine at a dinner out and that’s it. We often go months with no alcohol.
We Have to drive home meaning one of us can’t drink anyway, and at home have a toddler who still needs looking after. I wouldn’t want to be looking after a small
child drunk or with major hangover.

WashItTomorrow · 26/11/2023 19:37

Zanatdy · 26/11/2023 19:35

I find it’s fine to enjoy yourself on the weekend but 1 litre of Bailey’s in 1 night is a hell of a lot. Why not have 1 night drinking on the weekend, arrange something with your DH that doesn’t involve drinking (after Christmas now I guess)

A litre? I thought she meant a little Baileys.

Eve223 · 26/11/2023 19:35

Tailfeather · 26/11/2023 19:31

I do this, as do all if my friends. Work hard during the week. Weekends are dinner parties, meals out, long, boozy Sunday lunches.

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How old are you @Tailfeather if you don't mind me asking?

Zanatdy · 26/11/2023 19:35

I find it’s fine to enjoy yourself on the weekend but 1 litre of Bailey’s in 1 night is a hell of a lot. Why not have 1 night drinking on the weekend, arrange something with your DH that doesn’t involve drinking (after Christmas now I guess)

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seriouslyfedup · 26/11/2023 19:35

NeelyOHara1 · 26/11/2023 19:27

Unless I've misunderstood, you only drink Sat and Sun? I don't see the problem.

I'd absolutely never give it a thought during the week.

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WashItTomorrow · 26/11/2023 19:34

NeelyOHara1 · 26/11/2023 19:27

Unless I've misunderstood, you only drink Sat and Sun? I don't see the problem.

There’s no “only” about it. Say a bottle of wine has 10 units, and the OP has two each on the two weekend days - that’s a whopping 40 units, and that doesn’t even include the Baileys. The maximum advised is 14 units per week.

WellThatChangesThings · 26/11/2023 19:32

Is it social drinking as in a few with friends as is pretty normal this time of year or do you feel as though there’s a problem? Could you happily have a weekend off or does the thought make you uncomfortable? It does sound like a lot but I have a rubbish tolerance for alcohol and just end up feeling unwell if I drink too much so probably not the best judge.

Tailfeather · 26/11/2023 19:31

seriouslyfedup · 26/11/2023 19:06

I think I'm just looking for someone to say, yes that's totally normal behaviour we all do this.

I do this, as do all if my friends. Work hard during the week. Weekends are dinner parties, meals out, long, boozy Sunday lunches.

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seriouslyfedup · 26/11/2023 19:31

WashItTomorrow · 26/11/2023 19:25

Ok, that is a lot and not normal. I think you must realise this really.

Yes I probably am starting to worry about it but I don't know a sober life at the moment, my dh drinks, all our friends are drinkers and my family like to drink. I don't how I could be sober in when my life and everyone in it is very different.
I would think they'd support my decision but carry on without me.
Cutting down isn't an option, I know I couldn't just have one.

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autumnboys · 26/11/2023 19:29

Maybe once upon a time. It took me a long time to be able to acknowledge to myself that it was exacerbating my auto immune disorder. Just had a weekend away with some of our oldest friends without drinking. Zero regrets, had a brilliant time, they all drank, I didn’t and it was totally fine. It is doable and honestly, no one notices or cares.

Try a weekend night next weekend. You can do it.

NeelyOHara1 · 26/11/2023 19:27

Unless I've misunderstood, you only drink Sat and Sun? I don't see the problem.

WashItTomorrow · 26/11/2023 19:25

Ok, that is a lot and not normal. I think you must realise this really.

Silverstoat · 26/11/2023 19:24

I always have a drink on a Friday and Saturday. Usually a bottle and a half of wine spread out over 2 nights. I live alone with 2 dc and rarely go out so don't really have anything else to do on a weekend once the dc are asleep. Is it the amount you're drinking that's worrying you?

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seriouslyfedup · 26/11/2023 19:19

Createausername1970 · 26/11/2023 19:11

It's not normal for me tbh.

How many units do you think you drink over the course of a weekend, and what is the recommended maximum? Therein lies your answer.

I can easily pack away a little of bailies or the best part of two bottles of wine on a Friday night and then repeat on Saturday.
I've always had a high tolerance but for 5"2 I know it's a lot and I do tend to crash out suddenly at the end of an evening.

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TheresaCrowd · 26/11/2023 19:19

seriouslyfedup · 26/11/2023 19:06

I think I'm just looking for someone to say, yes that's totally normal behaviour we all do this.

We don't all do it.

Can you make your meet ups with friends more food or activity based?

Ohwhatadag · 26/11/2023 19:19

Yes and no. If I am not careful, i can have one too many on friday (eg after work drinks), one too many on Saturday (eg with DH or friends) and then a boozy lunch on Sunday.

But I hate drinking and feeling shite all weekend. So I really make an effort to have one booze-free day/evening and then only 2 drinks on the other drinking day/night.

OdeToBarney · 26/11/2023 19:19

I'm mid 30s and before I had DC, I used to drink way too much. A drink every night and more on the weekends. One of my shameful secrets is that I knew pregnancy and parenthood would be the kick up the backside I needed to tone down my drinking (obviously not drinking at all during pregnancy, before someone suggests otherwise) and it worked. I barely drink now. There is nothing worse than parenting with a hangover! But OP I guess if your DC are grown you don't have the same responsibilities and need to be sober. But you do need to reign it in a bit because being totally honest, from someone who's been there, it's not normal.

WashItTomorrow · 26/11/2023 19:18

It sounds like a lot to me. You need to quantify it - how much exactly?

duvetdayy · 26/11/2023 19:15

I had a drink Friday and Saturday night (three Friday, two Saturday) and then I had two mimosas with brunch today. This is generally about standard for me. I don’t class that as drinking all weekend and there’s not a massive difference in how I act compared to being completely sober. I don’t have a hangover or feel rubbish. I’m 29. If you are “drinking all weekend” and feeling like the you who drinks is massively different to the usual you - I think that’s a problem. Especially if you’re seeking others saying that it is ok.

ZekeZeke · 26/11/2023 19:12

I'm 8 years sober, I also couldn't just have one.

Createausername1970 · 26/11/2023 19:11

It's not normal for me tbh.

How many units do you think you drink over the course of a weekend, and what is the recommended maximum? Therein lies your answer.