To send this text?

What is wrong with picking up.the phone op?
Texting is a cop.out and that's why your now in a pickle.

or not. Honestly there have been some convos when I was dating that just fizzled and I was praying the guy wouldn't feel the need to text and prolong it. I don't think sit back and plot- oh I hope he messages, I wonder why he hasn't. At least I don't any more. If I don't get a text, I assume he's moved on. Might sting a teeny bit if i really fancied them, but that's life!

I'm very old, and I want to say to all younger women what I said to my own dd-"he should really want to see you if he's worth anything- he should be excited and delighted. If he's at all reluctant or you suspect he's playing games, dump and move on. Never be the one sitting by the phone"

@idontgive

has he been active on Facebook?

why did he need to make the next step?

im a woman, I feel mist of us want it both ways these days, want to be 'equal & independent' then get pissy when the bloke doesn't make all the moves.

i reply 'cool' when we've been discussing the same thing for a while or it's just 'information' & there's really nothing left to say! One of us will text when there's something else to say.

yes he could have sent you messages since then, but you could have sent him some too. Didnt need to be about your dog or the date.

if you like him & want to see him again, ask if he wants to meet you for xyz at x time.

ask about todays non date IF you meet up in person.

if you're not that keen now, just let it go.

try to have a good weekend!

Definitely don't text him. I wouldn't block him either though. It'll drive him mad that you haven't messaged!

I just want him to know that I noticed what he did, I didn't forget about the planned date. And I am telling him that's that rather than askin him. Maybe I should be more direct.

Yeah he'll know you noticed. He knows what he's doing. Really no excuse for completely ghosting someone on a date unless he's unconscious in hospital. If you want to communicate with him take control and let him know you're ending it. Don't hand him any more power than he's already got.

Personally I'd just let it go and draw a line.

From experience, I’d feel worse if I sent that final text and STILL didn’t get a reply.
id just leave it.

He's sat there somewhere saying you ghosted him after saying cool

Don’t text him. Even if you come up with some brilliant way of telling him that you noticed the change in texting and then the total silence, what is going to happen? He’s not going to apologise for being honest about not being that into you or ghosting you. Instead, he’ll just roll his eyes and block you, so he can tell himself that you’re a crazy stalker type, rather than feel bad for being a cowardly twat. You don’t want to give him that. He’ll be expecting some kind of contact from you at some point. Let him wonder why it doesn’t come; he’s not your problem.

Don’t tell him that his behaviour is not what you’re looking for so you won’t be seeing him again, either. You’ve been ghosted; he already knows you won’t be seeing each other again and that it was his choice, not yours. And again, he’s not going to apologise.

Keep your dignity. Unfriend him on social media. I wouldn’t bother blocking him yet because he’s not that significant. If his plan B doesn’t work out and he texts you in a couple of weeks to carry on where you left off, you simply reply ‘No thank you’. No insults, no reasons given, just ‘No thank you’. Then block.

Should you ever come into contact with him in the future, you’ll be so glad you treated him as the insignificant blip that he is, rather than let him know he had any effect on you. Say hello, smile then excuse yourself to talk to some else. Treat him with as much consideration as he has given you.

Don't text. It won't help and if he ignores you you'll feel even worse.

Don't block him but delete his number so you aren't tempted to text him. If he does message simply reply who's this? I wouldn't want him to know you're bothered, then he wins I am not a loser but I am petty.

Just leave it. He has your number if he wants to arrange something in the future.

I'd just keep it light and open, "Hey, fancy coming to this, or meeting here...? "

The beginning is meant to be fun and relaxed, so just send an open message and see if anything comes back. If there was an issue it would be his chance to clear things up for you.

I think you’ve interpreted ‘cool’ as like ‘yep’ or 👍🏻, offhand, but in no way I’d see that as terminal, so in your shoes, I’d have texted a neutral ‘are we still on for Friday at 1?’

If you like him and would like to see him again, I would send him a message asking directly if he would like to meet again soon. No games, no assumptions, no hidden meanings. Meanings can be misunderstood on texts so he might have been cooling off, or he might have just been busy, or something else. So give him one more chance and see what happens (if you would like to see him again). If he messes you around or answers off hand, then leave it there.

Don’t text that.

Because maybe you were supposed to confirm the details of the date, and you didn’t, maybe he is sat there wondering why you have ghosted him?

I thought this. Maybe he was there and you stood him up. He thinks you are the one who’s doing the ghosting.

Stop with games. Just text and ask if he wants to meet anymore since the lunch date was missed. Job done

So you made a lunch arrangement. Did you show up? Maybe he showed up if you didn't? That would be the end for me, if I got stood up without a good explanation.

Once every two weeks is a lot less than most people would want early in a relationship. Maybe he's not feeling it or wants someone with more time for him as a couple? It's only been two dates, so it's obviously not worked out.

You are getting some really bad input on this thread OP. Presumably from people who have no idea what it’s like to date in 2024!
”cool” was definitely a dismissive response, designed to shut down the conversation. If he was interested in continuing , he would have made an effort to say more or ask a question.
Dates always need re confirmation the day of , or at minimum the night before. You were right to follow your instincts and leave it to him to confirm this time, given that you did it last time, and his dismissive lack of interest in the conversation you were trying to engage him in. The fact that he did not reach out again tells you all you need to know.
I wouldn’t text. Dignified silence is the best way to go I think, and I would block him for closure for yourself so that you don’t wonder if he’s going to get in touch again x

In that case, it doesn't sound like he was rude and I agree with others, maybe you could have texted to ask if lunch was still ok. But then, so could he.

He MAY be feeling that you just went away when you didn't reply. If you like him, send a real friendly text and say something about missing lunch yesterday and if he doesn't reply, then yes, just forget him

@idontgive Did you actually reply to the 'cool' or did you just stop texting him? If so maybe he thinks you were not wanting to speak to him any more? Nothing wrong with saying 'cool'!!