Highly sensitive empath burn out

I understand what you mean. I have these traits too, but I manage them now. I don't take things to heart anymore, I put myself first, I avoid negative energy, ignore or divert it away as it drains me out just like it drains you out.. if someone has a problem I now believe it is theirs and not mine to sort out! Just start putting yourself first because in the world we live in no one cares about anyone but themselves. Peoples attitudes have nothing to do with the person that you are they have a lot going on in their own minds and lives.

Are you quite introverted too? Because this could be a sign of burning out around extroverted individuals who non stop chatter.

I object that you have disrespected my view @sollenwir

Very true, most empaths don't advertise it. Some are brave enough to be open in conversations like this one. Alas a whole range of derogatory responses ensue. Different views are fine, disrespect isn't.

@Watchkeys the OP has literally posted in the AIBU section. Some people will think she is being unreasonable and some won't. This is the nature of the AIBU section. Presumably the OP wanted to find out if she was being reasonable/unreasonable and people have given their views.

They could well be negative, I didn't say they weren't, but she is also being negative. I am unsure of your point?

Perhaps the people you describe aren’t really empaths.

I do believe there are people who feel things very keenly, but don’t go around advertising the fact. They keep it inside. Hence, the burnout.

....and what sort of echo chamber have a few posters on this thread found here?

Sorry @Keepingscore I hope you can find some useful info in among the other less helpful stuff.

People are often told to stop being negative, there's a, shall we say, 'robust' range of views. Have you spent much time here...?

Surely the entire definition of empath is that they over feel others emotions to the point they are stealing them. So of course it's narcissistic / selfish to be more upset by something that happens to someone else than they are!
It's a problem, being empathetic is good but actually taking it on as if it really were your own emotion is not healthy.
And yes hsp is autism and empath is very likely autism.

How so? I thought we had agreed on our ‘difference of opinion’…

Get some headphones

That's a completely illogical conclusion.

Perhaps they are negative - she states that they gossip a lot, and that can make a workplace environment really uncomfortable and is quite draining too.

Isn’t it shocking how many people are neurodivergent and an empath. Almost like it’s the same thing.

This is my problem with the whole concept of being an "empath" - its so unscientific. It's literally impossible to measure and compare the extent to which people "feel" things. Sure there are extreme examples where you can see where people's emotions are real outliers: for example someone having a meltdown watching a harrowing news report. But how can you ever establish that that's something that's inherent to them or whether its situational (they were tired or drunk or knew someone who was involved in the conflict) or related to historical trauma.

It's not as if you can do a clinical trial to measure the responses of 100 people to a set of scenarios (a relationship breakdown/a bollocking of work). By definition you can't arrange to measure those things in parallel and you can't control for other impacting factors so how on earth can you know?

For one thing not everyone expresses to the outside world how much they "feel" things: plenty of people have very significant emotional reactions to various stimuli but mask them very effectively or are not constitutionally able to express them.

Leaving aside the question of whether empaths exist, like many other people on this thread I can't help observing that the people who self-describe as empaths seem to actually thrive on their empath status and almost turn it into their brand. They bang on and on about how difficult and draining they find it to deal with other people's negativity and how they channel their emotions etc. But they seem drawn to it like moths to a flame and can't resist an opportunity to advertise their "empathetic" status.

If there is a condition approaching that of an empath I think its probably someone with very poorly regulated emotions who thrives on low level drama and seeks to manipulate other people's difficulties in order to centre themselves in a situation they would otherwise be on the periphery of. And that's largely down to being self-centred, rather than genuinely empathetic. A real empath wouldn't go around telling anyone who will listen that they were an empath.

Most threads here involve someone feeling negative about something, and someone. People are not routinely being told to stop 'being negative and gossiping' about their husbands, though. Useful suggestions are made, and attempts to understand the poster's point of view.

@Nonoatchristmas as an autistic i will say absolutely it is very real

That makes sense, hence also my repeated comments about developing coping strategies which help keep balance during and destress after. Empaths/HSP don't want to be really sensitive, it's a trait that needs constant managing.

OP - autistic and sensory processing burnout is real.

Social cues are often hard to partake in, and what is typical chat to most people, such as ‘gossiping’, can seem highly irritating and cause you much discomfort, almost to the point of it feeling painful.

Look up therapy and a possible diagnosis, the former can be tailored to help with coping mechanisms in a neurotypical work environment, especially when facing emotional meltdowns.

Dont get suckered into a new Social Media self ID label or cultist on the internet. Get real help.

@Hibiscrubbed Ugh. So sorry for your loss and she sounds truly obnoxious.

When I was raped and was trying to get the bloke prosecuted, a New Ager said to me 'I'm having nothing more to do with this negative energy.'
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Also, these HSPs/'Empaths' seem to lack the self-awareness to realise how calling themselves an empath etc comes across to others. Which kind of gives the lie to the whole thing.

@Watchkeys why do you keep engaging with me?

How is saying you find your colleagues negative not being negative???!!!!

What else is the OP doing but being negative and gossiping about her colleages

She's looking for a solution to a situation she finds negative, and talking about her colleagues behaviour in a non-personal way, in a completely unrelated setting. It's neither negativity nor gossip.

@Watchkeys what is the point of engaging with me?

What doesn't make sense?