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SheSaidHummingbird · 21/11/2023 15:34

Is it possible for Mumsnetters to discuss male users of this site without breaking the Talk Guidelines? Or is this a forbidden topic?

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BIWI · 21/11/2023 16:12

Ah - so you've been troll hunting. That's definitely not allowed.

And there's nothing new about trolls on MN. Male or female.

If you have a problem with specific posters you think are trolling, then you report them to MNHQ. How is that difficult?

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SheSaidHummingbird · 21/11/2023 16:11

@pickledandpuzzled Absolutely, yes, you're right. And it seems I can make comments about female trolls but not about make trolls. That's the point I'm trying to express without my comments being deleted.

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BIWI · 21/11/2023 16:10

SheSaidHummingbird · 21/11/2023 16:09

@BIWI not about specific users or specific threads. Of course men are welcome, but there has been a number of posts where the mums of Mumsnet are devalued and I don't feel welcome here anymore
But if I have something to say about that, my comment is deleted.

Your post won't be deleted unless it's against Talk Guidelines. What have you been saying?

Hereforthebunfights · 21/11/2023 16:10

Even if men were not supposed to be here, how would you tell? Its not like it can be verified.

Flickersy · 21/11/2023 16:10

SheSaidHummingbird · 21/11/2023 16:05

@Flickersy Not wanting to hound. I want to use this website, as I used to, safe in the knowledge that most threads are genuine and not a deliberate attempt to create news fodder.

That's not unique to MN.

The moment you post something on the internet you lose control of what people do with it.

If you're not happy to do that, don't post.

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SheSaidHummingbird · 21/11/2023 16:09

@BIWI not about specific users or specific threads. Of course men are welcome, but there has been a number of posts where the mums of Mumsnet are devalued and I don't feel welcome here anymore
But if I have something to say about that, my comment is deleted.

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pickledandpuzzled · 21/11/2023 16:09

SheSaidHummingbird · 21/11/2023 16:05

@Flickersy Not wanting to hound. I want to use this website, as I used to, safe in the knowledge that most threads are genuine and not a deliberate attempt to create news fodder.

That has nothing to do with make or female. There are women newshounds as well as male, and there are men and women posting made up nonsense.

idealgift · 21/11/2023 16:09

BIWI · 21/11/2023 16:07

I haven't a clue what you're on about @SheSaidHummingbird. Why don't you just spit it out? What - exactly - do you feel you aren't able to discuss here that you used to?

quite simply

she wants to be able to bitch freely and for mumsnet not to delete

that is the long and short of it

Nochoiceleft · 21/11/2023 16:08

There have been men on this site for many years. Why is it now an issue?

idealgift · 21/11/2023 16:08

I don’t think online chat forums are for you OP

BIWI · 21/11/2023 16:07

I haven't a clue what you're on about @SheSaidHummingbird. Why don't you just spit it out? What - exactly - do you feel you aren't able to discuss here that you used to?

idealgift · 21/11/2023 16:07

SheSaidHummingbird · 21/11/2023 16:05

@Flickersy Not wanting to hound. I want to use this website, as I used to, safe in the knowledge that most threads are genuine and not a deliberate attempt to create news fodder.

don’t we will

but what does that have to do with male users?

the most bizarre threads get picked up, many nothing to do with gender or men

TheHorneSection · 21/11/2023 16:06

Any discussion about men using MN is either going to be a very short great, everyone welcome! conversation, or a pile on from some posters saying men shouldn’t be allowed. The first has no point, and the second is pretty mean.

Were you after the first or the second?

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SheSaidHummingbird · 21/11/2023 16:05

@Flickersy Not wanting to hound. I want to use this website, as I used to, safe in the knowledge that most threads are genuine and not a deliberate attempt to create news fodder.

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BIWI · 21/11/2023 16:04

This is bizarre.

There are lots of men on Mumsnet @SheSaidHummingbird - whether you like it or not.

And although you might be able to get away with a thread about how you don't like that, a thread discussing specific posters (unless you want to heap praise on them) is not going to go down well with anyone, least of all MNHQ.

Flickersy · 21/11/2023 16:03

SheSaidHummingbird · 21/11/2023 16:02

@Flickersy no, not about a specific thread, just a comment or comments that I would like to make about make users if this website. It seems that users are not allowed to have discussions on this topic.

Then that sounds like it's sailing very close to the personal attack line. So of course it's not allowed.

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SheSaidHummingbird · 21/11/2023 16:02

@Flickersy no, not about a specific thread, just a comment or comments that I would like to make about make users if this website. It seems that users are not allowed to have discussions on this topic.

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Flickersy · 21/11/2023 16:01

HeyNando · 21/11/2023 16:00

Was it you who started the thread earlier telling male users to leave?

With respect...users is how MN generates revenue. You go around trying to cut the number of users, they're not going to appreciate it much.

Yes you're not allowed to try and hound users off threads etc either.

HeyNando · 21/11/2023 16:00

Was it you who started the thread earlier telling male users to leave?

With respect...users is how MN generates revenue. You go around trying to cut the number of users, they're not going to appreciate it much.

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SheSaidHummingbird · 21/11/2023 16:00

@Hereforthebunfights Because they are swiftly deleted

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StockpotSoup · 21/11/2023 15:59

What do you want to discuss? The fact that they exist? That isn’t news.

Flickersy · 21/11/2023 15:57

I haven't seen the thread in question, but you can't make personal attacks or troll hunt.

If you're doing either of those then yes your thread will be deleted.

Edit: if you want to get MNs attention and get a response you'll either need to report your own post or post on site stuff.

AlisonDonut · 21/11/2023 15:57

What do you want to discuss?

People seem to think that all users on here are female and mums. This could not be further from the truth! Esp in FWR, many, many users are not female at all

Hereforthebunfights · 21/11/2023 15:56

SheSaidHummingbird · 21/11/2023 15:51

@BIWI Because this is a discussion forum and I would like to have a discussion.

So why can't you start a thread asking what others think about men using this site?

CurlewKate · 21/11/2023 15:55

Haven't we had several threads about men on Mumsnet?