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How can Mumsnetters

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SheSaidHummingbird · 21/11/2023 15:34

Is it possible for Mumsnetters to discuss male users of this site without breaking the Talk Guidelines? Or is this a forbidden topic?

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Lovemychair · 21/11/2023 16:27

I'm sure you can word a question without it being so awful that it gets deleted .

KatBurglar · 21/11/2023 16:26

I have no idea what you're going on about, OP.

If you see a post you think it a troll, click Report. Easy as pie.

If you don't like certain posters, don't engage with them.

Hurroo · 21/11/2023 16:23

This is presumably why TsAAT are deleted - they're just so frustrating.

fedupandstuck · 21/11/2023 16:23

No site is a safe space. Even paid private members sites online.

Report posts that you think are made up, trolling. Don't troll hunt on the thread itself. Ignore posters who are derailing one of your threads and reply to the last (apparently) genuine poster instead. That's all you can do to try to minimise any disruption.

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SheSaidHummingbird · 21/11/2023 16:23

@TheJabberwocky Reddit too.

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SheSaidHummingbird · 21/11/2023 16:22

@idealgift I can't post. It will be deleted. That's my point

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Ibizabar · 21/11/2023 16:21

The internet is full of mens communities.

TeenDivided · 21/11/2023 16:21

I know a few usernames of Male posters and they ate always polite / helpful / posting in the spirit of the site.

If you have a problem with a poster or thread then report it.

TheJabberwocky · 21/11/2023 16:21

SheSaidHummingbird · 21/11/2023 16:18

@BIWI I always report and never engage. My issue is that, at some point, this website will be a magnet for people starting false threads and will no longer be a safe site for me to go to for advice, help, guidance, socialising.

It’s ALWAYS been a magnet for that! People love to troll here, it’s very common. There are threads on other sites about trolling here, hell there is a Twitter about it!

justonemoreuser · 21/11/2023 16:21

So you're linking the male users to trolling, or possibly sex topics?

What would you suggest is done?

The site owners have put right at the top of every page "by parents for parents". This isn't a democracy, and they've made their overall position quite clear - they support all parents, even if the emphasis is on mums.

Maddy70 · 21/11/2023 16:20

It's a public forum. It isn't exclusively women why would it be?
You can discuss men (most threads do actually). What you can't do is troll hunt as that's breaking the terms of useage

TheJabberwocky · 21/11/2023 16:20

So before this gets deleted @SheSaidHummingbird , what do you want? For no men in here? That’s not possible, so it would have to be no men to admit they are men?

Woukdnt you rather men found community too? Especially for those who come on and ask support with regards to a female partner as you are helping them in the long run? (Potentially)

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SheSaidHummingbird · 21/11/2023 16:20

@SerpentEndBench There are many who identify themselves as males, so I presume they are males.

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idealgift · 21/11/2023 16:20

You don’t seem at all clear about what you want and why you want it

A campaigner… you are not

SerpentEndBench · 21/11/2023 16:19

This site has never ever been a safe place. Never.

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SheSaidHummingbird · 21/11/2023 16:18

@BIWI I always report and never engage. My issue is that, at some point, this website will be a magnet for people starting false threads and will no longer be a safe site for me to go to for advice, help, guidance, socialising.

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SerpentEndBench · 21/11/2023 16:18

SheSaidHummingbird · 21/11/2023 16:13

@Flickersy Yes, always been the case. But it used to be the odd thread here and there. Now, I can't be sure of the authenticity of any thread.

Well surely you know that not everyone is who they are on the internet. One can never be sure of the sex of the person with whom one is interacting on here.

Ibizabar · 21/11/2023 16:16

SheSaidHummingbird · 21/11/2023 16:15

@Ibizabar I don't think we're allowed to say this.

Well I said it. I also ignore any thread started by a man.

HeyNando · 21/11/2023 16:15

SheSaidHummingbird · 21/11/2023 16:09

@BIWI not about specific users or specific threads. Of course men are welcome, but there has been a number of posts where the mums of Mumsnet are devalued and I don't feel welcome here anymore
But if I have something to say about that, my comment is deleted.

Don't be daft there's probably one man for every 100 women, at best.

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SheSaidHummingbird · 21/11/2023 16:15

@Ibizabar I don't think we're allowed to say this.

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Hereforthebunfights · 21/11/2023 16:14

SheSaidHummingbird · 21/11/2023 16:13

@Flickersy Yes, always been the case. But it used to be the odd thread here and there. Now, I can't be sure of the authenticity of any thread.

Why are you blaming men for this?

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SheSaidHummingbird · 21/11/2023 16:14

@Hereforthebunfights If I'd addressed the male trolls, it still would've been deleted.

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Ibizabar · 21/11/2023 16:14

I'm not keen on most of the men on MN. Especially the ones who only use the Sex topic.

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SheSaidHummingbird · 21/11/2023 16:13

@Flickersy Yes, always been the case. But it used to be the odd thread here and there. Now, I can't be sure of the authenticity of any thread.

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Hereforthebunfights · 21/11/2023 16:13

Did you start that thread telling all the men to go away? There was nothing in there about trolls.