He’s done it again

They look very comfy, you sound like hard work to buy for. Poor husband

I recall standing outside a little shop admiring some Moshulu slippers, never heard of them at the time. OH said, just have a look in the leather shop, about 20m along the road, he then appeared with a bag. On Christmas morning he was quite sniffy when I laughed and said Oh, what a lovely surprise!

Sure. He didn’t though.

But it’s not the cost of this junk that’s the problem, it’s the fact that he only bought it because it was a box ticked in his head and he had to make no effort.

I’m sad so many women on here expect and accept fuck all effort from their partners Christmas, while putting in vast amounts of effort themselves I expect.

You do realise you can buy branded clothes on Amazon, yes?

This is the exact reason we don't buy gifts to each other. I'm so particular I'd rather no gift than one that isnt quite right. We now buy our own stuff and wrap them up labeled from the other person. It all comes from the joint ac so financially doesn't really matter. The "giver" gets the Xmas surprise and the receiver gets what exactly what they want.

I hated the thought of wasted money on gifts that aren't enjoyed thoroughly.

Clothes. It’s a crime to buy clothes on Amazon.

Did you read my original comment properly? I don’t think you did. I’m aware that budget was key.

However, Amazon for clothes? It was nothing but a choice due to not having to make any effort. Don’t delude yourself it was anything other than that.

He could have gone to a shop like Next or M&S, like the OP suggested, and actually look at the items and choose something decent for a decent price. But that would involve making effort, so he didn’t.

I would definitely say something and it's not being difficult to have a preference for style or patterns, that's just normal.

If I buy a gift for someone, I'd rather they said if it wasn't their cup of tea so I could exchange than pretended to like it.

You sound difficult because of how you type and your actions. You clearly have certain expectations but are doing anything aside from be clear about them, and are judging him for not meeting your imaginary standards. At the end of the day, he’s your husband, he clearly doesn’t know what you like or don’t like after all this time. That speaks volumes about your communication

@SlightlyJaded you know most of the clothing in M&S comes from China too, right?

You’re right I probably should. It’s like the car crash thread you know you shouldn’t look at but can’t stop yourself.

Exactly this!

I would tell him that you've been thinking about his comment about not looking at the Amazon account and you're a bit worried. Say that you would never buy clothes on Amazon. Explain that there is no quality control on their for clothing and it tends to be crap from China.

Tell him to specifically buy from high street shop like M&S so that it will be decent quality and potentially changeable. Their dressing gown and slipper range is pretty decent and inoffensive - some area really lovely.

You can buy all sorts of brands from Amazon I've had loads of great quality clothes from there.

I like those tbh id be made up lol... But if not your taste .. without adking him what he bought id send links to his email say :an idea on what style id like. He might send others back then

Honestly you need to stop with the lumberjack, it wasn’t even particularly funny first time, it is just wearisome ten references repeated later.

Can you point out anyone saying that?

To be honest, you sound difficult. in future, as you’re that particular, just send links to what you want. Everyone knows where they stand then.

the dressing gown doesn’t give “lumberjack vibes”, it’s just in a checked print. The “joke” wasn’t funny the first time you typed it, let alone the several references afterwards. He’s picked it because the pink matches the slippers, probably intending the two to be a set.

Amazon is just an online market,plenty of expensive branded stuff on there. It’s far from all polyester, 🙄

Although not to your taste ‘plaid’ is very en-vogue again this autumn/winter so he may have seen this to be more prevalent when searching as this style is trending (feel that the fact you keep calling it ‘lumberjack’ style might be telling that you possible aren’t fussed on trends anyway).

Just remind him you would like a plain gown, send him a few links to choose from so the exact item is still somewhat a surprise. Or depending on how old your DD can she nudge her Dad in the right direction. That’s what I do with my DH.

It’s a bit depressing that this thread is populated by so many women saying “poor man, men really struggle to buy presents. He’s done his best. Even though he’s made no effort by buying cheap imported polyester shite off Amazon and got you something you don’t like despite knowing you and your tastes for donkeys years. Give the guy a break. At least he’s not buying something last minute on Christmas Eve…”

Why are so many women accepting of such a low quality and low effort experience from the men in their lives?! I bet they put in vastly more effort themselves (and probably do all other Christmas prep)…