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He’s done it again

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Soshitatgifts · 19/11/2023 09:51

Long time user with name change here!

Firstly I KNOW this is a bit of a non problem and I’m being a bit of a brat!

DH and I had a discussion and decided that Christmas would be pared right back this year -absolutely not an issue.
I told him all I wanted was a dressing gown and slippers, and due to previous history was very quite specific about the kind of thing I wanted, and only just stopped short of sending him actual link wish I had now. Basically a cosy but still “nice” dressing gown and fairly structure slippers which I could wear outside, hanging out washing etc-think faux sheepskin mules kind of thing.

He said to me this morning “don’t look at the Amazon account, there are deliveries coming for me”

Being me of COURSE I looked 😳and he’s ordered the most fucking hideous dressing gown, think oversized checked lumberjack shirt, and marshmallow like slippers.

AIBU to give it a couple of days and “innocently” bombard him with links to what I’d actually like? I’m a terrible actress when it comes to opening disappointing presents, and I know that no matter how cold it gets, I won’t be wearing that dressing gown!

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WiIIowT · 19/11/2023 18:03

What he chose is exactly what you described to him. Maybe his crystal ball wasn't working about the pattern...

Mirabai · 19/11/2023 16:37

Soshitatgifts · 19/11/2023 12:51

Soooo I just had a gentle conversation which went along the lines of …

I have a confession….You know how you said to not look at the Amazon account….

And he said “you hate them don’t you….send me a link to what you’d like” amd he laughed

Because thats how non difficult, non nasty grown ups who have a good relationship talk to each other….I didn’t want to hurt him by saying, even in a kind way that I hated his choice, even though I did, which was why I turned to mn in a light hearted way to get a spectrum of opinion as to what may be the best way to deal with it

This is what I’ve ordered ….still looking for slippers though

https://www.next.co.uk/g92321s11/n40389#n40389

That’s much better.

These slippers (like your DD’s) might go:

https://www.woolovers.com/womens/accessories/womens-sheepskin-mule-slipper-beige-10764

Mirabai · 19/11/2023 16:26

SweetBirdsong · 19/11/2023 13:58

I love 'lumberjack' style pyjamas (and shirts.) They actually sell them for women too!!! I know, shocking right! 😆

These are like mine. (I have pyjamas virtually the same as these 2 pairs here, and a shirt the same as the one pictured.)

What a bizarre thing to say about men who like to see these on women @wesurecouldstandgladioli 😂(What you said at 13.07. I'm not repeating it!) Never heard anything so ludicrous.

And you can’t distinguish between cotton lumberjack shirt/pjs and a pink fleece faux plaid dressing gown? 😯

SweetBirdsong · 19/11/2023 16:16

Soshitatgifts · 19/11/2023 14:43

It sure did!

don’t apologise, I could send you the link if you like 😉😂

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Thanks anyway @Soshitatgifts 😆

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CallieQ · 19/11/2023 15:48

Haven’t you just been deleted on the other thread for your comment about bitchy women? So not ridiculous.

Saying OP's husband is probably gay and calling that poster a misogynist is ridiculous yes

BebbanburgIsMine · 19/11/2023 15:29

@LuluBlakey1

I agree, the dressing gown alone is £56

In my world that's expensive.

OnlyFannys · 19/11/2023 15:28

If it makes you feel any better last year DP got me a flying squirrel onsie (not been worn since Christmas day) so this year I've tried to gently steer him in the right direction by asking for a necklace (I like slightly kooky jewellery like animals on them) and he has proudly declared he has bought me one and its "ostentatious and slightly goth" so needless to say I'm rather apprehensive...

Emotionalsupportviper · 19/11/2023 15:25

I would wear the dressing gown

Noe the slippers

BebbanburgIsMine · 19/11/2023 15:16

Posted too soon

I meant to say that £17 for slippers is very expensive for me, so I'd never buy them for myself, my £3 pair from Primark do me just fine!

I think you need to send links though OP, if those items are not to your taste, but I don't understand the poster who made the comment about Amazon clothes.

Mikimoto · 19/11/2023 15:13

DH choices seem far more up to date.
The "sheepskin" things are certainly chavalicious.

BebbanburgIsMine · 19/11/2023 15:11

I like them too, would be very happy with that dressing gown especially, looks lovely and cosy, £17 fo

Hibiscrubbed · 19/11/2023 15:09

Fucking hilarious that the posters who really seemed to be offended by the OP not liking the first gopping dressing gown are now being acutely rude about the lovely one from Next. 😂

Well done, OP. Handled like a champ. And you’re going to get something much more to your taste.

Branleuse · 19/11/2023 15:00

if you want something specific for a gift then you need to BE specific. Noones a bloody mindreader.

At least youve got it changed now

diddl · 19/11/2023 14:59

I love what you have ordered.

I also wouldn't call it cosy-I was looking at the M&S Teddy Borg Poncho-that's my idea of cosy!

Well at least you can talk to each other & sort things out-that seems to be a rarity on here!

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Soshitatgifts · 19/11/2023 14:51

@DustyLee123 lesson very much learned for the future!

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Soshitatgifts · 19/11/2023 14:50

JANEY205 · 19/11/2023 13:14

Being rude about it being from Amazon does make you sound an arse. I prefer the one he picked to the hideous one you ordered from Next 🫣 But then we all wear plaid in this house and love it! Your new gown reminds me of a Victorian housekeeper. I do only wear sheepskin slippers so am with you on that but I find it really childish you keep saying ‘it’s the principle of him needing to click a button.’ It’s obviously not when he did that and then you moaned. If you want something specific you do need to order it yourself. I’d never in a million years order that ugly next dressing gown for anyone, sorry.

I don’t have an issue with it being from Amazon per se, what I had an issue with is that if it doesn’t come from Amazon he doesn’t bother his arse to look anywhere else….anyway, all sorted now (apart from slippers!)

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DustyLee123 · 19/11/2023 14:48

It’s so disappointing and upsetting when money is spent on something you don’t want. Send the links in future, or buy yourself and give them to wrap.

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Soshitatgifts · 19/11/2023 14:43

SweetBirdsong · 19/11/2023 13:30

Wow, this has escalated! Shock

Anyhoo, @Soshitatgifts I am glad you will get what you prefer now. I also preferred what he got originally though (Sorry!) Blush

It sure did!

don’t apologise, I could send you the link if you like 😉😂

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MassageForLife · 19/11/2023 14:30

I do like the dressing gown you chose, but it's not really a cost warm one - better for spring and autumn than winter imo.

But glad it worked out well with good humour!

Guesswho88 · 19/11/2023 14:29

That dressing gown is smart, I like it.

Isometimeswonder · 19/11/2023 14:26

Did you have a bad experience with a lumberjack OP?
Is it a phobia?
(Ps.. just being light-hearted!!)

SawX · 19/11/2023 14:25

His choices were better than yours.

LardoBurrows · 19/11/2023 14:18

@Soshitatgifts
Well done for having the conversation and glad he was ok with it, I laughed when he said "you hate it don't you", he obviously knows you better than you think 😀. I like your choice of dressing gown, especially the length. WRT slippers, Celtic & Co do lovely sheepskin mules and like a pp I keep a pair of crocs by the back door for hanging out the washing and putting out the bins.

Geekynzmum · 19/11/2023 14:18

My DH is very much like yours, if I'm not specific then I get something I don't like. Still haven't forgiven him for the hideous scratchy pink jumper he got me one year.
These days I either show him exactly what I want, send him links or add it to an Amazon wishlist. Worked wonders for my birthday as I actually got stuff I wanted and needed!!! He even shared it with my mum as she's just as bad!!!!

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