My cake dilemma

Blimey, what a fuss about a kid's party. How old are they? It's the atmosphere and fun they remember, not the price of a cake. Fancy spending that on individual cupcakes.

If people want to bitch they will, and I think the individual cup cakes will bring out a few green eyed monsters. Nothing wrong with a supermarket cake for the candle, but then I'm the weird person who loves Costco cake.

Can't she blow out the candle on her own cupcake??

Cheap tray cake from the supermarket, £5/£6, all that’s needed here with a few candles to get the experience of blowing the candles out etc, honestly that will be absolutely fine and lovely

The kids won't care how the cake looks like and what that price of cake. Just bought one cake and cut it up.

Right. You absolutely need to put a candle in, and let her blow out the candle on her own cupcake. If you buy a cheap cake to blow candles out on its going to ruin the fact that these beautiful expensive cupcakes have been bought because people will assume that the blow out cake was her actual cake, then many won't even pay attention to what the kids are actually eating out of the party bag. Do as others have said make a tower out of the other boxes, put hers on top then I would possibly hand them straight out after she has blown the candle out

Your initial post says 3 lots of cake may be too much….. there’s no such thing as too much cake! 😂

£5.50 per cupcake for children seems OTT but you’ve chosen them as a special treat.

I got my 2yo a sainsburys cake which had sprinkles on and just threw a load of haribo/ party rings over the top. Fed 15 toddlers (or whoever ate it out the party bag, usually that’s me when he brings cake home) and cost less than £7. was I being “cheap” for sticking to my budget? Arguably but it was sound

Candles in Plasticine in a tin tray...

Everyone missing the bloody obvious. you didn't need to buy costly cupcakes in first cake. you buy birthday cake, put candles on it and sing Happy Birthday then candles off, hand to venue, cut by the venue for party bags. You made it way too complicated. This is a common part of Birthday parties at venues.

Can one of you or DH take the cake from the party to work? Quite often me and DH takes leftover cake from kids birthdays to work and it’s always hoovered up and highly appreciated. There was no way I could have made the cake DS wanted for his 4th birthday much smaller than I did but it was during lockdown so it was just the 3 of us at home so I sent it to my husbands work for them to eat (he works for the NHS so was still working in the hospital). I had to make him the cake he wanted given he couldn’t see anyone apart from me and DH.

Or remove daughter’s cupcake from the box and put a candle in that?

Oooh @User90121 thats a genius idea! A doughnut tower with a candle on top! I'm doing this next time 👏

Why not put the cupcakes all together on a “special” very nice plate, put the candles on those an have the blowing&singing? Cupcakes can then be distributed to the guests 😊

Cuthbert is the guy you need here.
Get thee to Aldi.

After you have spent so much on fancy cupcakes for kids who won’t even notice why do you care how much this other cake will cost? Waste of money and resources all round just for you to give yourself some brownie points to think the other parents will rate you for getting some fancy cupcakes?

I think you are completely overthinking this. I’ve been to many kids parties over the years, can’t say I remember or care if happy birthday gets sung!As it’s not her actual birthday for another 2 weeks I wouldn’t be bothered about it, sing happy birthday together then with the family.

I ordered these individual cake slice boxes and they prevented the cake from disintegrating in the party bags.

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Slice-Cake-Boxes/s?k=Slice+Cake+Boxes

https://groceries.aldi.co.uk/en-GB/p-holly-lane-cuthbert-chocolate-cake-625g/4088600460369

Do as others have said make a tower out of the other boxes, put hers on top then I would possibly hand them straight out after she has blown the candle out

Do this. Otherwise the fancy cupcakes won't even be noticed in among the party bags.

What a lot of overthinking.

You buy a supermarket cake, stick candles in it, she blows them out and you cut it up for party bags. Then have a nicer cake for her actual birthday if you feel like.

No-one gives a shit about the cake at a party.

Take out the DD’s cupcake, stick a number candle in, she blows, put it back in the box.

Don’t order cupcakes next year.

I’ve only ever bought cheap supermarket cakes for my kids. Parties cost a fortune and I’m not convinced anyone actually eat the cakes you send home. I know when we get cakes for the parties I’ve ended up eating them myself as the kids don’t like all the fondant or icing and often don’t like plain sponge!! Cupcakes were what my kids were worst with a they always have too much icing on. The cheap supermarket tray bake cakes are actually quit nice and many have longish dates on them.

Tesco do round cakes for £4 or less. A few different fillings to choose from and you could have it with a cuppa when you get home

My DC have been to numerous parties where a week later I’ve found the cake in the bottom of a party bag they’ve left somewhere.

My kids used to do this until once, ONCE! I ate the cake instead. The buggers never stopped going on about it, Stuffing the cake into their little mouths before they even got out of the car for YEARS, telling all their friends loudly that 'Mummy eats all their cake so they have to eat it quickly'!

I do think part of the party, particularly for young children is singing happy birthday and blowing out the candles. I remember going to one and there was no cake and it did seem slightly strange - and another one, the birthday cake was amazing (party was at home) but each child was given a cup cake, not birthday cake to take home. The cupcake was not in a box so we couldn't put it in the party bag (actually can't remember if there was a party bag but definitely couldn't go loose in any bag) and for some reason dh couldn't pick us up so had to walk almost a mile home in the freezing cold, holding a cupcake! Anyway cakes freeze well so just freeze and reuse for dd's actual birthday.