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Settle a long standing household debate

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Schleep · 15/11/2023 14:34

Inspired by the thread about milder vs cooler

If you are stood facing another person and they have something on their left cheek, where would you point on your own face to indicate this?

A. "Exact" - You point to your own left cheek, as the mark is on that part of their body
B. "Mirror Image" - You point to your right cheek, as if you were their reflection in a mirror

Whilst we have come to a strained cease-fire, the above has been very hotly debated between DP and I, and regularly causes confusion (and highlights how often I have muck on my face)

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ManchesterGirl2 · 16/11/2023 22:18

junbean · 16/11/2023 22:14

I always point to the correct cheek and the other person always wipes the wrong side! So it's only effective to point to the mirror side. I would personally wipe the correct cheek but I think I'm very minority on this because I've never met anyone else who does.

This is so interesting. I'm now wondering if it goes alongside any other traits? Are you right handed? Are you unusually good at rotatong things in your head? 😆

ManchesterGirl2 · 16/11/2023 22:15

Always mirror. It's the natural way humans work, right?

junbean · 16/11/2023 22:14

I always point to the correct cheek and the other person always wipes the wrong side! So it's only effective to point to the mirror side. I would personally wipe the correct cheek but I think I'm very minority on this because I've never met anyone else who does.

Barabajagal · 16/11/2023 22:13

Mirror image

Hankunamatata · 16/11/2023 22:10

Mirror Image

SunsetCurtain · 16/11/2023 22:05

I'm astounded this is even a debate.
It's clearly mirror image 😨

NeverDropYourMooncup · 15/11/2023 20:09

A kind way of putting it would be that DP has limited spatial awareness or proprioception. An accurate way of putting it would be reverse ambidexterity (generally crap with either hand), combined with the ability to get lost between the fridge and the sink if he doesn't cook every night and a 100% success rate in getting locations wrong.

Conversations used to be 'Where's....?'

'In the left hand cupboard on the left. Your left. Your other left. The one you write with. No, that's your right, you want your left. Fretting hand. Put your fretting hand on the cupboard door on the same side. THAT'S THE BATHROOM DOOR. AND YOUR RIGHT HAND. Fuck's sake - STAND STILL <takes hand> follow me. This is your left hand. It is on your left. This is the cupboard on your left. Open the cupboard door. KEEP USING YOUR LEFT HAND. There it is. See - on the left?'

These days, I cut out the chaff and just go straight to 'Fretting hand. Nose height.' if it's a good day and get up, walk to the kitchen and point him at whatever it is the rest of the time.

I can eyeball spaces to a 2mm tolerance and have a detailed three dimensional image of both the physical world and my thoughts at all times. He, however, makes it quite clear every day why he was strongly encouraged to pick History rather than Geography for GCSE.

In the OP's situation, I would have to put his hand on the dirt, as even physically pointing at it two inches away would lead to him putting his hand up to touch mine.

Thiswayorthatway · 15/11/2023 19:32

Mirror image

Dowhadiddydiddydum · 15/11/2023 19:31

I’d point at where on their face if they were close. If not then B

Ultravox · 15/11/2023 19:30

Mirror image

malmi · 15/11/2023 19:29

ScottBakula · 15/11/2023 15:23

Umm you have a 'North ' cheek ?

I mean technically I guess you do if you refer to your arse cheeks as your 'South ' cheeks. 😁

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Umm if you are facing East or West then yes you have a North cheek and a South cheek! Not sure how you worked that out!

ScottBakula · 15/11/2023 15:23

malmi · 15/11/2023 14:45

I use cardinal directions, i.e. "Your east cheek" or "your north cheek" (depends which way they are facing obviously). Then there is no ambiguity.

Umm you have a 'North ' cheek ?

I mean technically I guess you do if you refer to your arse cheeks as your 'South ' cheeks. 😁

OurfriendsintheNE · 15/11/2023 15:20

Mirror image, but it’s also a long standing disagreement between me and my DH

CanIPutTheTreeUpYet · 15/11/2023 15:16

Mirror, followed swiftly by saying 'other side,' when they go to the opposite of where I'm meaning.

Dotjones · 15/11/2023 15:15

Same side. If you indicate your right cheek I'll assume you mean it's on my right.

DuchessOfSausage · 15/11/2023 15:15

malmi · 15/11/2023 14:45

I use cardinal directions, i.e. "Your east cheek" or "your north cheek" (depends which way they are facing obviously). Then there is no ambiguity.

None at all, unless you don't know which way you are facing.

SuitYouSir · 15/11/2023 15:13

I mirror and DH doesn’t and neither will accept the other’s way! We don’t get angry about it but it’s become a silly thing between us 😀

Catza · 15/11/2023 15:11

Parents taught me that A is correct in these circumstances, however when I was doing my yoga teacher training, I was told to mirror but name "left" and "right". Having taught for over 10 years I tested both and I can tell you that 99.9% of people will mirror what you do (i.e. if you are moving right arm in front of them, they will move their left, even if you say "right"). So for practical reasons, option B.

Poppyseed14 · 15/11/2023 15:01

I'd do mirror image then he will automatically go to clean the other side which is usually out of my line of sight and then I have to say to him "THE SIDE I CAN SEE" 🙄

SnowLikeRain · 15/11/2023 14:47

Oh this is a subject of much discussion in our household. I mirror (B), which is obviously the most logical thing to do! DH was taught by MIL to point to the exact (A). He's learning.

Paperbagsaremine · 15/11/2023 14:47

Mirror image

user1483387154 · 15/11/2023 14:46

You point to the side that they see, exactly as kindergarten teachers teach their children left from right (in mirror image)

nadine90 · 15/11/2023 14:46

Mirror image

malmi · 15/11/2023 14:45

I use cardinal directions, i.e. "Your east cheek" or "your north cheek" (depends which way they are facing obviously). Then there is no ambiguity.

PestilencialCrisis · 15/11/2023 14:42

Mirror image