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To ask if your dcs resemble their siblings

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bubbleteais · 14/11/2023 12:17

I don't have kids yet but just got curious as I have noticed that some of my friends look like the splitting image of their sibling while some look nothing like their siblings. Very few are in between. I am an only.

Most friends who look like their siblings though tell me that they would rather not resemble their sibling that much. Do you /your dcs/ people you know like the resemblance between them and their siblings?

I have been reading articles on genetics so....

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bubbleteais · 14/11/2023 12:18

I looked like my dad when I was young and now I am a blend of my parents.

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Deathwillbebutapause · 14/11/2023 12:18

One of my brothers is me in girl form.

We are much closer to each other than to the other siblings who look different from us (more like our dad). It's more to do with personality, though.

CosyKnits · 14/11/2023 12:24

I don't look anything like my sister, which is a shame as she's gorgeous. We take after opposite sides of the family though.

My DD is an only, but she and her eldest cousin (on DH's side - his brother's child) look very alike. But eldest cousin looks nothing like her own sister, who takes strongly after her mother's family.

Genetics are fascinating.

DrinkingMyWaterMindingMyBiz · 14/11/2023 12:24

DCs are carbon copies of each other. DSis and I, not so much!

bubbleteais · 14/11/2023 12:26

CosyKnits · 14/11/2023 12:24

I don't look anything like my sister, which is a shame as she's gorgeous. We take after opposite sides of the family though.

My DD is an only, but she and her eldest cousin (on DH's side - his brother's child) look very alike. But eldest cousin looks nothing like her own sister, who takes strongly after her mother's family.

Genetics are fascinating.

Oh so does your DH look like his brother?

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bubbleteais · 14/11/2023 12:26

DrinkingMyWaterMindingMyBiz · 14/11/2023 12:24

DCs are carbon copies of each other. DSis and I, not so much!

Thats cute but do them enjoy resembling each other or not

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Sparehair · 14/11/2023 12:27

no, and even taking into account one is a boy and the other a girl, you wouldn’t put them together. Different hair and eye colours and completely different builds. People often think ds and his cousin are siblings as same colouring and eyes. Dd doesn’t look like anyone- possible mix up at the hospital but we’re used to her now so I guess she can stay 🤣

bubbleteais · 14/11/2023 12:27

Sparehair · 14/11/2023 12:27

no, and even taking into account one is a boy and the other a girl, you wouldn’t put them together. Different hair and eye colours and completely different builds. People often think ds and his cousin are siblings as same colouring and eyes. Dd doesn’t look like anyone- possible mix up at the hospital but we’re used to her now so I guess she can stay 🤣

oh no i feel bad for your dd

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Ozgirl75 · 14/11/2023 12:30

My eldest son has white blond hair, blue eyes, pale skin, his younger brother has dark brown hair and green eyes. They are a different build, their face shapes are different, even their teeth are different.
My eldest son facially resembles my DH but with my blonde hair and blue eyes. My younger son facially slightly resembles me (same jawline, teeth and nose) with my husband’s dark hair and green eyes.
Our family only make sense genetically when we’re all there together!

Namchange101 · 14/11/2023 12:30

My DC are not at all alike. One very Celtic looking - red hair, freckles, pale hair, blue eyes. One Mediterranean looking with dark hair, olive skin and brown eyes.
We have Celtic genes on one side and Eastern Europe on the other.
I agree, it’s fascinating!

bubbleteais · 14/11/2023 12:31

Ozgirl75 · 14/11/2023 12:30

My eldest son has white blond hair, blue eyes, pale skin, his younger brother has dark brown hair and green eyes. They are a different build, their face shapes are different, even their teeth are different.
My eldest son facially resembles my DH but with my blonde hair and blue eyes. My younger son facially slightly resembles me (same jawline, teeth and nose) with my husband’s dark hair and green eyes.
Our family only make sense genetically when we’re all there together!

Oh my gosh they sound handsome:)

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TeenLifeMum · 14/11/2023 12:31

When my dc used face app to turn me into a man the outcome was a hotter looking version of my brother 😂😂😂

My 3 dc look the same but 2 are identical twins. They look like their older sister.

Ozgirl75 · 14/11/2023 12:32

No one believes they’re related - even when they had a siblings photo done at school the photographer said “this is siblings only”.
Teachers who have had them both are always surprised when I turn up for parents evening with the second one (we have a very common surname)

Stressfordays · 14/11/2023 12:32

My dc are like peas in a pod. Everyone always says you can tell they are siblings. School loved it last year when they had the 'full set'. I look nothing like my brothers though. All 3 of us are very different. Weirdly though, despite my dc looking like their Dad, they look very much like my niece. So much so that when I took her on holiday with us this year, I got a lot of comments about how alike they were and everyone assumed they were siblings.

JustKen · 14/11/2023 12:32

In my youth I was a mix of Mum & Dad but the paternal side is winning through. All the women on Dad's side have the same look about them. My neice, nephew and brother have a mix of heritage but still look a lot like my brother.

My daughter has my chin but in many other ways looks like her paternal grandmother.

DelurkingAJ · 14/11/2023 12:32

There’s also the overlay of mannerisms that can make people who don’t instantly look alike much more similar. DSis (who is much more gorgeous than I am) and I sometimes spot someone watching us with real curiosity and it’s that they’ve realised that the way we talk and use our bodies when talking is pretty much identical.

Fifiellz · 14/11/2023 12:34

I've got 2 girls who now are older you have to look twice in pictures to tell them apart. They are practically twins born 3 years apart.

Me and my middle brother look exactly alike, if we use the faceapp app to change gender we turn into each other pretty much.

His daughter looks so much like me, much more so than my own daughters.

thaegumathteth · 14/11/2023 12:34

Ds and Dd do look quite alike but it's not immediately obvious because ds is blonde and blue eyed and Dd is dark haired and brown eyes.

I don't look anything like my siblings.

mindutopia · 14/11/2023 12:35

Yes, mine are very similar looking - but it's largely because they have very distinctive hair.

Funny enough, when we were visiting dh's aunt and uncle (on his mum's side) a few years ago, my then 2 year old ds found a photo on the wall of dh's (female) cousin at 2 years old, and was convinced it was him - and they did look identical! My eldest has a cousin that is a few years younger on the other side of the family (on his dad's side) and they also look identical. So it's very strange.

DrinkingMyWaterMindingMyBiz · 14/11/2023 12:35

bubbleteais · 14/11/2023 12:26

Thats cute but do them enjoy resembling each other or not

I love it. They have a large age gap and completely different personalities and interests (which I am happy about), but it’s nice to see something that visibly unifies them.

KnickerlessParsons · 14/11/2023 12:35

I have 2 DDs 18 months apart. Both in their 20s. Apple can't tell the difference between them on its facial recognition thingy.
They are similar, but I don't think they are that similar.

LubaLuca · 14/11/2023 12:36

My kids look like they're related - people who don't know them well comment on their similarities which I don't see. They're not all the same colouring or height, but there must be something that makes them look like they're from the same parents.

SallyWD · 14/11/2023 12:37

Yes! I have a boy and a girl and they have identical faces. My son has short hair and my daughter has long hair but their faces are the same. It makes me laugh when we use one of those face swap apps. They look exactly the same! You wouldn't know a face swap had taken place.

Jellycats4life · 14/11/2023 12:38

It really depends on how the genetic dice rolls!

I know plenty of siblings who look so unalike you wouldn’t even guess they were related. Including a pair of (fraternal) boy twins!

insertsomethingwitty · 14/11/2023 12:38

Three DCs, all the same sex. None of them look anything alike. Different colouring, builds, features. They don't look in any way related.

However, I do have a step DC who is the same age but different sex to my youngest. They have the exact same hair colour and enough similarity about them that they could easily pass as twins.