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To be angry at DH?

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Starsontheceiling · 12/11/2023 20:20

I woke up this morning and all of my hair bobbles (the spiral plastic type ones) had been stretched out of shape. DH admitted he had done it as he was "awake all night and bored". AIBU to be angry at him for this? DB thinks it's fine "because they are just hair bobbles", I'm going to have to get new ones now because every single one of them is stretched completely out of shape and are not usable now.

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return2sender · 12/11/2023 21:05

Cut a hole in his favourite boxers.

Silverstag · 12/11/2023 21:10

I put them on the radiator (in winter) or a sunny window sill in (summer). I find they stretch after just one use!

HorseySurprise · 12/11/2023 21:16

Reminds me of someone I used to know who used to put his wife's shower cap over the shower head to stop it dripping down his neck when he was in the bath - not much use after that for keeping her hair dry. He refused to stop because ... well I think he thought it was just a piece of effete feminine frippery and therefore not important like the back of his neck. She had to buy a new one and hide it in the bedroom.

Your hair bobbles are yours, he doesn't need them so therefore they aren't important.

BiscuitsandPuffin · 12/11/2023 21:28

EarringsandLipstick · 12/11/2023 20:27

For God's sake.

It's a bit of a daft thing to do - but they are hair bobbles. Not a priceless heirloom.

Yes he should buy a new pack, for all of €2 (if you were here in Ireland, so less again in £) but the vengeful reaction is ridiculous.

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Vengeful reaction? WTF?! Oh it's just you. 🙄

EarringsandLipstick · 12/11/2023 21:32

Vengeful reaction? WTF?! Oh it's just you.

Aren't you delightful?

Also you should stay up tonight and destroy every single one of something he needs for functioning so he doesn't have them tomorrow morning

This isn't vengeful?

(And both you & I posted before OP confirmed he wasn't prepared to replace them which is obviously another matter).

You've some very very odd ideas.

webster1987 · 12/11/2023 21:38

Put them in boiling hot water and they shrink straight back to original size.

Very odd of your DH to do this though!

Tilllly · 12/11/2023 21:50

Or put your DH in hot water? 😉

MonsteraMama · 12/11/2023 21:52

As a chronic fiddler I have ruined many of my own bobbles, but I'd never dream of ruining someone else's! Or at the least I'd grovel and replace them immediately.

Time to cut the big toe out of all his socks and refuse to replace them OP. Fight fire with fire.

rainbowsparkle28 · 12/11/2023 21:54

Initially when I was reading I thought meh not too much of a big deal but the fact he is refusing to replace what HE has damaged in full I would be angry as he is not taking responsibility or making any effort to make amends. He is just not bothered because it isn't his and doesn't affect him which is selfish. Pretty sure he would be annoyed if it was something of his. Be clear with him he will be replacing them whether he likes it or not. Amazon order with his card?! 🙄🤔

Yeahno · 12/11/2023 22:12

I have trouble believing that this man is usually respectful. He didn't apologize sincerely, he didn't try to resolve the issue by replacing what he broke and he is not taking full responsibility as he only wants to replace one. Did he fall and hit his head yesterday?

onetwothreeee · 12/11/2023 22:14

He needs to replace them all

You dont just break other peoples stuff because you are bored.

Doesnt matter if it costs 10p / £10 / much more, you just don't

FictionalCharacter · 12/11/2023 22:20

Starsontheceiling · 12/11/2023 20:28

I've already asked DH if he will be replacing them and he refused and said that I was overreacting.

What a knob. Why couldn't he ruin something of his own through "boredom"?

k1233 · 12/11/2023 22:26

I wouldn't stretch the elastic in his undies, I'd snip it on both sides. If he asked why I'd say I was feeling snippy...

bellocchild · 12/11/2023 22:26

Sew up one leg of all his underpants because 'you were bored.' If objects tell him he is overeacting.

Codlingmoths · 12/11/2023 22:27

I guess you cut up his trousers or 5 tee shirts because you’re bored? And obviously do not replace them!

YellowAutumnLeaves · 12/11/2023 22:29

Why does he feel the need to break your stuff OP? Very odd behaviour because he couldn’t sleep imo. Could he not have stretched the elastic on his boxers if he was bored? It’s not the principle of how much they cost, it’s the action of deliberately ruining things that were yours. Juvenile and absurd behaviour imo.

vipersnest1 · 12/11/2023 22:31

You could always get creative (this is assuming he wears shirts for work) and iron the word CUNT in creases on the back of them. If you whack the iron up full blast and turn off the steam it may well be permanent....

Isthatascratchonmygrandmother · 12/11/2023 22:33

I'd find this so baffling. Definitely snipp the toes off the old boys socks tonight OP.

Blessedbethefruitz · 12/11/2023 22:39

Completely off topic but I had to google these. Why are so many of you using them? Are they better for hair than normal hair bands?

But yeah, if dp did this to me I'd be fuming. He pays for replacements or gets to fuck. I've never destroyed his cables or anything when I couldn't get to sleep, what a weird thing to do.

Pokinganose · 12/11/2023 22:40

Echo those who say cut the elastic in some of his pants. In fact the same amount of pants as the bobbles he ruined. Invisibobbles aren't cheap but it's the principle of not giving a shit about disrespecting your things. If a child had done that there would be consequences.
Or bide your time and something will come along that equals what he has done. Eg last piece of cake that he wanted etc oh I ate it because I was bored. Why are my pants stretched across braches in the garden etc. Oh sorry I was bored. And repeat.

SwordToFlamethrower · 12/11/2023 22:57

Cut little holes in all his ties and say you were bored

Hollip · 12/11/2023 23:03

Was he angry you were sleeping and he couldn’t? I’d be looking for other signs of contempt. The act is odd (one I could understand, but many is very calculated) but his reaction to replacing them is very strange.

It makes me wonder if he is a malicious person.

Tinkerbyebye · 12/11/2023 23:03

Just feed him beans on toast for a few days and tell him the food budget for him has been spent on new bobbles

RandomButtons · 12/11/2023 23:21

Put all his underwear through on a 90 degree wash. Leave them wet in The machine.

caringcarer · 12/11/2023 23:25

He needs to go shopping and replace them tomorrow.