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Puppy problems

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Dilemmadilemma23 · 10/11/2023 13:35

Reaching out to see if anyone been in similar situation and can offer advice.

Earlier this year we tragically lost our dog at 18 months old. I was devastated. We were struggling without having a dog in our lives and knew we had so much to give so got a puppy 6 months later. We went for different breed.

It’s been a nightmare. She’s not settling down and is destroying the house and will not stop biting us. We have a one to one trainer but nothing helping.

I’ve also recently been diagnosed will an illness that makes life challenging. I haven’t bonded with this dog as I thought I would. I do everything for her but I miss my previous girl. I can’t stop crying and find each day hard. My partner thinks we should re home her whilst she is still young but I feel so guilty and like I have failed her. I also want it to work. I’m not sure what the answer is.

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Tooshytoshine · 10/11/2023 13:44

Ah this is tough...

Our dog was a savage and hard work puppy. We had to wear wellies in the house until she was about 8 months old as she would bite out feet and ankles. She destroyed everything - even ripping curtains, a door and refused to be house-trained.

She hit two years old and became a chill out merchant. She is now 12 years old. Our cat is currently asleep on her. But she is still not an easy or obedient dog. Tbh she is the worst dog we have ever owned but hands down my absolute favourite as her personality is hilarious and she is very cunning. I will be devastated when she passes.

She is not a dog for everyone and dog walkers etc either absolutely adore her or really dislike her. This puppy may not be for you and somebody else will adore them.

What breed or mix is your dog?

Lizzieregina · 10/11/2023 13:41

I wouldn’t allow her to destroy the house. She should be crated when you aren’t available to supervise. And then lots of exercise to tire her out when you do have time.

If you truly don’t think you can keep her, then contact your breeder and they should be happy to take her back and rehome her.

Dilemmadilemma23 · 10/11/2023 13:41

She’s a border terrier. 5 months old.

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Frequency · 10/11/2023 13:38

What breed and what kind of exercise and stimulation is she getting?

A working breed will need a "job" when young or they will find their own job eg destroying your house. I've also found that some high-energy dogs need teaching to be calm inside the house.

Nuca · 10/11/2023 13:37

How old is the puppy and what breed? It is really hard, harder than I ever could have prepared myself for!

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