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To feel dislike for this mum

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Lokihare · 09/11/2023 21:54

She always wears different clothes, her son boasts about having “a pool in his mansion” and a “tv in his toilet” 🙄
She constantly posts on instagram perfectly groomed pics of her family, they’re always going away to remote places during term time, she appears standoffish on school run and only talks to one other mum.

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YouWontHearTheLastOfIt · 09/11/2023 21:57

So she sends her kid to a state school yet apparently has a mansion? The kid is exaggerating, as kids do. She feels the need to justify her existence on Instagram. She sounds shallow, pathetic and ridiculous. I would dislike her but avoid her altogether (I certainly wouldn't even look at Instagram anyway)

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Lokihare · 09/11/2023 21:58

@YouWontHearTheLastOfIt yea it is b strange! Apparently she bout the house for 2 million!!! Don’t get why state school is hee choice

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mnahmnah · 09/11/2023 22:00

I teach in a state school and teach many students from incredibly privileged backgrounds. Money doesn’t always mean private school. Principles come into it too.

Ontheperiphery79 · 09/11/2023 22:01

Not everyone who is purportedly wealthy supports private education.

Are you suffering from an unhealthy case of inverted snobbery?!

idontlikealdi · 09/11/2023 22:01

Why are you following her o Instagram?

What are her different clothes?

You sound jealous and a bit unhinged.

KnowYouAreLoved · 09/11/2023 22:01

So she sends her kid to a state school yet apparently has a mansion? The kid is exaggerating, as kids do

What?! 😂 Plenty of kids at our local school in rather large old houses, with plenty of money swilling around. Some people just like the school?

Anyway as for the OP just ignore her! Just leave her be and get on with your own life. Its weird you'd give it this much thought, just let her do her thing and hope she's happy with her life, while you do your life as best you can.

BoredAuditor · 09/11/2023 22:01

Why do you care? Honest question. It's normal to feel dislike towards some people for many reasons - like it's normal to like other people for many reasons.

Fill your time with something else.

tescocreditcard · 09/11/2023 22:06

How do you know what's on her Instagram? Do you follow her? If so, why?

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Lokihare · 09/11/2023 22:07

@tescocreditcard a friend does and showed me

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dragonwaffle · 09/11/2023 22:09

YouWontHearTheLastOfIt · 09/11/2023 21:57

So she sends her kid to a state school yet apparently has a mansion? The kid is exaggerating, as kids do. She feels the need to justify her existence on Instagram. She sounds shallow, pathetic and ridiculous. I would dislike her but avoid her altogether (I certainly wouldn't even look at Instagram anyway)

How is that strange living in a million pound house and going to state school??

Lavender14 · 09/11/2023 22:10

You're just judging her on appearances. Yes yabvu. You don't even know her.

5128gap · 09/11/2023 22:10

Well she doesn't talk to you anyway, so it doesn't matter whether you like her or not, does it? It's not as though she wants to befriend you and you're in an awkward spot because you dislike her. Just carry on ignoring each other. She's nothing to do with your life.

theysaiditgetseasier · 09/11/2023 22:10

Why do you dislike her? There's a few mums like this at my daughters school, as long as they are not doing anything to me or my kid I couldn't give a toss, why do you care? Are you feeling envious?

justalittlesnoel · 09/11/2023 22:10

Why on earth would you dislike her? Because she wears different clothes? And goes on holiday? And has a child with a big mouth?

Maybe she's standoffish because she's sending all of these bad vibes coming from people like you 🤷🏻‍♀️

mondaytosunday · 09/11/2023 22:11

I wouldn't give her a second thought. There are plenty of mums of all shapes, sizes, ages and affluence. Some are nice some are not. Sone want to make friends some do not. Nothing to do with how wealthy they are. If she's your type of person why are you wasting time thinking about her?

gemloving · 09/11/2023 22:11

Why do you care mama? I feel as though these posts are written by unhappy people, sorry :(

Changednayme · 09/11/2023 22:11

They’re going to a mainstream primary school they aren’t nearly as well-off as you think

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Lokihare · 09/11/2023 22:12

@Changednayme so how do they afford the house and endless holidays?

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mollyfolk · 09/11/2023 22:12

She might feel a bit socially awkward and feel a need to portray a perfect life to people around her. Nobody has a perfect life.

my kids are on about having an en-suite (they have the master bedroom - we live in a small house) and that daddy has a jar of money in the cupboard 🤣It‘s a coin jar.

HamsterBanana · 09/11/2023 22:13

Oh no you're one of those school mums who stalks other mums online & judges them. No wonder she avoids you.

Changednayme · 09/11/2023 22:14

Lokihare · 09/11/2023 22:12

@Changednayme so how do they afford the house and endless holidays?

have you actually seen the house? Do you know where they live? Why don’t go online and report back how much it’s worth

Coffeerum · 09/11/2023 22:15

Lokihare · 09/11/2023 22:07

@tescocreditcard a friend does and showed me

Sounds like you and your friend need to get a life instead of stalking a random school mum you barely know and then bitching about her.

How dare she have nice clothes, a big house, go on holidays, send her kids to state school and have a friend!

MaisyAndTallulah · 09/11/2023 22:16

Feelings are all yours to have.

Sounds a bit silly though to be concerning yourself with someone you don't know. Your energy could be better spent.

PonyPatter44 · 09/11/2023 22:16

I would massively judge her for taking her kid out of school all the time, but the rest just sounds a bit random. Maybe they won the lottery, maybe they're drug dealers. Who knows, who cares, really?

Have you considered saying hello to her and seeing what happens?

bozzabollix · 09/11/2023 22:17

You can have an enormous house, tons of money and be very unhappy. My Aunt lived in a mansion, actually it did the opposite to make her happy, as people thought they weren’t up to socialising with someone from the ‘big house’ and she became isolated and an alcoholic. There would’ve been people round the corner in tiny houses that had it all in comparison.

My parents were way happier and we lived in a terraced house.