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Fuck fireworks

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FenFairy · 05/11/2023 19:09

Every single person setting them in their gardens is an arsehole.

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FenFairy · 05/11/2023 19:44

WeighDownOnMe · 05/11/2023 19:43

Probably the same way you're finding time to post on MN while your 3 year old sobs in terror OP...

He has this fantastic thing called a Dad

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BeadedBubbles · 05/11/2023 19:44

Burnoutwhat · 05/11/2023 19:30

Maybe you should have trained your dogs and taught your 3 year old about them/talked to them.

It's not like you didn't know this was coming. Not like you didn't know this happened annual when you had a baby or got dogs.

What about those of us with rescue dogs - one of ours has a very nervous temperament and is absolutely terrified by firework noise (and yes we have double glazing).

Wavescrashingonthebeach · 05/11/2023 19:44

Please do tell that to those who have lost loved ones due to gun violence.

The sparkles aren't shitty, they're delightful.

Ditto @pictoosh

Fwiw the fireworks genuinely don't bother me but I can't help but thinking of how the relatives of shooting victims must feel tonight:(

Ladymarycrawley1920 · 05/11/2023 19:45

Wholeheartedly agree op. Selling explosives to the general public really is not a good idea. We’ve had 3 weeks so far and frankly, my double glazing is excellent but it is really not designed to keep out the actual bombs that are going off. Most people pay £100+ to stand in their garden for 10 minutes, ohhh and ahhh….and scare the shit out of people around them. But, they simply do not care. As this thread amply demonstrates.

GrittyTunnocks · 05/11/2023 19:45

DappledThings · 05/11/2023 19:15

I love them. Hardly anyone seems to do them in their gardens these days. DC have been watching out of the window for ages tonight trying to catch some.

Much prefer seeing them to all the Halloween shit.

Agh I was going to like this but not only do I love fireworks, Halloween is my birthday and I love seeing people make the effort for me Halloween Smile

Dolallytats · 05/11/2023 19:45

There have been fireworks every day for, well, I don't even know how long. Fairly often whoever is doing it doesn't even start them until midnight. My poor dog barks her head off ( thank god for very understanding neighbours) and it drives me loopy...

Missingmyusername · 05/11/2023 19:45

tpxqi · 05/11/2023 19:41

Your nomination for the Pride of Britain awards is in. What with your selfless sacrifice and all.

👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻I thank you. I hope Ricky Gervais is presenting.

IWasFunBeforeMum · 05/11/2023 19:45

Got to say this year is the first year I've noticed the horrible crazy 'bomb' type ones that go off.. they're not cool at all but the others I can live with.

tpxqi · 05/11/2023 19:45

friendsfiend · 05/11/2023 19:43

I've trained my dog.
Done desensitisation/exposure work with them.
Put calming plug ins all over my house.
Got special jackets and other clothes.
Drugged them.

Nothing helps when they're frightened and stressed. Rescue dogs are often traumatised anyway. So they cower and cry and shit themselves and bark constantly getting more and more stressed. Some animals die from heart attacks due to the constant stress night after night.
People with PTSD, autism and other sensory difficulties are also suffering.
Babies and children are freaked out.

But you go ahead and enjoy your selfish bullshit entertainment.

Suffering?

Honestly, this place gets more and more batshit by the day. Suffering.

glossypeach · 05/11/2023 19:46

I have ptsd and the fireworks are a bit of a trigger and making me really on edge but unfortunately I do think you’re being unreasonable. I see people complain just about the noise or the noise regarding animals and whilst I understand that… the world doesn’t revolve around any of us. It’s just one day-week a year that people enjoy themselves with the fireworks. Let them enjoy themselves.

Turniptracker · 05/11/2023 19:46

Oh my god fucking yes I am having an absolute rage at these selfish arseholes setting off fireworks at fucking bed time when I am trying to put my toddler to bed after he has been a nightmare all day. I need some fucking down time. Fuck your fireworks!

SoupDragon · 05/11/2023 19:46

I bet the vast majority of the people whinging (who are a minority of people) loved going to fireworks and couldn't have cared less about anyone else before they had children/got dogs/got old and grumpy.

Sirzy · 05/11/2023 19:46

Ds is autistic. He is currently cuddled up with ear defenders on petrified.

I get people like them but they should be limited to organised displays at limited times.

WillowCraft · 05/11/2023 19:47

I'd rather ban dogs than fireworks. 365 days I can't get away from dog shit everywhere. At least fireworks are only a few nights. Not everything has to be about dogs

SoupDragon · 05/11/2023 19:47

I mean, it's hardly a surprise is it?

tpxqi · 05/11/2023 19:47

Wavescrashingonthebeach · 05/11/2023 19:44

Please do tell that to those who have lost loved ones due to gun violence.

The sparkles aren't shitty, they're delightful.

Ditto @pictoosh

Fwiw the fireworks genuinely don't bother me but I can't help but thinking of how the relatives of shooting victims must feel tonight:(

Yes because this is downtown Detroit, isn’t it?

friendsfiend · 05/11/2023 19:47

Pleaseme · 05/11/2023 19:39

I love fireworks. Lucky enough to have a really good free display nearby. Sponsored by a large, local business. Not a fan of people setting them off in the gardens as it’s upsetting for animals/ wildlife. I’ve not seen or heard any fireworks this year ( apart from display) to be fair.

Displays are fine and I'm genuinely glad people to and enjoy them. They're generally not in very built up areas, people know when they are and can plan. Then it's over in an hour.

People can probably cope for an hour.

Babyroobs · 05/11/2023 19:47

Currently locked in the downstairs toilet with dog shaking and clawing at my legs. third night in a row although this year hasn't been as bad as previous years. We now have the fun of Diwali to come as well where everyone in the neighborhood seems to let them off at all hours.

Wishihadanalgorithm · 05/11/2023 19:47

Only for proper displays I think. Regular people should not be able to buy them. They really are a nuisance.

YourNameGoesHere · 05/11/2023 19:48

SoupDragon · 05/11/2023 19:46

I bet the vast majority of the people whinging (who are a minority of people) loved going to fireworks and couldn't have cared less about anyone else before they had children/got dogs/got old and grumpy.

I've never actually liked fireworks or understood why people would go stand in a field in the rain to watch them however that's completely different to what happens where I live which is months of fireworks at all hours sometimes well past midnight set off with often no safety precautions.

warriorofhopelessness · 05/11/2023 19:48

They’ve been going since 5pm here. I would like to see them banned for home use. My cat is terrified never mind all the wildlife.

smilesup · 05/11/2023 19:49

Desecratedcoconut · 05/11/2023 19:21

Ah, bonfire night, the one night a year when cat owners give a shit about the local wildlife

😂.
I do hate fireworks as well. So bad for the environment and sets my asthma off. My dogs give not a shit though. We trained them from very young that fireworks are great despite us all finding them annoying, loud and neck aching.

Pooooochi · 05/11/2023 19:49

I've barely noticed it. My cats aren't fussed at all - far more skittish if a fox comes in the garden or if there's a big thunderstorm.

There were organised displays last night, they started around 6 & were done by 8. There's been a couple of smaller ones tonight. I've only noticed a handful of people setting them off at home, each time it lasted all of a minute.

Its a bit culturally inept to suggest they could be limited to a couple of hours tonight when Diwali isn't until next week.

WeighDownOnMe · 05/11/2023 19:49

WillowCraft · 05/11/2023 19:47

I'd rather ban dogs than fireworks. 365 days I can't get away from dog shit everywhere. At least fireworks are only a few nights. Not everything has to be about dogs

Yup. Wholeheartedly sick of untrained dogs shitting everywhere and jumping on people and 'oh he's adorable isn't he, just being friendly' while I sneeze my head off because I'm allergic.

I'll take a night of fireworks over the dogification of society (yes I made up a word and I'm sticking by it).

Babyroobs · 05/11/2023 19:49

WillowCraft · 05/11/2023 19:47

I'd rather ban dogs than fireworks. 365 days I can't get away from dog shit everywhere. At least fireworks are only a few nights. Not everything has to be about dogs

It's not just about dogs though is it ? It's about all wildlife, horses , veterans, people with PTSD, children trying to sleep.