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Fuck fireworks

634 replies

FenFairy · 05/11/2023 19:09

Every single person setting them in their gardens is an arsehole.

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FunCatSunPat · 05/11/2023 20:59

Desecratedcoconut · 05/11/2023 19:21

Ah, bonfire night, the one night a year when cat owners give a shit about the local wildlife

😂 💯
And about being "responsible neighbours". I'll give a shit about your cats when you stop them leaving little turds all over the garden for my 1yo to pick up. Cats are the lazy, irresponsible person's pet.

mydogisthebest · 05/11/2023 21:00

MissFancyDay · 05/11/2023 20:54

Are you actually serious, of course people are terrified of dogs!!

What a stupid thing to say.

I never said some people are not terrified of dogs but maybe understanding written words is not your strong point.

I said people are not sitting in their houses shaking with fear because of a dog outside are they.

Most of the time it is usually possible to avoid dogs to some extent. If a lot of your neighbours are letting fireworks off and not even all on the same night because oh that would be far too sensible then you can't avoid hearing them and/or seeing them.

Despite posters saying they don't sound like bombs, they bloody do and you can't drown the noise out. I have tried with tv and music but it's impossible. They go on for night after night after night for a good few weeks.

knowthescore · 05/11/2023 21:01

BeeDavis · 05/11/2023 20:59

Well 3/4 nights when it’s legal to set them off for all 365 days isn’t too bad I’d say. And I have a dog and a kid, we don’t make a big deal out of it, we’ve all sat at the window earlier watching them together. This is not a new thing I don’t know why people bother moaning every single year.

It's not just 3-4 nights. It's been over a week already here.

CardamomGarden · 05/11/2023 21:01

What's with all the posts talking about it isn't like it used to be? I was a child in the 80 and 90s, my dad always ended up getting some dodgy event fireworks off a mate in the pub and we'd have them in the garden. There was a LOT more banger ones going off in people's gardens than now.

I was one of those people and I can only speak from my experience, but it certainly has become a bigger, louder deal from what I remember as a kid. We always had fireworks, but they were a lot quieter. I remember some people had rockets that were louder and more spectacular, but there weren’t dozens of them going off from multiple gardens. My impression is that people are buying bigger, more expensive fireworks in greater number.

ChickHenLittle · 05/11/2023 21:01

Should be organised displays only.

User0000009 · 05/11/2023 21:01

WeighDownOnMe · 05/11/2023 20:45

Jesus Christ!

There's so many people on here acting as if it's normal to call people cunts and wankers for having a different opinion on something.

It's pretty horrible actually. Like fuck would any of you have the balls to talk to people like that in real life.

I’m assuming you do? Bet your neighbours love you

Furrydogmum · 05/11/2023 21:02

YANBU! Display fireworks have been going off every night for a couple of weeks now. One of my lovely elderly dogs is terrified, I thought she was going to have a heart attack this evening as it ramped up even more. My sister got her kids some quiet fireworks - they were pretty and perfect for the garden.
I feel so sorry for wild animals, we've been sat petting our girl with classic FM blaring out all evening, I know our local stables lost a foal last year 😞

Inastatus · 05/11/2023 21:02

@CornishGem1975 - oh right, then yes, I agree with you on that.

creativegoblin · 05/11/2023 21:02

This thread is why we can't have nice things.

HeathrowQuestion · 05/11/2023 21:03

@FenFairy thats pretty revolting to claim you’re traumatized by the events in Gaza and that fireworks are triggering, unless you’re actually in the ME, or have personal or work connections there.

canonlydoblue · 05/11/2023 21:04

My 1 and 4 year olds have been stood by the window trying to spot the fireworks all evening. They're loving it. I've never actively trained them not to be scared, just not over-reacted when I hear a loud noise or see a flash. Do you get cross about thunder and lightning as well? You could try engaging your child with what they're hearing and seeing instead of likening it to an actual war zone. Or provide them with ear defenders?

ElevenSeven · 05/11/2023 21:04

ChickHenLittle · 05/11/2023 21:01

Should be organised displays only.

Nope, they’re not allowed either, according to OP. They’re for sadists

Lachimolala · 05/11/2023 21:04

Why don’t you try ear defenders for your child? Have you got white noise on? I have a lot of luck with these for my SEN child. Talking about fireworks and looking at YouTube videos helped a lot too.

Is the dog medicated and crated with a blanket over? My cats are in a big cardboard box under a blanket with the radio on. Seems to be working.

I love fireworks but I do think they shouldn’t be sold to the public, and kept to certain hours of the day/evening in an organised display.

mydogisthebest · 05/11/2023 21:04

SheWhoShallNotBeNameChanged · 05/11/2023 20:57

Haha are you actually kidding now 😂comparing fireworks to bombs?! You’re sounding worse and worse with each reply. Very few people in this country are traumatised by fireworks and comparing them to bombs, just the unstable few like you. The ones who are actually traumatised from the conflicts are living it or have lived it and I guarantee you they have better shit to worry about than others doing some fireworks. You are absolutely disgusting comparing the two.

But they do sound like bombs. Maybe you are lucky and no one near you uses the bomb sounding ones but they certainly do where I live and where I used to live.

I have heard a bomb going off so I know exactly what they sound like

Didshejustsaythatoutloud · 05/11/2023 21:05

Cost of living crises! Where? The schemes seem to be putting on magnificent displays this year, 😆.
Think the Scottish gov. will ban them for public use in the next couple of years here though

unhingedminge · 05/11/2023 21:06

I think they should be illegal for general purchase and that there should be one brief display in each area for people who love them to enjoy and that is it. Our council has stopped doing the big display and as a result we have had non stop fireworks all weekend, all week really with loads of families putting on their own garden displays. All small but if every few houses has one it equates to constant noise and smoke, not fair on animals or people with anxiety.

TheFretfulPorpentine · 05/11/2023 21:06

Fulshaw · 05/11/2023 20:59

I’ve never seen a link made between fireworks and veganism before. Fascinating.

I haven't either, but I love a nice sausage bap after the fireworks and bonfire.

Goldenbear · 05/11/2023 21:06

mydogisthebest · 05/11/2023 21:00

I never said some people are not terrified of dogs but maybe understanding written words is not your strong point.

I said people are not sitting in their houses shaking with fear because of a dog outside are they.

Most of the time it is usually possible to avoid dogs to some extent. If a lot of your neighbours are letting fireworks off and not even all on the same night because oh that would be far too sensible then you can't avoid hearing them and/or seeing them.

Despite posters saying they don't sound like bombs, they bloody do and you can't drown the noise out. I have tried with tv and music but it's impossible. They go on for night after night after night for a good few weeks.

Is it, I am allergic to dogs went in three pubs in succession to get away from dogs and in every pub they were present. I was in the shopping centre in the city I live in and a dog came in to the shop, I didn't even know the dogs were allowed in that shopping centre. So how easy is it to avoid dogs really these days. Got attacked by one walking to my local Sainsburys, got the whole, he's not usually like that, it's just that it is late and you are running past so he was probably not expecting it. So sorry didn't realise I had to check whether I could go past your front garden, in a rush before the shop closed. So to say you can avoid is not really true.

didistutter56 · 05/11/2023 21:07

We have them nightly for at least a few weeks around here. They’ve been going off for over 4 hours non stop tonight, and I’m not exaggerating. There hasn’t been longer than 15 seconds without one. Luckily my dogs aren’t arsed but my cats aren’t enjoying them!

FourChimneys · 05/11/2023 21:08

All those concerned about veterans might like to note that the biggest public display here is hosted by the army camp. It is oversubscribed each year, tickets sell out very fast.

MissFancyDay · 05/11/2023 21:09

mydogisthebest · 05/11/2023 21:00

I never said some people are not terrified of dogs but maybe understanding written words is not your strong point.

I said people are not sitting in their houses shaking with fear because of a dog outside are they.

Most of the time it is usually possible to avoid dogs to some extent. If a lot of your neighbours are letting fireworks off and not even all on the same night because oh that would be far too sensible then you can't avoid hearing them and/or seeing them.

Despite posters saying they don't sound like bombs, they bloody do and you can't drown the noise out. I have tried with tv and music but it's impossible. They go on for night after night after night for a good few weeks.

Yes it's so, so, easy to avoid dogs.

Whereas fireworks ooooh nooo...they ruin your life. Wow you've convinced me 😒

LittleMooli · 05/11/2023 21:10

FourChimneys · 05/11/2023 21:08

All those concerned about veterans might like to note that the biggest public display here is hosted by the army camp. It is oversubscribed each year, tickets sell out very fast.

So that's an organised and publicised display. Not random gardens firing rockets.

ElevenSeven · 05/11/2023 21:10

unhingedminge · 05/11/2023 21:06

I think they should be illegal for general purchase and that there should be one brief display in each area for people who love them to enjoy and that is it. Our council has stopped doing the big display and as a result we have had non stop fireworks all weekend, all week really with loads of families putting on their own garden displays. All small but if every few houses has one it equates to constant noise and smoke, not fair on animals or people with anxiety.

People with anxiety are by nature, anxious. It is not for the world to stop to pacify them.

1smallhamsterfoot · 05/11/2023 21:11

Try teaching your kid some resilience maybe so he’s not wailing and lamenting?

Atethehalloweenchocs · 05/11/2023 21:11

Restricting fireworks to organized displays would be safer and would also mean people around would know what to expect when. We have them going off at 11 and midnight here - which is a really asshole thing to do.