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Life after lockdown

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delisane · 04/11/2023 19:43

Anyone else feel meh after the pandemic and lockdowns? I'm not sad or depressed. I just feel like nothing matters anymore. I am much more authentic and I'll say what's on my mind.

Before lockdown I used to care so much about things but I don't stress as much now.

It's made me kind of hard in a way. I used to be so soft but I was hurt during lockdown like everyone else.

I have twins and we couldn't afford childcare so I cared for them solo throughout lockdown while my husband worked. I saw people slam doors in each other's faces due to the very legitimate fear of covid.

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LadyMacB · 04/11/2023 21:10

I don’t feel any different than before. It all seems like ages ago, I’ve moved on.

Wellyrambles · 04/11/2023 21:08

tpxqi · 04/11/2023 20:35

You are not wrong OP. Lockdowns were a mistake of criminal propositions that have damaged people in many ways. Broke the country financially, ruined children’s life chances and mental health and made adults suffer in ways far worse than Covid itself. But hey, this is MN. The most moronic people people here were complaining about their neighbours leaving the house more the once a day, outraged by people not wearing the pointless masks properly, not following the one way signs in supermarkets. And asking advice on how they could furloughed. And other batshittery of that kind.

Thank fuck not everyone was as selfish and arrogant as you and that scumbag Boris Johnson ,otherwise their would be mass graves and a complete irreversible breakdown of the NHS.

Of course, lockdown had its negative effects, but the alternative would have been more horrific.

Pipistrellus · 04/11/2023 21:02

I think it's odd that some people have just picked up where they left off, I don't see how it could not change a person.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 04/11/2023 21:01

I think I feel a certain PTSD from it, and sounds like you’ve got it too.

I definitely overreact to any suggestion of working with kids in the background.

I also have a feeling of not being able to rely on anyone any more

Bankholidayboredom23 · 04/11/2023 20:59

Surprised at the first responses to this. Feels like not long ago there was a similar post and dozens of people agreed with the OP.

Lolaandbehold · 04/11/2023 20:59

I loved lockdown even though I ignored all of the so called “rules”. Met friends, went out several times a day. Went on holiday. Etc etc. And it’s changed my work life balance for the better in so many ways. I work in an industry where WFH would never in a million years have been a thing and now it is.
I caveat the above by saying that I’m sure I would feel vastly different if I had lost a loved one and wasn’t able to hug them or say goodbye. I can imagine I’d be absolutely haunted by that.

TheKnittedCharacter · 04/11/2023 20:56

I think it's really not normal to be letting something that happened years ago still affect you to this degree. I honestly don't know of anyone who has been affected by lockdowns.

Could you consider counseling?

MrsCuthbertson · 04/11/2023 20:56

Lockdown feels like a lifetime ago. DD was in Yr10 and, as soon as she was allowed, eagerly went back to school, sport and part time job - as did all of her friends.

Everyone I know just picked up where we left off and didn't catastrophise.

BetiYeti · 04/11/2023 20:50

Lockdown changed a lot of my friendships. People I used to see lots now don’t want to come out and do stuff as much. I generally find people more flakey, whether that be friendships or work colleagues. I try and live more in the moment since lockdown.

Ratfinkstinkypink · 04/11/2023 20:44

I don't stress as much now as I used to and I am better at speaking up for myself. Lockdown made an awful time even worse in our house, I don't think life can ever be quite so hard again.

Bluevelvetsofa · 04/11/2023 20:42

Lockdown ruined everything. I’ve had to give up doing things I really enjoyed, I’ve lost social contacts and am getting very reluctant to go out and do things.

Dacadactyl · 04/11/2023 20:37

I don't feel any different now than I did pre-lockdown. I did take it all with a very big pinch of salt and was out and about walking/having picnics every day with the kids. I found it quite a chilled time tbh (altho I did hate home schooling).

tpxqi · 04/11/2023 20:35

You are not wrong OP. Lockdowns were a mistake of criminal propositions that have damaged people in many ways. Broke the country financially, ruined children’s life chances and mental health and made adults suffer in ways far worse than Covid itself. But hey, this is MN. The most moronic people people here were complaining about their neighbours leaving the house more the once a day, outraged by people not wearing the pointless masks properly, not following the one way signs in supermarkets. And asking advice on how they could furloughed. And other batshittery of that kind.

wyse · 04/11/2023 20:30

I think that we are nearly into 2024 so the Covid lockdowns are now part of history. Seems odd that you are still dwelling on this. Most people's recreating to get on with life

GiantToblerone · 04/11/2023 20:28

I don’t worry so much about the future anymore and live much more in the present. That’s about it.

Karev · 04/11/2023 20:25

I don't feel any different at all...

Uggquestion · 04/11/2023 19:47

I think there's probably more to this than lockdowns. You might find counseling helpful. Something about what you're saying leaves me feeling like there are gaps in your understanding of your experience.