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Is it normal to write lists every day?

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Collagenmeeverywhere · 03/11/2023 18:29

On my notes on my phone, I have daily things needed to be done, generally a week or two in advance. Things are written for each day, food shopping, call insurance, ballet with Dd etc. I then have a list for the food shop and meals made that week. Is this normal, do you do this or is it over the top? I would like to just be list free I think, but I just can’t.
I’m a teacher (not full time or a class teacher anymore) but spent so many years of my life with daily/monthly/termly plans, that I think it just became part of me.
It just feels quite boring to be so structured, is it uptight? Sometimes I even find myself putting ‘Wash hair’ on the list, that’s weird right? 😬

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girlfriend44 · 03/11/2023 20:18

I wouldn't put washing hair on my list as I just know when my hair needs doing.

Clarinet1 · 03/11/2023 20:09

I make lists of all sorts - my daily plans are usually noted down towards the end of the previous day. Some end up getting transferred if I haven’t actually achieved them but at least that helps me keep track of what I should be doing and avoid missing deadlines and major commitments. However I do put down things I know I will actually do like “dinner” “weight” (mine, first thing every Sunday!)
I am quite pleased with myself for recently writing a list of all my direct debits and standing orders in date order which I then photographed on my phone so I can easily check that things have gone through without having to look for paperwork!

Royalbloo · 03/11/2023 20:09

I adore a list. And adore more checking things off it x

Royalbloo · 03/11/2023 20:09

Yep, 100%

Mumaway · 03/11/2023 20:06

It's totally normal and acceptable. Google Keep was invented just for me, and also functions as a very effective torture device for DH when I share my lists! I also put lots of stuff as reminders in my calendar.

bakewellbride · 03/11/2023 20:06

I have a daily to do list on the notes on my phone, I need it to function! Every night I sit there with my diary and write tomorrows list

AdaColeman · 03/11/2023 20:05

It's perfectly normal to make lists.
It helps you to get organised, and when you can cross an item off as completed, you can feel you've achieved something.

On bad days, I might add something to my list that I know I've already done, just so I can cross it off! not really
Occasionally I worry that I've got list of lists!

catwithflowers · 03/11/2023 20:03

I make one for my day and it's just me and my husband, kids have left home. I love ticking things off; it gives me a bizarre sense of achievement 😂

LindorDoubleChoc · 03/11/2023 20:01

I write lists but then don't look at them for weeks on end. I know I have adhd because my life is barely managed chaos and if I start any chore I am bored within 30 seconds. But it is what it is.

AuntieObnoxious · 03/11/2023 19:59

Perfectly normal, I love a daily list

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 03/11/2023 19:59

I'm a teacher too. For years when I was doing part time, supply etc I used a bullet journal and kept daily and monthly detailed lists, which helped me keep track of home stuff, plus work hours etc. Now I'm back to ft teaching and am a head of subject, I just use Microsoft To Do for job tasks, but I don't have time to make whole-life lists. Household stuff just gets done eventually, hopefully.

MargaritaHargitaysLittleSister · 03/11/2023 19:56

I write lists to REMIND me to look at other lists ! Somewhat smug as 88% of people also write lists according to your poll 🤣

Bella43 · 03/11/2023 19:56

I use the calendar on my phone to plan things throughout the week and do more at the weekends. If I don't do this, things will build up and then I get stressed so no, you're not being unreasonable. It's an organised way to manage your daily life. I love a list ♥

RabbitsRock · 03/11/2023 19:53

I love lists! Couldn’t function without them!

Createausername1970 · 03/11/2023 19:50

Another vote here for various lists. My choice is an exercise book, or similar size. I usually start the day with a cup of tea, looking at my list(s). Anything and everything goes on my list from "hoover the stairs" to "need a new car".

I am more likely to remember it if I physically write it down. Phone lists or computer lists don't do it for me.

Popskipiekin · 03/11/2023 19:48

Lists are the best. It frees my headspace so I can think of other things, or enjoy some peace. I know I won’t forget, because … it’s on the list! And I get a real sense of achievement after ticking off list items, to the extent I’m quite disappointed if I do something and it wasn’t on the list in the first place. I have sometimes found myself adding on things so I can tick them off … too much?? 🤣

merrymelodies · 03/11/2023 19:45

I love lists. Food shopping without a list always causes havoc and I invariably spend way more than I should.

Lists are essential! Smile

MissMarplesNiece · 03/11/2023 19:44

I'm a list maker. It helps me plan and keep on top of things which in turn helps with my mental health.

coxesorangepippin · 03/11/2023 19:43

I don't do this every day, no, but I do have mental lists in my head

The other day was particularly busy, so I made a list:

Halloween
Lunch for work
Anniversary
Child A - dentist

Which all happened in the space of 24 hours

diamondpony80 · 03/11/2023 19:41

I love lists - I have list apps, habit trackers etc. and I like a good old fashioned paper list too. I don't get everything done, but they do help me get more done than I would without one.

VelvetUndergrounds · 03/11/2023 19:37

Collagenmeeverywhere · 03/11/2023 18:57

Phew ok 😅

I sometimes want to have no lists though..just a spontaneous life of what will happen next? But I think I’d have to plan that too…somehow 😂

Oh, I'm super spontaneous! My husband says that I make a weekend list of things that will never happen x

VelvetUndergrounds · 03/11/2023 19:36

TheShellBeach · 03/11/2023 18:39

I love lists and they help to make me feel secure.

Yes!

PumpkinPie2016 · 03/11/2023 19:35

I have lists - I'd never remember everything otherwise! Interestingly, I teach (still full time) and all of my colleagues use lists too 😀

I have a work list - usually split into various sections like form stuff, individual class stuff, HoD jobs and other.

At home, I note similar things to you.

Imo you can't beat a good list.

EnjoythemoneyJane · 03/11/2023 19:32

No, not weird at all. I love me a list, including stuff like ‘do nails’ - I’ve even been known to write a task on after it’s been done, just to have the satisfaction of ticking it off!

I can’t imagine how anyone can function without them tbh - mine are totally chaotic (loads on my phone, others on paper, some on a wall calendar) and nobody else would have a hope of deciphering what goes where, but I’d forget just about everything otherwise. Not on a list, not gonna happen. So no, I don’t think you’re being rigid or over-structured at all. Dealing with general life shite is a PITA so whatever helps you minimise stress and keep everything on the rails has to be a good thing.

Milliemoos5 · 03/11/2023 19:14

Fab that that is works best for you l!