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Is it normal to write lists every day?

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Collagenmeeverywhere · 03/11/2023 18:29

On my notes on my phone, I have daily things needed to be done, generally a week or two in advance. Things are written for each day, food shopping, call insurance, ballet with Dd etc. I then have a list for the food shop and meals made that week. Is this normal, do you do this or is it over the top? I would like to just be list free I think, but I just can’t.
I’m a teacher (not full time or a class teacher anymore) but spent so many years of my life with daily/monthly/termly plans, that I think it just became part of me.
It just feels quite boring to be so structured, is it uptight? Sometimes I even find myself putting ‘Wash hair’ on the list, that’s weird right? 😬

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CharlotteBog · 03/11/2023 21:56

I don't know or care if it's normal but I love my lists.
Sunday night I do my weekly list, carrying over things which aren't done, and adding new things: birthdays, appointments etc. as well as looking at my work google calendar. This is in an A5 hardback notebook.
Then each day I write on one of those paper blocks; food items I need, meetings, sport times, people I need to message etc.

I very much need to write things down and then cross them off.

In the evening I might also write a list of jobs; laundry, washing up, bins etc.
It frees my mind to listen to the radio or audio book.

BananaPalm · 03/11/2023 21:51

Lists give me mental freedom - I put things down so that I don't have to keep thinking about them. Or keep reminding myself that I need to buy x y or z...

Pussygaloregalapagos · 03/11/2023 21:50

Hope so!

Happiestonthebeach · 03/11/2023 21:48

I was like a lot of posters on the thread- loved a list, made me feel organised, and thought it helped keep me productive.
then my mental health declined and actually, the lists became an obsession- couldn’t leave the house without having multiple lists, panic attacks if I thought I’d lost a list etc.
i felt the lists were controlling me and seeing everything there made me feel overwhelmed.
I need to find a happy medium, along with the rest of my MH issues.

ManchesterLu · 03/11/2023 21:48

Nothing's better than ticking items off a list! Sometimes I add things to my list that weren't on it that I've done, just so I can tick them off!

Whatever works for you, whatever makes you content and productive :).

Royalbloo · 03/11/2023 21:43

I disagree - whatever works for you works for you x

HundredMilesAnHour · 03/11/2023 21:41

Sounds OTT to me (you need to put "wash hair" on a list?!!) but if it works for you, embrace it.

orangetriangle · 03/11/2023 21:39

I do this on my phone in my notebook ie pen and paper on my weekly planner in my diary and on my calendar!!!

Mopbucketmoo · 03/11/2023 21:38

Every morning with my first coffee i write a list for the day. Things I need to do, what's for dinner and whats needed from the shop that day. Would be lost without my lists

BertieBotts · 03/11/2023 21:32

I have ADHD and have always struggled with lists but I'm getting into using them more now I'm on medication.

I find it really helpful, but I'm getting a bit mixed up with my lists currently, I never know what to put on them. So I currently just have a big master list with everything that I have a vague thought "oh I should do that" it immediately goes into the list. I don't really like having a daily list as I just tend to focus on doing one thing at a time. Maybe I should though.

Then there's recurring tasks like washing hair, filling up the dishwasher, exercising etc which I want to do regularly but can't really go on the list because even if I tick them off they need to be done again. So those are like a different set of lists in another column, so I can quickly glance at them and check how recently I've done it and whether it needs to be done again.

There's a "backburner" list for things that start off on the master idea dump list but get taken off because I think yes although I do want to do that, I don't need to focus on it right now.

When the master list gets a bit long I start to put urgent markers or deadlines on certain items on it.

But then there are tasks or goals which have multiple steps, so far I've been just putting the next step that I need to do on my list and replacing it once it's done with the next step. But I feel like I should probably write down the entire sequence of those somewhere so that I have it sorted out somewhere in order that I don't forget it. Maybe put any rough deadlines on that one too.

Does anyone have any suggestions/input for me?

Fairtobefairohhhhhc · 03/11/2023 21:19

Lists stress me out. A bit of organised chaos is the only bit of excitement in my life right now 😂

Royalbloo · 03/11/2023 21:01

This was mine! Re-heel witchy boots!

Is it normal to write lists every day?
maddiemookins16mum · 03/11/2023 20:59

I have a yellow notepad.
Today it said

Breakfast 😂😂
Write shopping list/menu
Recycling
book MOT with Dave
Take shorter lunch and finish at 3.45
Aldi
Pizza/coleslaw for tea.
Has the Amazonian man delivered the brush - track him
Ask MIL about Sunday dinner.

I even tick them when done.

stormyslippers · 03/11/2023 20:51

Normal in life and encouraged in my industry! We even have software that works out your daily lists based on your inbox and project tasks. it includes things like "Take lunch" and "rest your eyes!"

My Gran was famous for her continuous list making!

Papyrophile · 03/11/2023 20:50

I do spontaniety in the afternoon, after I have discharged the chores that have to be done, and i try to do those in the morning, to keep my afternoon clear,

CherrySocks · 03/11/2023 20:44

Lists are brilliant but you could also free up your calendar for a Day of Spontaneity every so often if you want to try it out !

Papyrophile · 03/11/2023 20:42

It does work, most of the time, honestly.

Papyrophile · 03/11/2023 20:41

I have three calenders, one for the here and now. another for 2024 planning and one to coordinate them.

NannyGythaOgg · 03/11/2023 20:36

Collagenmeeverywhere · 03/11/2023 18:57

Phew ok 😅

I sometimes want to have no lists though..just a spontaneous life of what will happen next? But I think I’d have to plan that too…somehow 😂

I use google calendar, adding tasks to the day. Things that come up weekly, 4 weekly, monthly, yearly or whatever regular occurence will automatically fill in forever. Also it's very easy to reschedule if something changes

Collagenmeeverywhere · 03/11/2023 20:34

@MafsisNafsbutcompelling No, I don’t think so, I think I’m far too organised to have adhd, if you see what I mean? I’m just wondering if I should be less rigid and abandon the list from time to time.
I’m actually happy as I looked at next weeks list and from Tuesday to Sat morning…there’s nothing on it (as of yet anyway) 😅this is after what feels like weeks of 5/6 things on the list every day.

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Vettrianofan · 03/11/2023 20:33

I write it down too. Otherwise I forget.

Doggymummar · 03/11/2023 20:32

No I don't but I put tasks in the Google calendar so today was optitian 9.00 volunteering 1045 to 4.30 dog sitting 2.30 4.30 but I wouldn't put clean teeth brush hair get dressed etc on a list. That's every day stuff.

EveryOtherNameTaken · 03/11/2023 20:26

I love lists. I have loads on the go all the time both on my phone and written, at home, at work. I even look forward to relaxing and writing a few lists! 😂

WhatHaveIFound · 03/11/2023 20:22

Completely normal for me. I have an A4 book on my desk for my daily work lists plus reminders on my phone for things I think of in the middle of the night. Also a shared shopping list on the phone which family can add to/go shopping for.

I need to start a separate list for all the things I have to sort out for my parents next!

saturnspinkhoop · 03/11/2023 20:22

I love a list too. I have an on-going to do list, lists for individual projects, lists for each day and sometimes a list of tasks for a single evening. I definitely feel more in control and on top of things with my lists. Once I’ve written it down, I don’t need to worry that I’ll forget it.